Adult Women And The Parents

[dalidali]

I have developed an interest in a Filipina lady who is 45 years old over a internet dating site.

She is separated from a previous husband for 11 years now and has two teenage kids.

She lives with, and helps support her parents.

The parents are described as "strict"....and she says she "obey's" them.

According to this lady, she would not or can not, stay with me on an "overnighter" unless we were married.

And she further

[dalidali]

I have developed an interest in a Filipina lady who is 45 years old over a internet dating site.

She is separated from a previous husband for 11 years now and has two teenage kids.

She lives with, and helps support her parents.

The parents are described as "strict"....and she says she "obey's" them.

According to this lady, she would not or can not, stay with me on an "overnighter" unless we were married.

And she further

Rats hit the wrong key here....

But as I was saying...she would not take me to here parents house to meet them because her dad would put the heat on me to get married.

Is it common for a grown woman of 45 to be ruled by the parents .....to this degree?

[Old55]

This is not normal. Parents have significant "input" on children even if adult and if you find a lady with very controling family RUN AWAY! Seriously IMO move on.

[Jake]

This is not normal. Parents have significant "input" on children even if adult and if you find a lady with very controling family RUN AWAY! Seriously IMO move on.

Hello Dali-Dali,

I strongly agree with Old55 -- this kind of stress, especially coming from an extended family will

put you in the grave prematurely. Your name implies to hurry-hurry but in this case, please take

your sweet time, OK?

Plenty of fish -- Jake

[billten]

The parents are described as "strict"....and she says she "obey's" them.

While i kind of agree with Jake and Old, if you really like the lady i would probably go check the situation out. The relationship between an unmarried lady and her parents is often very close but IME it is the parents not the girl that are the most important factor in the situation. You never know, they may want what is best for her and really help with getting you together, if they are a couple of controlling old shrews, then i would run like hell ;-)

[Jack Peterson]

Dali! maybe the answer lies in the reason she is separated, i would certaintly be asking what went wrong. just a thought :unsure:

[dalidali]

Thanks guys......

I could possibly understand the parental control over a young, previously unmarried girl...say in her twenties.

But 45?....previously married and with two upper teenage kids?..

This lady told me that as long as she lives with her parents....she must obey them......as they are strict.

I like her...she is nice to me and seems very sincere on the webcam. I have been down that road before many times and it's easy to tell

when the chemistry is there or not.

She is mixed race....Spanish and Chinese....and very good looking with a very cute figure.

Bottom line is I feel she is sincere and once I get on the ground in August...her restrictions may wane.

I will take the chance....nothing to lose but a bit of my time.

[dalidali]

Dali! maybe the answer lies in the reason she is separated, i would certaintly be asking what went wrong. just a thought :unsure:

Thanks for that gem Jack....I am not quite to that point yet, but from what I can gleen via her volunteering , the guy was a flake cheater...not unusual I suppose.

[dalidali]

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[MikeB]

But 45?....previously married and with two upper teenage kids?..

I don't give relationship advice but in your opening post you said she was separated. Unless she has an annulment she is married not "previously married" All kinds of legal minefields for both of you if that's the case.