Motivations

[Classic Dry]

Now, where were we ? Oh yes, motivations.

Well, up until very recently I had commitments and responsibilities which I could not/would not jettison.

I guess the earliest time I could have moved to the Phils woulld have been about 5 years ago, but I hadn't even considered the possibility then.

In fact it's only been the last 6 months, that I have seriously been looking at South East Asia as a possible home, and have come to focus on the Philippines.

Why ?

I agree with most of what jode said in his original couple of posts, with regard to my own motivation, and I wish he'd carried on to give further insights.

For me, living in the Philippines is purely to do with women and quality of life.

I expect, and hope, that my quality of life will improve even though materially I may have less.

During my very short time there (2 weeks) I experienced only friendliness, helpfulness, good humour and acceptance.

In truth I don't know how my life will turn out when I get there. I don't know if I will want to sleep with lots of women, or look for just one.

I really just don't know, but I think I like the idea of having a friend and companion, and that, I think, is the bottom line for me.

Now do I care what others may think of me ? Not even a tiny little bit !

I've seen a few opinions and observations throughout all this forum which I have not agreed with, and some which tell me that the author is an *sshole,

but, hey, it takes all sorts.

Thankfully, I now have only myself to please and as long as I do that without hurting anyone I think I'll be doing ok.

[Jake]

Now, where were we ? Oh yes, motivations.

Well, up until very recently I had commitments and responsibilities which I could not/would not jettison.

I guess the earliest time I could have moved to the Phils woulld have been about 5 years ago, but I hadn't even considered the possibility then.

In fact it's only been the last 6 months, that I have seriously been looking at South East Asia as a possible home, and have come to focus on the Philippines.

Why ?

I agree with most of what jode said in his original couple of posts, with regard to my own motivation, and I wish he'd carried on to give further insights.

For me, living in the Philippines is purely to do with women and quality of life.

I expect, and hope, that my quality of life will improve even though materially I may have less.

During my very short time there (2 weeks) I experienced only friendliness, helpfulness, good humour and acceptance.

In truth I don't know how my life will turn out when I get there. I don't know if I will want to sleep with lots of women, or look for just one.

I really just don't know, but I think I like the idea of having a friend and companion, and that, I think, is the bottom line for me.

Now do I care what others may think of me ? Not even a tiny little bit !

I've seen a few opinions and observations throughout all this forum which I have not agreed with, and some which tell me that the author is an *sshole,

but, hey, it takes all sorts.

Thankfully, I now have only myself to please and as long as I do that without hurting anyone I think I'll be doing ok.

Hello Classic Dry,

I think your plan is a healthy one. Go in with an open mind -- not to expect too much but remain flexible

if things doesn't work out. That does not necessary mean that the Philippines was voted out all together.

Possibly reconsider another follow on visit or at least explore other Asian cultures. The bottom line is

that you worked your butt off to enjoy the remainder of your golden years to be relatively stress free and

to give your heart and soul another chance to be youthful again.

As soon as possible, try to go beyond the tourist level and live on the local economy. Make new friends

both male and female. A basic smile and thank you is all that is needed. Hell, I found a simple tricycle

driver in my area that can be trusted to be my errand boy and neighborhood watcher.

Best of luck to you sir -- Jake

[Classic Dry]

As soon as possible, try to go beyond the tourist level and live on the local economy. Make new friends both male and female. A basic smile and thank you is all that is needed. Hell, I found a simple tricycle driver in my area that can be trusted to be my errand boy and neighborhood watcher.

My thoughts ferzackerly Jake. I'm looking forward to making friends with both males and females, and with a wide variety of types of people.

This is the quality of life I'm looking for !

[ekimswish]

I like you, Jode. Your writing comes from a good and honest place. I think one of the reasons so many young guys like myself are often repulsed by the sight of a young beauty with an older guy is because of the hormones raging away in our systems, and lack of life experience as well. We know how dirty we think, so find it hard to accept huge age gaps in the relationships of locals and foreigners. I, for one, have become a lot more open minded to the idea after hanging out with all you guys on this here forum. But I know how others still feel, and ultimately do get the same shock myself, momentarily albeit, when I see old guys with young girls. I've always reasoned it out as an exchange of body for better life. Reading what you've wrote is a helluva lot more noble and satisfying than the way I typically look at it.

While there still are those dirty old sex-pats out there (young ones, too), stories like yours definitely help me to hold off on judging people I don't know, especially when seeing them at Robinsons, a place occupied by all ends of the spectrum.

[OnMyWay]

:lol: Two weeks today at this time, I will start my Journey Home, My MOTIVATION? to see the sunset with my Family and to see the Sun rise again Tomorrow :) The end of an Era? No not really. it will be the Start, of a chosen way of life. Time to start and live by my Signature. :thumbsup:

Sentimental maybe

Emotional, Oh yes!

Happy, Definitely

jack P. :tiphat:

I missed these pictures before Jack. and they are really nice! I love taking sunrise / sunset photos and never tire of looking at them. Good luck and safe travels, tomorrow?

[rocheg]

Come on Jode I'm dying to read the rest

[Mike S]

rocheg ....... Jode is no longer with us ..... he has found a group more to his liking ...... :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: :hystery:

[phildiver]

I think the original theme of this topic was regarding Filipina Motivations. I being a little contemptuous in general basically said that the motivation of a Filipina is Security, ergo your money and not your shriveled up.......or brilliant, loving personality. Likeability will come in time for most but if you think you can develop a romantic relationship on some date site with a filipina and then go over and have her fall in love with you is a pipe dream. Its your perceived wealth and MONEY. You on the other hand can easily fall love with her as she represents to you something not found back in your own Country. Sweetness, sexiness, innocence, etc....But don't think it represents anything else but your money first.

Presently I am in the States with my wife and daughter and she runs into a fair number of Filipinas and 100% of the time regardless of whether they are single or married the conversation with my wife goes as follows from the get go:

1. What does your husband do

2. Do you rent or own. My wife then tells them we are on vacation (and usually rent a place) and generally come to the States every year for a couple of months . So then they say 100% of the time. Oh, your husband must be very rich to come for so long and the airfare, rental expense, etc..

I'm sorry but this type of start to a conversation would never occur with an American or European woman especially one who is educated. Eventually a conversation might get into what type of profession I might be in but frankly it is not about the money or trying to determine if we have money or not.

This reinforces the terrible insecurity that Filipinas suffer from (no matter where they live) and due to their ignorance and insecurity are so focused on MONEY, MONEY, MONEY.

Future Expat Gentleman get this through your skulls. It is your money they want. However, the irony in all this is regardless of whether you have any will not be shown until later in the courtship and by then they have already got you and will live with the results for good or bad as it is going to be better than enything they have right now. You could be a fat digusting pig and they will stay with you in the onset. Still all in all it is all good

Edited July 29, 2012 by phildiver

[MikeB]

This reinforces the terrible insecurity that Filipinas suffer from (no matter where they live) and due to their ignorance and insecurity are so focused on MONEY, MONEY, MONEY.

And "Western" females are not lol? I've usually heard it stated exactly opposite from your theory. But I tend to disregard sweeping generalizations about any group, be they Filipinas, expats, or contemptuous individuals. As Mark Twain famously said, "All generalizations are false, including this one".

[Mike S]

phildiver ....... sorry but I just have to ask this question ..... with all your advise on how and why a foreigner should not marry a Filipina why did you marry one .... or maybe perhaps you found the only one that was not after your money where as the rest of us are just not as lucky as you ..... I for one really envy you ..... my asawa is really only after my money that's why she has access to ALL our finances and has for 3-4 years ..... and guess what she is still here ..... so why doesn't she just take all the money and run back to the slim .... good looking .... sex machine .... that so many young guys can offer ..... hummmmmm .... I wonder ..... but I suppose she is having sex on the side and using my money to finance her escapades ...... geeeeee ... guess I'm just a dumb ol' stinky drunk fat guy who only has a wife because I'm rich ..... yea right ...... :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: