Ok So It Did Not Work Out....now What?

[Dave Hounddriver]

there is no harm in playing the field as long as both parties understand the rules

Well said. I find there are lots of girls who 'understand the rules' in the city of Cebu.

I have a problem with the foreigners who think that is not enough for them. They want to go out in the dprovince and find a 'country girl' who has a different set of rules. Perhaps these guys want to be the 'only guy' to play the field with these girls but the girls I am thinking of are playing for keeps. If they wanted to 'play the field' like a city girl then they would move to the city.

[Mike S]

Beautiful Dave ..... oooops let me refine that ..... Beautiful ..... Dave ...... there that sounds better :hystery: ......... don't want to stir up Jake :mocking: ...... on other boards that deal with the shadier side of the Philippines many guys after they have stayed in Angeles ..... while here on a "vacation" for a few weeks of having their fun ..... talk of going to the province to find what they refer to as "farm fresh girls" before heading back to their home countries ..... not giving a rats-a*s if they leave the girl possibly pregnant and broken hearted just as long as they can brag to their friends back home about what a macho-man they are ...... yea right ..... macho my a*s ..... a macho-man excepts his responsibilities and actions not sees how many virgins he can deflower ..... if he wants to deflower virgins he needs to change his faith where if he commits suicide he'll get 72 ...... :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: :hystery:

[brock]

if he wants to deflower virgins he needs to change his faith where if he commits suicide he'll get 72

Yeah, But they might be Boys, :lol:

[Jollygoodfellow]

Sorry if this is a 25c post but it is the way I see and feel about this

Please; all currency quotes in Peso as we had at least one leave because of political correctness . :hystery:

Now back to the show. :)

[Jack Peterson]

Sorry if this is a 25c post but it is the way I see and feel about this

Please; all currency quotes in Peso as we had at least one leave because of political correctness . :hystery:

Now back to the show. :)

:mocking: ah OK well! make that a 25 centavos post then, don't want to upset any one else do we! :lol:

[i am bob]

So many of you are correct - if only everybody played by the same rules, then life would be so much easier! Enjoy your relationships and, should you end up in marriage, do the right thing and honour it. If you prefer to play the field, don't make promises you can't keep and, for gawd's sakes, don't get somebody pregnant! If you do, be a man and stand up!

Now for the original OP's question - which is completely different - would the Philippines chase after Joe to the USA (or any other country) over child support? From what I have found in my research, the answer is NO! Just don't ever let Joe risk going back to the Philippines because they will get Joe on the way in!

[dalidali]

I think some of you fellows jumped to the conclusion that I...fictitious name JOE..was going to marry some girl, get her pregnant and then vanish.....

That is the very LAST thing I intended to infer.

 

For one thing.....my pollywogs don't swim.....they died on the vine a long time ago via some well placed surgical snips.

Impregnating some farm girl or city slicker girl...is out of the question for me, morally and physically.

 

My one and only question was "IF" a marriage does not work, for a myriad of reasons we all may be familiar with..would the Philippine authorities issue some sort of "demand" to the country of origin?

I am aware of the so-called blacklist upon returning to the Phils, yet I wanted to know about the home countries obligations to allow the Philippine authorities to seek redress in the name of the abandoned spouse.

 

I believe that Q has been answered with a resounding NO, they would not come after you.

 

Many of you jumped all over me, ASSUMING that I was pondering marrying some lady and then hitting the highway when all did not pan out.

That never was, nor never will be, the situation.

Totally HYPOTHETICAL was the intent of the original post.

 

In fact, I can now report that I have found the lady, who by most anyone's standards, fills the necessary prerequisites that I consider essential.

She is a Cebuana of 43 years that is the sweetest, honest and most sincere person I have encountered for a long long time.

I will do her right by marrying her, as that is what she would like. For me personally, a parchment piece of paper stating we are married is not a prerequisite for a lasting relationship.

However, on the other hand, I can totally understand her wanting to do this upright and proper with that parchment.

And of course I believe it does help to provide her some sense of security in knowing that I take this endeavor seriously and just walking out is the less viable option.

I have zero problem with providing for her sense of security and if it makes her happy.......I DO!!

 

I have all my documents in order that I will present to the USA authorities on arrival in Cebu for the "Affidavit In Lieu of Certificate of Legal Capacity to Marry.

She is doing likewise on her end and now it's just a matter of logistics as to when the actual deed is performed.

 

Saludos......

[brock]

Congratulations and have a good life together  :cheersty:

[dalidali]

Congratulations and have a good life together  :cheersty:

Thank you Mr Brock

[i am bob]

Congratulations Sir!  May the rest of your lives together be harmonious and loving with a touch of excitement thrown in for good measure!

 

I just went back and read this entire series from end to end...  Man, do we get off-track, introduce variables out of left field and change the subject mid-stream a lot!  I doubt many of us would do well on a test as we seem to have that old problem of not being able to read that "firetrucking question"!

 

And, for anyone else who just reads this one for the first time, the answer to the question is simply this:

 

No, the Philippines will not chase anyone to their home countries but will have it on record if a spouse is abandoned and left behind.  Re-entering the Philippines will then become a very interesting affair.  If the ex-Mrs Joe runs away to the backwoods, he can apply in the Philippines for an annulment to the marriage - which would basically cover him the same as a divorce.  If he decides to head back home, he can be divorced and thus be free to marry again - in his home country or the Philippines or anywhere.  And, yes, in this case, the ex-Mrs Joe would be able to apply to have the marriage declared null and void due to the divorce.  And even if Joe heads home and doesn't get a divorce, the ex-Mrs Joe can always apply for an annulment as well.  Now, in just about every situation, everybody is free to love and marry again.  That is, unless nobody does nothing about it...