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[jode]

Thanks Jode! I will find out better what she is truly like hopefully this October - though so far she seems to be more interested in me than any of my money! There is a very big age difference but if we can get past this, then I think she will be my better half for a long time to come... Now if only I could have met her without the many other women I had to date / marry first! I'd still be a rich man!

There is a term in Visayan that is pause for thought for any old foreigner. It helps explain the appeal of us old guys to beautiful young filipinas. It is "matandang mayaman madaling mama tay" roughly translated it means - old rich guys die quick. In other words they will be left with money when they are still young, an appealing prospect for many. Its a term much used by gold diggers to explain their choices to peers. Edited April 19, 2012 by jode

[jode]

So what you are saying is that a girl you have NEVER met before in person is willing to show you her charms over the internet ..... interesting ..... but if you want a fool proof way to tell if the person is really a girl you are in cam with tell her to hold out her arm to the side... palm up and shoulder high ..... if she is in fact a girl her arm from the elbow down to her hand will bow downwards .... something a man is completely incapable of .... bone and muscle structure prohibit this in males ..... I personally think you stand a lot better chance of a good girl doing this than dropping her drawers to show you her goodies ..... but then what do I know ..... IMHO ..... :mocking: of course there is always the transgenders that have had everything removed and the goodies rebuilt ..... not sure what you do then ..... and also all Pilipinas will not hop into bed with you the first night you arrive at least in my experience that is but then I guess I'm not young built like Arnie (what's his name of Terminator fame) and gwapo so I guess maybe it was a bit different for me ..... I hope you are not advocating to these newbies soon to be expats that ALL their girlfriends are going to hop into bed with them the first night after meeting at the airport .... because a great number are going to go to sleep unable to sleep on their stomach do to a rise in their lower appendage ...... but there are plenty of girls wondering around or in the clubs to take care of this .... but this will of course result in the depletion of not only his swollen appendage but also his wallet :hystery: ....... again this is all .... IMHO :tiphat:

The perfect beauty of a filipina I saw on tv who wasn't a filipina, said the only thing she took to help with her change was birth control pills. The hormones she got from that being all she (or he) needed. Westerners of this orientation can get to the point of passing for the eyes of some only with massive pharmecutical intervention and often expensive surgeries but delicate featured orientals don't need much so beware.

In the case of wether a girl will stay with u when u arrive, just ask. "Will you stay with me in hotel when I arrive? The typical resonse I have found is -sure, no problem. Then she knows your expectations and has time to consider them. Maybe she will get cold feet when you arrive and not show up. But you have backup right? Its about being honest with yourself and her about what you want and expect. Hopefully she will do same but don't count on it.

[i am bob]

Bob: Don't worry about the age difference, I'm 62, my wife is 25. She was 19 when we married......Almost 6 years later we are still happily married. We live in Cebu now, but she spent 5 yrs in the USA, I got some hateful looks from middle aged women there, but it just made me grin. Come on over, the water is fine.... :)

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Thanks for the words of encouragement but it's just not the same...

When you got married, she was 19 and you were 56,,,

I"m only 54 !

:mocking: I am soooo bad sometimes!

Seriously I sometimes worry about our age difference but when we talk (she's there and I'm still here), it's like there are no differences at all between us and this is where we both were meant to be!

[i am bob]

Sorry guys but for those of you who say that if a girl won't sleep with you on the first date, you should drop her - think of it this way... What would your mother say?

As far as my thoughts go? If I want a girl who will guarantee that she will sleep with me, I would be spending all my time in one of the bars chasing the bar girls... Not that there is anything wrong with these girls but that is what they do for a living... I want a woman who is there for loving! Does that guaranty that this relationship will be perfect? I can't guaranty any relationship will be.... And thus any relationship I want to try is going to be based on love and respect - not whuma-whumpa!

[jode]

Sorry guys but for those of you who say that if a girl won't sleep with you on the first date, you should drop her - think of it this way... What would your mother say?

As far as my thoughts go? If I want a girl who will guarantee that she will sleep with me, I would be spending all my time in one of the bars chasing the bar girls... Not that there is anything wrong with these girls but that is what they do for a living... I want a woman who is there for loving! Does that guaranty that this relationship will be perfect? I can't guaranty any relationship will be.... And thus any relationship I want to try is going to be based on love and respect - not whuma-whumpa!

Well to each his own but to better explain my position I will say- A girl is not a virgin- she has given herself to others - the others gave her no recompense or did right by her - However, for you she has decided to not be with you like she was with them. - Despite the fact that you are coming halfway around the world for her, are going to marry her, probably willing, or have helped her, and her family financially' to some extent, and treat her with kindness and respect and are obviously in love with her. - Why are you less to her than they were?

Now if a girl is a virgin and for moral reasons wants to do things the old fashioned way , thats differant. Wait and have marrage the way it was meant to be. Enjoy the peace of mind knowing that you are her only one in life.

Talk is cheap my friend. The word love here is not used the way it is in west. You can date a girl in west for a couple years, even being intimate, and the word love may never come up. Untill the time its deep meaning is really felt for sure. When it does it is a big moment.

Here you chat a girl online for an hour and they love you. If I had a dollar for everytime a girl here has said she loves me, I could feast for a month. If I had a dollar for every woman in the west who has said she loves me in forty years I could have a coffee and a donut. That doesn't prove girls here more loving. It proves they are looser using the word.

So how can you tell their true feelings? Well if they insist on being with you, and when they are, they chase you around the bed at night and can't seem to get enough of being close to you, and are happiest when in your arms. That may be a pretty good indication. If they willing to go against advice of family and friends, and instead have what you say, feel and want, be of greater importance. That may be a good indication. Have what you need be of greater importance than needs of family or friends or even their own. Well thats a good indication.

How can you really get to know her if you are not alone together? I am not talking necesarily "whuma-whumpa!" as you put it. For older guys like us the actual act is usually not such a pressing issue anymore (perhaps unless you have the effects of viagra, cialis, working). But do you want her with you or do you prefer to be alone in your hotel room in a strange country far from home? Do you want to wake up alone or have her next to you? Do you want marrage to be a leap of faith or be something you are both sure about?

Be honest with yourself and with her. Talk to her about it. She will understand if she really cares for you. Privacy is a rare thing here for them. They sleep many to a bed at times with arms around each other. Generaly they don't like and rarely are alone. Would she want to be alone, if the situation were reversed and she was coming to your country to marry you? No she would want to be by your side from the moment she got off the plane.

Really nice guys like you, are like blood in the water for a shark over here. Do you want to swim with the sharks or just be a meal for one?

Sorry that is just my take on the experiences i have had. I think that is what forums should be. The sharing of experiences and opinions based on experiences. Not necesarily doing web searchs for someone in answer to their questions.

Edited April 20, 2012 by jode

[i am bob]

I would not be upset if the woman I loved wanted to sleep with me before we were married... Nor would I drop her if she wanted to wait until marriage either! The key is conversation... To talk together and understand how each feels - not just on sex but on other relationship issues as well! Love, understanding and respect are the key components of a good relationship.

For those who think otherwise? I guess we just have to agree to disagree...

[Classic Dry]

Gosh, it's all so confusing isn't it ?

It's really so difficult being a man !

Women just don't know how lucky they are, after all, they only have to decide yes, or no.

We have to manipulate, beg, plead, spend, blackmail, cajole, humour, soothe, promise etc. etc.

It's all too hard brothers !

Now I've made myself all tearful. Forgive me, I'm going back to bed !

[Jake]

Gosh, it's all so confusing isn't it ?

It's really so difficult being a man !

Women just don't know how lucky they are, after all, they only have to decide yes, or no.

We have to manipulate, beg, plead, spend, blackmail, cajole, humour, soothe, promise etc. etc.

It's all too hard brothers !

Now I've made myself all tearful. Forgive me, I'm going back to bed !

Hmmm.....very interesting point Classic Dry! Most of us still manipulate, beg, plead, spend, blackmail,

cajole, humour, soothe, promise for sex?

Another interesting observation of divine engineering is the shape of the forbidden fruit -- you noticed

it already has a built-in slot to swipe your ATM-credit card. How convenient.....he, he.

Bad boy ako -- Jake

Edited June 6, 2012 by Jake

[Classic Dry]

There are a couple i have met that are too pure and angelic for me to have the heart to go any further with, and now they want me to find them a foreigner.

Dammit, pure and angelic. I like that. What the heck, I'll take both ! ! ! :dance:

Edited June 8, 2012 by Classic Dry

[Jollygoodfellow]

Gosh, it's all so confusing isn't it ?

It's really so difficult being a man !

Women just don't know how lucky they are, after all, they only have to decide yes, or no.

We have to manipulate, beg, plead, spend, blackmail, cajole, humour, soothe, promise etc. etc.

It's all too hard brothers !

Now I've made myself all tearful. Forgive me, I'm going back to bed !

By this time its not hard at all so sleep and try again the next day. :th_unfair: