Adult Women And The Parents

[Jake]

Hey Jake....check out this dalidali

My Mexican panga fishing boat

Wow, nice ride! I suppose you have a couple coolers for some refreshments......he, he.

[FlyAway]

Guess my question would be.... Is she asking or hinting for money?

45 years old with two teen age children and parents treating her like a child? Sounds fishy right out of the box to me.

[Dave Hounddriver]

I wish BruceWayne would chime in here about his wife.

He has not visited the forum for a while so let me just say that she is over 30, they have been married for 5 years and have a kid together, yet his wife still jumps when Mummy and Daddy call. It means whatever is in the house goes first to Mummy and Daddy for their use/consumption before she and hubby and kid eat or spend. Drives Bruce crazy but he loves her I guess so puts up with it. I bet if he knew what it was like in the beginning he would have kept looking. But who knows, that is just the way it seemed to me. Maybe he will chime in with a different opinion?

[samatm]

couple of points here already touched on :

1. If she is truly so controlled by mom and dad at 45 w/ teeners - she is not well balanced and that will be a problem for you.

2. She could be just using the parents as a way to slow you down a bit. Hiding behind them per say until she trusts you

3. You could go to jail or be set up for bribery or worse by the ex if their marriage hasn't been legally terminated by annulment or divorce . Becareful here and and check out the legal docs etc.

4. Slow down make a few other friends to check up on while you are here have plan B.

5. Make sure you have plenty of time when you visit and not be in rush. Meet other ladies in their natural settings at work etc.. and not online

6. have fun.

[Old55]

It could be things are not nearly so bad as she says. If you truly like this lady then you must spend some time with her and her family including her children. IMO I would slow down until you know the family dynamics first hand.

[Steve & Myrlita]

I'm sorry to say but this scenerio is givng me an uneasy feeling. The impression I get from this is you will NEVER be 1st with her, EVER but will still be expected to pay for all as the "Rich Kano". 45 and still controlled by her parents as if she were still a teenager is very disturbing the the very least. And yes, she is still married under the law if separated and her husband can legally make your life a living hell and could put you in jail for adultry with his wife while still bleeding you dry of your money. RUN...DO NOT WALK AWAY FROM HER!! If this hurts, I'm very sorry but it's the truth.

[GregZ]

I will take the chance....nothing to lose but a bit of my time.

I vote for this approach. You never know until you try. The answer to every unasked question is NO. :bash:

My situation was a lot different, but the bottom line is what I expected was pretty restricting and what I got was PERFECT :dance: for me. ;-) Your results may vary, but a lot of things change in person v internet.

Then again... there is a point here

I'm sorry to say but this scenerio is givng me an uneasy feeling. The impression I get from this is you will NEVER be 1st with her, EVER but will still be expected to pay for all as the "Rich Kano". 45 and still controlled by her parents as if she were still a teenager is very disturbing the the very least. And yes, she is still married under the law if separated and her husband can legally make your life a living hell and could put you in jail for adultry with his wife while still bleeding you dry of your money. RUN...DO NOT WALK AWAY FROM HER!! If this hurts, I'm very sorry but it's the truth.

BEST OF LUCK :cheersty:

Edited July 22, 2012 by GregZ

[Jack Peterson]

I have developed an interest in a Filipina lady who is 45 years old over a internet dating site.

She is separated from a previous husband for 11 years now and has two teenage kids.

She lives with, and helps support her parents.

The parents are described as "strict"....and she says she "obeys" them.

According to this lady, she would not or can not, stay with me on an "overnighter" unless we were married.

And she further

she would not take me to here parents house to meet them because her dad would put the heat on me to get married.

:unsure: Dali! can I just ask? how long has this lady been on the dating site looking for a new man.? I ask only, that it may help you, if you knew why others have stayed clear.has anyone ever visited her? I presume she means, her dad would expect you, to pay for the annulment.? The more I read this Topic, like Steve, the more i think it is a non Starter. Sorry, if this not what you want to hear Dali. You say you don't mind losing some time but for my thought, don't waste time either, the thing that would worry me is, if she would not take you home meet the parents, How will you ever know if all she is saying, is true. how will you ever get to know her? Please, don't be a victim here, Put a little pressure on and get to core of the problem. if you are hell bent on pursuing this, I wish you well. :)

:tiphat:

[nor cal mike]

Dali,

This is a very interesting topic. I think the comments from both sides have a great deal of merit. My advice would be to carefully consider the advice others here

have offered so as to make an informed decision and then please keep us informed as to the outcome. Best of luck to you, regardless of your decision.

Mike

[sjp52]

My wife is 43 and yes she is pretty devoted to her parents ( mother died last year though ). It is the Filipino way that the women take care of their parents.Not in all cases but in a lot. I think you will find she will lighten up some when you get to know each other and she feels secure with you. You will know if the situation is not tolerable for you. Chances are you will be fine. Please let us know how you make out