i am bob Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Well i could do a Bob and reply like he does Jode, I answered the way I did because I respect my girlfriend and do not wish to air the intimate details of our relationship on this forum for your personal enjoyment. Please remember that this forum is for everybody - men and women both. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 :) Well! it has been an interesting read, some different angles on what seems to be a never ending story, To me it doesn't matter if Girls/ladies are rich or poor, they are Girls/ Ladies, Human beings. Lets give them a Chance, look anywhere in the World and tell me, it is only here in The PI that wealth or not makes a Difference. If we did the Homework, we all talk about and sorted the wheat from the Chaff. This type of Topic would not be so apparent. I am not condoning the wanters and go getter's or the Scammers, Lets not put them all in the same boat and use the same Tar brush on them all. We could fall into a mentality trap of them thinking we are all ATM's, yes I know some do but not all.Lets not start thinking they are all scammers and sex Objects. They are not, many are good girls and Ladies lets give them a chance. lets do the Homework and ask the right Questions It is up to us to decide if they are the right one. Then let it Blossom. No good Blaming her because she was Poor, she has just heard stories from the bad girls this doesn't mean she will a bad one as well From my experience of Life here There are more good than bad we just seem to be talking about the bad ones here. They didn't choose their family but they can choose a wife/Husband cos it works both ways. Balls in our Court I think. Lets not make any issues out of things. Many will tell you we the Foreigner's are sometimes our own worst enemy. if a girl tells you she is from a poor family, to me, treat this with respect, if she turns out a little dubious then just move on. So many just promise the earth and then wonder why it goes wrong, don't Promise and don't pay till you have met. This could just keep going around and around in Circles, if you keep thinking Bad all the time. you are never going to meet the right one or even miss the one or she may pass you by because of attitude I sometimes Wonder if people are looking in the right places for the Love of their life. staying off the main street Sites and going to others and they are, there. just might yeald a better result, Make friends with a Local they all have a lady family member that might just be the right one. my Saturday nights 10cents. worth Regards Jack P. :tiphat: 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 If there is a huge age gap of say 30 plus years. You are in love with her but for sure she is in love with your money. That comment is pure bullchit! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phildiver Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 If there is a huge age gap of say 30 plus years. You are in love with her but for sure she is in love with your money. That comment is pure bullchit! Please pass the Nitrous Oxide Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Call me bubba Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 As a rule the younger the girl the more likely it is a money attraction For Sonia rios Risken it was a Money attraction(aka black widow) just link to her name, http://www.google.com.ph/search?q=sonia+rios+risken+philippines&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i am bob Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 :) Well! it has been an interesting read, some different angles on what seems to be a never ending story, To me it doesn't matter if Girls/ladies are rich or poor, they are Girls/ Ladies, Human beings. Lets give them a Chance, look anywhere in the World and tell me, it is only here in The PI that wealth or not makes a Difference. If we did the Homework, we all talk about and sorted the wheat from the Chaff. This type of Topic would not be so apparent. I am not condoning the wanters and go getter's or the Scammers, Lets not put them all in the same boat and use the same Tar brush on them all. We could fall into a mentality trap of them thinking we are all ATM's, yes I know some do but not all.Lets not start thinking they are all scammers and sex Objects. They are not, many are good girls and Ladies lets give them a chance. lets do the Homework and ask the right Questions It is up to us to decide if they are the right one. Then let it Blossom. No good Blaming her because she was Poor, she has just heard stories from the bad girls this doesn't mean she will a bad one as well From my experience of Life here There are more good than bad we just seem to be talking about the bad ones here. They didn't choose their family but they can choose a wife/Husband cos it works both ways. Balls in our Court I think. Lets not make any issues out of things. Many will tell you we the Foreigner's are sometimes our own worst enemy. if a girl tells you she is from a poor family, to me, treat this with respect, if she turns out a little dubious then just move on. So many just promise the earth and then wonder why it goes wrong, don't Promise and don't pay till you have met. This could just keep going around and around in Circles, if you keep thinking Bad all the time. you are never going to meet the right one or even miss the one or she may pass you by because of attitude I sometimes Wonder if people are looking in the right places for the Love of their life. staying off the main street Sites and going to others and they are, there. just might yeald a better result, Make friends with a Local they all have a lady family member that might just be the right one. my Saturday nights 10cents. worth Regards Jack P. :tiphat: Jack, can I borrow one of your 10 cents? They are worth a million $!!! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 :) Well! it has been an interesting read, some different angles on what seems to be a never ending story, To me it doesn't matter if Girls/ladies are rich or poor, they are Girls/ Ladies, Human beings. Lets give them a Chance, look anywhere in the World and tell me, it is only here in The PI that wealth or not makes a Difference. If we did the Homework, we all talk about and sorted the wheat from the Chaff. This type of Topic would not be so apparent. I am not condoning the wanted and go getter's or the Scammers, Lets not put them all in the same boat and use the same Tar brush on them all. We could fall into a mentality trap of them thinking we are all ATM's, yes I know some do but not all.Lets not start thinking they are all scammers and sex Objects. They are not, many are good girls and Ladies lets give them a chance. lets do the Homework and ask the right Questions It is up to us to decide if they are the right one. Then let it Blossom. No good Blaming her because she was Poor, she has just heard stories from the bad girls this doesn't mean she will a bad one as well From my experience of Life here There are more good than bad we just seem to be talking about the bad ones here. They didn't choose their family but they can choose a wife/Husband cos it works both ways. Balls in our Court I think. Lets not make any issues out of things. Many will tell you we the Foreigner's are sometimes our own worst enemy. if a girl tells you she is from a poor family, to me, treat this with respect, if she turns out a little dubious then just move on. So many just promise the earth and then wonder why it goes wrong, don't Promise and don't pay till you have met. This could just keep going around and around in Circles, if you keep thinking Bad all the time. you are never going to meet the right one or even miss the one or she may pass you by because of attitude I sometimes Wonder if people are looking in the right places for the Love of their life. staying off the main street Sites and going to others and they are, there. just might yield a better result, Make friends with a Local they all have a lady family member that might just be the right one. my Saturday nights 10cents. worth Regards Jack P. :tiphat: Jack, can I borrow one of your 10 cents? They are worth a million $!!! :) Thanks but the interest could be High, sooner give it to you and save a friendship. :thumbsup: 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ekimswish Posted June 3, 2012 Popular Post Posted June 3, 2012 I would assume that a girl from a better off family would be a safer "choice," if a choice is what it is. A few side notes I might add are: 1. Girls from better off backgrounds are less likely to go for a foreigner (especially with a large age discrepancy), so if you hook it up, I think that's something to be proud of. 2. Girls from better off backgrounds might have higher expectations for you, which you might struggle to meet. If they're used to buying whatever they want, such as designer bags, and you're on a pension, it might cause some problems. 3. Honestly, a better life is the main reason Filipinas marry foreigners, and if she's already got money, then immigrating might be the main motive. A poor girl might just be happy to have 3 square meals, and some money to pay for her parents' medical expenses. Girls tend to marry "up," and the American dream might be the only "up" you offer her. 4. Her family might have higher expectations for you as well. You're the reason, after all, that she's not marrying some other promising young man from a wealthy local family. This could be a blow to their pride. Of course, the above are just worst case scenarios. The worst case scenarios for a girl from a poor family are probably worse. Hopefully you find a girl who really loves you for you, and that you feel a real connection with. My honest opinion, however, is that in most relationships between Filipinas and foreigners, they choose us for where we come from first, and learn to love us second. I have no problem with that, as long as the love is there eventually. I've just seen it in so many of my wife's friends marriages, and I'd be a fool to assume that it couldn't possibly have been us, too. Five years, two kids, and a lot of highs and lows later, I don't really care how she may have seen me when we first met, because I'm sure that we love each other now. I'm just saying, keep a critical perspective when you can. A wealthy background is probably better than a poor background, but it doesn't guarantee that motives will be pure, and the future will be smooth. peace 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jode Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 (edited) This thread has kinda evolved into another topic so rather than reply here I guess I will start that topic - Motivations not that there isn't alot more that could be said about the original topic - rich girl or poor girl - so i hope this thread is not buried and comments continue Edited June 3, 2012 by jode Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 This thread has kinda evolved into another topic so rather than reply here I guess I will start that topic - Motivations not that there isn't alot more that could be said about the original topic - rich girl or poor girl - so i hope this thread is not buried and comments continue :no: Well Jode, I'm not going argue with you BUT Rich Girl ,Poor Girl, surely this about Money and Money, is a Motivation so I think you may come back, to square one on this. reading some of the other posts it seems either way rich or Poor Money comes in to the equation 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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