Adult Women And The Parents

[MikeB]

Bear in mind that if you want to marry a Filipina, you are not just marrying her but you are marrying her whole family.

That seems to be a popular concept here (wonder who thought of it) but a marriage contract is between 2 people.

[Bil Brock]

A lot of good advice here, the only thing I would reccomend being sure of is her marital status, if she is widiwed, divorced, or annuled, I'd procede. If none of the apply, you have a tough row to hoe.

[Thomas]

Bear in mind that if you want to marry a Filipina, you are not just marrying her but you are marrying her whole family.

That seems to be a popular concept here (wonder who thought of it) but a marriage contract is between 2 people.

Well. That's a truth with modification (And not even true if she is under 25 (?) needing permit from parents to marry :)

There is the law too about demand of supporting close relatives, when it's needed*. I have read it several times, but I still don't understand demand of support up to what level.

/surviving,

/some more,

/or all split equal, so I will need to earn "millions" to reach my wanted level myself.

*But it's good the law say, it's NO demand of supporting lazy sibblings :mocking: because it says each person need to try enough themselves (I mean when they don't have reached retirement age. But perhaps good for arguing if the kano is older than wife's parents :hystery:

[Bruce]

Let me take a different avenue here. Without going into too much detail.... Compare your internet dating ID# to hers. How long have you been a member on that site? Now assume she joined before you ... do some math and see how long she has been a member. The longer... the more chance she is a professional, supporting her family and her husband is... home!

If you are on filipinaheart... join cherryblossom and do a search for your girl, by age and location. Find her there too... more bad news. The 'lower' the ID number the longer she has been trolling. Join and search all you can for 'her'. See if you can find Waldo.

Now, just what are you looking for? A wife type companion or some arm candy? Figure it out and then maybe some guys on the forum can help you. I have contacts out on Samar, a rural area where there are less 'predatory' women than in the BIG CITY! Many members on this forum have relatives or friends who are looking for a 'nice man like you'.

Some members have wives they did meet via the internet. They may now have a wider group of women friends to refer you to.

But again, you need to think about what your goal is and then the forum members can direct you a bit better. Quality or quanity???

[stevewool]

i think i must have been so lucky in finding my wife, yes we was talking to others when we found each other and we became friends, if one of us was not on line we both would talk to others and thats what we did till we came on together then we would say bye to whom we was talking and talk together, we was friends at first, then we realized there was something more so we became boyfriend/girlfriend, there was still people that new we was together but still we spoke to because they was our friends, but after so long they too said there goodbyes and thats when you know the person you are talking too is the one for you, it took a couple of years before we meet face to face at the airport , was it love, well for Emma it was for me all i can say i would not have travelled half way across the globe for nothing, but being a stiff upper lip english man i could not say i love her until i knew in my heart,in all the time we was talking never ever was we rude to each other, to me that says a lot, you do know when you have found the right one, just be trueful to her and yourself at all times

[Americano]

What is it with english men having a stiff upper lip and only pronouncing the first part of words? Only joking some english men are all right.

Steve I'm very happy you found the right lady for you. I believe I did too after many years of looking.

Does anyone know what happened to dalidali? We haven't heard from him since last July. He was going to meet the woman in August. I hope nothing bad happened to him.

[Julia]

Quality or quantity???

quality of course... :thumbsup:

[Thomas]

But again, you need to think about what your goal is and then the forum members can direct you a bit better. Quality or quanity???

With "quantity" do you mean the women with weight over 100 kg each? :)

[Bruce]

No, if I meant weight, I would have said 'mass or bulk'. LOL

There are men called 'chubby chasers' who are very attracted to women with 'bulk'.

The issue behind internet dating is the economy. The better the economy the greater chance of finding a local man with a job and 'husband material'. The worse the economy, the greater chance that the local men have no job, menial job or have left the area for 'Manila' to look for a job. Contrary to the US government position on human trafficing, the majority of women who would be expected to go to Manila or Angeles City to work in the bars... well, they don't make the cut. So what to do what to do????

INTERNET DATING changed everything! Add to that SKYPE and YAHOO Messenger and in a very short time, it was a game changer.

Before the days of the internet, there was 1 main company, Cherry Blossoms, based in Hawaii, who actually produced a paper catalog with 'mug shot' photos and short description of women looking for YOU. Snail mail was the only choice of communication... Hell, they did not have cell phones back then and no one knew what a text message was!

But today with the internet and mutiple dating services and the poor economy.... there are thousands of women out there in data land with an ad! Some with good intentions, some with less than good intentions.

There are members of the forum who sit at the cafe in the mall every day meeting up with friends and all that time, the watch the ATM across the room and watch pretty women use multiple ATM cards to make withdraws.... Each card represents a boy friend!

So, you the man here, need to make a decision as to if you want to look for a wife, or simply use the internet to set up multiple 'hook ups' on your vacation. It is a double edged sword with both women and men abusing the situation to take advantage of the others. It takes time and patients and cross verification to weed out the ones who do not fit into your idea of what you think you want.

For those looking for quanity, the internet has changed the playing field somewhat in that before you, the man, had to go to the bars and start negotiating. Now you the man, have different options.

Personally, and please do not tell any one because I have a reputation to live DOWN to.... As a man over 50, for me QUALITY is a more stready thing and far less costly thing than QUANITY. I am too old and have lost interest in chasing young things. Too much energy lost for me and I really do not like drama. But to each his own....

Edited January 18, 2013 by Bruce

[Julia]

Let me take a different avenue here. Without going into too much detail.... Compare your internet dating ID# to hers. How long have you been a member on that site? Now assume she joined before you ... do some math and see how long she has been a member. The longer... the more chance she is a professional, supporting her family and her husband is... home!

IMHO the same is true in finding a man online ...

a year ago i joined a dating website recommended to me by a old friend - it sound like cebuana.com or something :89: . it was so naive of me to believe that those are the right sites to tell the whole world that I am the wife material that they are looking for :mocking: . I did noticed that most famous members (they were rated 5 stars - so does that mean they could be great husbands, too? :89: ) were and still are members on those dating sites yet their in their profiles you would notice that they have been members in those sites for the past 5 to 8 years. That information alone is EITHER a red alert button and a big No for me to ever consider any of them for any possible serious relationship OR it simply means that dating site is not effective as it claimed to be...

uh-oh, just saw the title of this post and realize I am :444:

what was I thinking???? :bonk:

Edited January 17, 2013 by ako si julia