A Mans Bar Habits With A Filipina Wife

[Jollygoodfellow]

jode .... I take it you aren't married

no just preparing my lines for when i am.

Personally I don't see any reason where marriage is the end of being "YOU". What is wrong with time apart? Nothing as her or you need it to be human. To me; trust is where it is, if a man likes to go down to the pub and talk crap with his mates then so be it, he comes home to his wife and she can do as she also pleases as she is an individual too. The author of the book, Men are from Mars has it right about a man and his cave, don't you ever feel like being alone and doing your thing, I sure do.

Going to a bar to have a drink and/or chat with friends is not sinister, you know where the line is drawn and bar girls are nice to chat to so that where it ends.

I could never spend every moment of my life with someone else, that's me but I know at the end of the day where I will be.

[Dzighnman]

Personally I don't see any reason where marriage is the end of being "YOU".

Exactly, and for me, I am a homebody and got the "going out and raising hell" out of my system years ago... my American ex-wife was always out partying, so was I, only different places so this time I was looking for a full time partner and found her.... she assumed I wanted to go out bar hopping so she suggested it early on and we went... great fun, as she was, like making best friends with all the girls and we all had alot of fun... we do that once a year or so, but like I said, the most important part for me is we hang out together in all situations... now, I will draw the line at wearing matching clothing like most of the Korean tourists... that is taking it too far... :cheersty:

[i am bob]

There is a phrase being used - and it's a very great phrase - that refers to if or not marriage should be the end of you... Only problem is that this is the wrong phrase. Many are looking at it and listening to what is being said and then deciding that yes! "You" should be doing what I am thinking it should be... Let's look at this phrase instead refering to if marriage should or not be the end of me! No, I am always going to be the same person I always was - regardless if I go out at night and drink or if I stay home at night with my better half or....

[Elsa]

I just wanted to throw this topic out there because I know I will be in this delima if I ever hook up with a Filipina wife... First off, let me share with you all that I DO WANT A WIFE. A filipina of course (a cute one). And let me also share that I DO LIKE TO GO DRINKING WITH FRIENDS (at least once a week). There are times I will need to be with the boys (My Cave time). That is me... In my defense, however, I have always been faithfull to my past girlfriends... never cheated, not once. So the question is obvious, the title says it all - how will a typical filipina feel about this? And I understand that it is way easier to pick up girls from bars there. And I understand the level of trust will have to be up the ceiling for me to enjoy my recreational drinking habits... but how would a typical filipina wife feel about this? I know it depends on the girl, but culturally, if I arrive home smelling like cheap perfume will she feel like busting out a knife to cut off my privates? Or will she behaive more submissive and accepting - like a typical Japanese wife?

Before I met my husband personally I already know that He LOVES his BEER! Well I never see anything bad about it because he is not as bad as others that when they get drunk it changes there personality. (Unlike to the other people who change themselves into totally different one - nasty!) The only changes that I noticed in him is he become more cute.

I don’t drink nor smoke (I don’t even want the smells of those). But once I see him enjoying it I must admit that I actually love it- just seeing him happy.

Being a Filipino Woman married to a Westerner is that I always try to understand what my husband wants and needs because I know that there are certain things that woman cannot understand in a man and vice versa. But only one thing I want him to do- is to do EVERYTHING he wants in his life,(- by not being afraid that things upset me, by not being hesitant that things makes me unhappy. ) I want him to feel and enjoy the total FREEDOM in life. I want him to know that even we are married it does not mean that he has to change, because he is already perfect of being what he is and I don’t want him to feel being deprived. I like him so much when we were friends for almost 3 years before getting engaged and I like him of what he is which includes everything including the good and bad( although I never see anything bad about him) . When I fell in love with him I am ready to take whatever bad things about him but none that I can discover.

Do I allow him going out in the bar alone? Certainly!- Because I trust him. That even I can caught him in the room with other girl, still I will not convinced that something happened to the two of them. Because I believed that my husband will never ever cheat on me in any forms and in any ways.

Elsa

Denial of service

[Jollygoodfellow]

Do I allow him going out in the bar alone? Certainly!- Because I trust him. That even I can caught him in the room with other girl, still I will not convinced that something happened to the two of them. Because I believed that my husband will never ever cheat on me in any forms and in any ways.

This is always my point Elsa, as you say, you trust him and he trusts you so there's nothing wrong with doing separate things at times because at the end of the day, you know he is home to you without doing no wrong and vise versa. To me life would be rather sad if I had to be restricted to doing or not doing what I wanted to just to please someone else.

[Elsa]

Exactly, What is marriage or being with someone in the exchange of not being your very own self! I respect my partners wants without losing my own wants.

Elsa

www.Denial of service

[Curley]

I just wanted to throw this topic out there because I know I will be in this delima if I ever hook up with a Filipina wife... First off, let me share with you all that I DO WANT A WIFE. A filipina of course (a cute one). And let me also share that I DO LIKE TO GO DRINKING WITH FRIENDS (at least once a week). There are times I will need to be with the boys (My Cave time). That is me... In my defense, however, I have always been faithfull to my past girlfriends... never cheated, not once. So the question is obvious, the title says it all - how will a typical filipina feel about this? And I understand that it is way easier to pick up girls from bars there. And I understand the level of trust will have to be up the ceiling for me to enjoy my recreational drinking habits... but how would a typical filipina wife feel about this? I know it depends on the girl, but culturally, if I arrive home smelling like cheap perfume will she feel like busting out a knife to cut off my privates? Or will she behaive more submissive and accepting - like a typical Japanese wife?

Before I met my husband personally I already know that He LOVES his BEER! Well I never see anything bad about it because he is not as bad as others that when they get drunk it changes there personality. (Unlike to the other people who change themselves into totally different one - nasty!) The only changes that I noticed in him is he become more cute.

I don’t drink nor smoke (I don’t even want the smells of those). But once I see him enjoying it I must admit that I actually love it- just seeing him happy.

Being a Filipino Woman married to a Westerner is that I always try to understand what my husband wants and needs because I know that there are certain things that woman cannot understand in a man and vice versa. But only one thing I want him to do- is to do EVERYTHING he wants in his life,(- by not being afraid that things upset me, by not being hesitant that things makes me unhappy. ) I want him to feel and enjoy the total FREEDOM in life. I want him to know that even we are married it does not mean that he has to change, because he is already perfect of being what he is and I don’t want him to feel being deprived. I like him so much when we were friends for almost 3 years before getting engaged and I like him of what he is which includes everything including the good and bad( although I never see anything bad about him) . When I fell in love with him I am ready to take whatever bad things about him but none that I can discover.

Do I allow him going out in the bar alone? Certainly!- Because I trust him. That even I can caught him in the room with other girl, still I will not convinced that something happened to the two of them. Because I believed that my husband will never ever cheat on me in any forms and in any ways.

Elsa

Denial of service

Fantastic Elsa.....

Elsa should be the Philippines minister for marriage guidance.

[bows00]

I agree. And I have a question for Elsa. Based on what you know, do most of the Filipinas that you know think like you, or are you the exception to the rule?

[Elsa]

Posted Today, 10:49 AM I agree. And I have a question for Elsa. Based on what you know, do most of the Filipinas that you know think like you, or are you the exception to the rule?

I do believed that I am an Exception to the rule. And not only the rule of a husband and wife. But, it is also a Exception to many many types of rules. When I was in my high school life, my female classmates and schoolmates thinks that I broke rules. When I was in college majority ( except to those intelligent one) thinks that I broke rules. But I am just a person who don't do things the same ways as what majority does. I only do things in my own way if that's what I think is right.

As a woman who mixed with my fellow woman, I am often lost of what rules they believed about being married. Most women think that drinking is not right for a husband

When I was younger, My closest friends are much older than me, Because I enjoy it more than my fellow youth. But due to my studies I have to mixed with my fellow age level and I find it interesting and sometimes funny= Funny the way they think and the way they handle problems. I see how independent they are. Sometimes I feel being different because I can't be like them, who follow what the advice of majority without thinking about the result. I am a type of person who is not afraid to be different and not afraid to be judged. And to be honest, I feel happy and glad that I am different. Because in this way I met Fulfilment in life at a very young age.

But the way I figured out of why most woman restrict their husband of certain things:

* They listened a horror story from their friends who become a Nasty types person when it get drunk (without considering that every man are different)

* That they always relate their own life to others life. Ex. Husband went out to the pub and found someone else.

* Emotionally Insecure. ( Not confident enough and incapable to live alone by means of financial)

* Still living with a superstitious belief.

* Very closed minded.(They are afraid of giving a chance to see more beyond what they know)

Elsa

www.Denial of service

[bows00]

Your trust is definetly up the ceiling. Pretty solid relationship. But it saddens me that you are a rare breed and I will have to look high and low to find someone like you "sign". But that's life I guess... nothing is easy... even in the Philippines...