Is The Pinay As Family Oreinted As They Say?

[lonewolf]

i almost didn t start this subject because i have not been able to find the utube video that was my point of proof of what isay today, in this video it was at a seaside resort , the water uis very clear and is a marked off swimming area with 78 foot rock around a cove, there is a finger that comes into the cove and the rock side are undercut well there is this good sized family there enjoying theme selves there is a cople small out rgger boat that some are paddling in and some times over the float into b]deeper water. there is also 2 biger moterizer out riggers anchor other side of bouys. the famoly i scaterred all over the area the i noticed a frail skeliton of aman sitting in a chair in a shady spot whe suddenly two women quickly converg on him trying to clean him up by splashing water on his lower body as iwatch someove theolder young girl start come quickly into picyure and aman and couple of older boy , and start helping also now there is no more room for any one else tohelp but several young girls start showing up an acouple of boys they were scattered al over he cove but now they are all around the frail old man and especially the girls were finding place to but there arms in placing them on arms legs and head patting and strocking the man. the man was so weak he could even stiffen his body so it was easier to help him. and i realized that is down deep what we xpats hope foris a family that could love us as they loved that man. first they took him with them on there outing and second when he had need all of them came running if only to give comfort of their presence.

[Jake]

.....and i realized that is down deep what we expats hope for is a family that could love us as they loved that man.

First they took him with them on there outing and second when he had need all of them came running if only to

give comfort of their presence.

Hello LoneWolf,

As being a combat medic of Screaming Eagles (101st Airborne), you have truly opened your heart in the above

post. You would hardly see any disabled or handicap Filipino citizens out in public. Many families are ashamed

or don't want to deal with escorting someone in a wheel chair. Hell, look at the typical street, sidewalk construction.

They are definitely not wheelchair friendly.

Your story of a Filipino family openly showing their care and love of the family patriarch portrays unconditional

devotion and love for another human being.

Thank you sir -- Jake

[MacBubba]

Just a thought - if Filipino parents could afford at all to feed, shelter and take care of their adult children (and even their grandchildren), they would do it. I have to qualify my statement, since obviously, finances will dictate to a good extent how much they can provide, and for how long. This is unlike Western cultures, where the parents are happy to let their children loose as soon as they are able.

I am not knocking the West...it's a tried and true way of encouraging independence and responsibility.

I am just showing the contrast, which, might explain why Filipinos look after their elders better (again, finances allowing).

[i am bob]

As my beautiful Special Someone says - her mother is very important to her! For many years her mother raised her to the best of her abilities as a single parent after her father had passed away. And even though her mother is not rich, she has helped my girlfriend to be able to attend university, have a place near the school to live and be fed every day. If someone here was in the same situation, you know their career projections would have been either Tim Hortons or McDonalds. So do you think I'm dumb enough to even consider having my sweetheart chose between her mother or me? Heck, I would chose her mom too!

:tiphat:

[joeatmanila]

i almost didn t start this subject because i have not been able to find the utube video that was my point of proof of what isay today, in this video it was at a seaside resort , the water uis very clear and is a marked off swimming area with 78 foot rock around a cove, there is a finger that comes into the cove and the rock side are undercut well there is this good sized family there enjoying theme selves there is a cople small out rgger boat that some are paddling in and some times over the float into b]deeper water. there is also 2 biger moterizer out riggers anchor other side of bouys. the famoly i scaterred all over the area the i noticed a frail skeliton of aman sitting in a chair in a shady spot whe suddenly two women quickly converg on him trying to clean him up by splashing water on his lower body as iwatch someove theolder young girl start come quickly into picyure and aman and couple of older boy , and start helping also now there is no more room for any one else tohelp but several young girls start showing up an acouple of boys they were scattered al over he cove but now they are all around the frail old man and especially the girls were finding place to but there arms in placing them on arms legs and head patting and strocking the man. the man was so weak he could even stiffen his body so it was easier to help him. and i realized that is down deep what we xpats hope foris a family that could love us as they loved that man. first they took him with them on there outing and second when he had need all of them came running if only to give comfort of their presence.

this might be happening (i have never witnessed anything as such but anyway) but bare in mind this well taken care man will never be you!!!! You will always be the kano and the most of help you might get is from your many many years wife and your own kids.

Now lets all wake up make a coffee and start our day happy and thankful to Lord for giving us another day to live :)

[i am bob]

I saw a video quite a while back that sounds like it may be the same one. I quite enjoyed it myself.

[Curley]

Maybe the old boy was loaded and they were all making sure he remembered who they were so that they were included in his will :mocking: Me? cynical?

[Thomas]

this might be happening (i have never witnessed anything as such but anyway) but bare in mind this well taken care man will never be you!!!! You will always be the kano and the most of help you might get is from your many many years wife and your own kids.

I suppose he is their grandfather. My normaly tough gf cried very much, when her grandfather died, although he was 94.

Yes, we foreigners can't expect to be loved like that by the Filipin not blood related family.

(So I better hurry to get own children :) If I'm lucky I can get grandchildren too, before I die, but I'm 59 now, so I don't expect them to reach the age as in the video, during I'm alive :)

[Bil Brock]

Having lived here for awhile, the Filipino familys appear to be much tighter than in the west. My wife demonstrated that while we were living in the USA, taking in my aging mother without a 2nd thought. Mom was suffering from dementia & sometimes wasn't real nice to my wife, but she felt it was our obligation to do our part. Partly because of that, now that we are living in Cebu, I don't mind at all when her relatives come around and stay for awhile.

[i am bob]

I wouldn't say they are closer, I would say that we are more distant and not as caring.