Rich Girl Or Poor Girl

[jode]

I have to admit that sometimes i am envious of guys on this forum who say they have great and satisfying social experiences with their wives/gf's family. Some here even say they are satisfied with the social interaction with family and nieghbors and its all they need to be happy.

I assume these are guys who chose a woman from what is considered a rich family here. That is one whose members have college educations and good jobs in the community or else own a substantial business. A college education here usually means substantial english ability and the ability to get a better job and live in something besides a hut.

If you chose a poor girl, her family probably know little english, and maybe are more scattered between city and province and the chances of finding a satisfying social group to feel comfortable in with them are less. They will live in huts without comforts for social gatherings.

I couldn't blame anyone for rejecting poor girls for those with more education and well off families. It is one of those things like age and location that one should decide upon when deciding what woman can be the one for you to spend the rest of your life with, and thus where to look for love.

Edited May 28, 2012 by jode

[Old55]

An educated Filipina from a family with the means to support themselves was my choice over fourteen years ago. Because we love each other. :-kiss:

Edited May 28, 2012 by Old55

[Adventurer]

it does not bother me, I have had more affluent girls finshing Uni but my current girl from a poor family is the girl of my dreams.

[Dave Hounddriver]

If you chose a poor girl, her family probably know little english

That is complicated. My wife was a poor girl. Some of her relatives are dirt poor and know little or no English. Other of her relatives are among the richest and most influential citizens of her province. I see the 'rich' relatives going out of their way to help the poorer relations to help themselves. I see the 'poor' relations complaining that the rich ones don't give them free money and things.

The 'rich' relatives make every effort to make me a welcome addition to the family because they saw my wife as someone who would work hard and do what it took to get out of poverty. They ask for nothing from me, (but the poor relations think I am a cheapskate). Some of them helped my dirt poor wife to get an education when she was young. Some of them give free or low cost services to the 'poor' family members. Some of them allow the poor family members to 'squat' on land they do not own. In short, the rich and the poor relations exist side by side in a fragile relationship that seems to work.

[Jack Peterson]

If you chose a poor girl, her family probably know little english

some of them allow the poor family members to 'squat', on land they do not own. In short, the rich and the poor relations exist side by side in a fragile relationship, that seems to work.

Diitto here Dave, your post has similar rings to my wife's family. On this I can agree. and the beauty of it is, it works. No matter how strange or Funny it may sound, Why it works, I will never know, but That's Life. There life and I do not think it will ever change. No matter what we try and do or say :)

Jack P. :tiphat:

Edited May 28, 2012 by Jack Peterson

[jode]

An educated Filipina from a family with the means to support themselves was my choice over fourteen years ago. Because we love each other.

The point is before a man decides to look for love maybe rich or poor is a consideration. Especially if he is going to move here and be amongst relatives of hers.

Edited May 29, 2012 by jode

[sjp52]

I married a poor girl and have mixed feelings about it. I am very happy with my wife as she is sweet and kind and appreciates all that I do. I love to help the family out but some times it gets a little trying as you can only help so much and there are so many problems. My family is not lazy by any means, They work 6 days a week and 12 hours a day but some times they still struggle. If you marry a rich girl than the family will usually take care of themselves.

My family is mixed when it comes to English speaking. I would say about 30% speak English and the rest none at all. My father in law speaks pretty good English but mother in law none, She has since past away. Being with a poor family has been a learning experience for me, Seeing how they depend on each other so much and the closeness is nice to see. My life with my family is far from perfect but I love them and they love me and thats all that matters. Being rich or poor in my eyes does not really matter, Its whats inside their heart that does. My wife would never ask me for a peso as she has a lot of pride and so does most of her family. They would give me the shirt off their back if I needed it and that makes them rich in my eyes.

As for the ones that don,t speak English, Yes it makes it hard to communicate but a nice hug and a big smile lets them know how I feel. Hopefully as time goes on I will master some of their language ( I struggle with it now but plug away at it ) Its hard to teach a old dog new tricks.

[phildiver]

I was once married into one of the most prominent families in the Country. They were absolutely the nicest, kindest and happiest people I have ever met. I screwed up the marriage but to this day I am still good friends with them. When I came to this Country for good in 05 I stayed with my ex wife and her husband and son. It was very cool and no jealousy issues at all. They have even embraced my current partner and our daughter. I met my partner online and it turns out she comes from a good family of upper middle class means (not rich but very okay). I think in general it would be very difficult for a typical expat to ever hook up with a girl from a truly rich family unless he too had assets. I mean it would be unlikely she would be online to meet in the first place so you'd have to meet them other ways. I don't think I could ever handle a poor girl and the family baggage that comes with it. Call me a snob but that's the way I feel. I have been coming here 30 years so I have a great understanding of this Country. Most expats that come here have none so being with a poor girl means nothing to them and they become so enamored and fall in love so easily so that doesn't appear to be an issue until of course the family starts with the asking for money.

[i am bob]

I myself am happily dreaming of a life with my Special Someone who is also considered poor. Not the family but she and her mom. She is a child of a second marriage by her dad and, when he passed away, was not able to leave enough for mom to carry on without working. I was told that the multitude of half brothers and sisters from the first marriage are reasonably well off ( and live elsewhere) and her brother and sister from the second marriage are doing ok. My Special Someone considers herself poor only because she is in university and not working yet. Does she ask me for money? NO! I have sent some on a couple occasions when I knew the situation was pretty desperate (like when her boarding house burned down with all her possessions - she only got out wearing a pair of shorts and a t-shirt) and only small amounts at that. Never asked for and she was quite embarrassed about it though there was no way she could say no! I even got scolded over it in an email and told to never do that again - along with lots of hugs and kisses included! hehe! Anyway, our plan is to be together as soon as I finally make the move, spend time to make sure that we are going to be happy together (I am hard to live with I guess - 2 ex's already!) before we get married, and at my suggestion, have mom live with us but only if she wants to. I'm thinking she will but you never know!

So is being involved, falling in love with, getting married to a poor girl, any of these things a bad thing? We may still be on opposite sides of this earth but I will stand up right now and say an emphatic NO! And, yes, that shout was intended!

[Ashanti]

An educated Filipina from a family with the means to support themselves was my choice over fourteen years ago. Because we love each other.

The point is before a man decides to look for love maybe rich or poor is a consideration. Especially if he is going to move here and be amongst relatives of hers.

NO ……… the point is - the quality of the woman ……… she could be poor or rich, if the quality is not there – she is just garbage!

A poor woman with quality can be polished and made to shine with your help and patient. A poor woman with a rotten quality – no matter how you spray with perfume will always STINK!!!