Kids !!! Who Wants Em ????

[Americano]

Another thing about agreeing to raise another man's kids is when they become teenagers and rebellious they may let you know that you are not their father and refuse to do anything that you tell them. I know this is a problem in the USA and my wife says its a problem here too.

Edited December 25, 2012 by Americano

[Curley]

I've never wanted kids and my first wife was a model and certainly didn't want kids "spoiling her figure" so I had a vasectomy. I've been perfectly content with our decision and still am. I am currently looking for a new wife/partner and prefer younger women (not girls). I believe that if I find a woman in her late twenties or early thirties, tell her that I cannot have kids which she accepts at the time, sooner or later Mother Nature will raise her head and the relationship is likely to go onto the rocks. By taking a woman with a young child I think it can stop the desire for a child and also give her an interest in life when perhaps I won't want to go partying/doing things. I would hope to find a woman with a child young enough to grow up thinking of me as his natural Father.

[Jack Peterson]

when they become teenagers and rebellious they may let you know that you are not their father and refuse to do anything that you tell them.

i most certainly agree for the big part BUT will depend on how, they are brought up in the earlier years, I can remember MY own children going rebellious and telling mother and me I hate you, but like most things, they will grow out of it. if the child is loved and well cared for from the beginning, it may not be as bad as at first thought.

it is not just Stepfathers that have the problem, rebellious teenagers are just that. It is how they are handled, that matters. IMHO

:tiphat: (a stepfather to a teenager.)

[Mike S]

I like kids as long as someone takes them home with them when they leave ..... :mocking: .... Sad but true I find I have very little patients dealing with kids in my golden years .... while I have been known to buy a toy or two for the little tykes living next door or McDoo for a group of special children BUT I am not responsible for raising them .... and I have NO TOLERANCE at all kids that don't behave or their parents that don't make them .... more so for the parents as they are supposed to set the example .... yea I know I'm a PITA ..... oh well .... ...... :28:

[Dave Hounddriver]

This has been a tough day. My baby is 5 weeks old and just I think he is practicing talking. He does not say mum mum or dad dad. He says YAAAAAAAAAAAA YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA at the top of his lungs all day. Don't he know his Ya Ya has a couple days off for Christmas. My wife is thinking she made a mistake wanting kids. I said its like saying you will never drink again when you got a hangover. We'll get over it. Ya Ya comes back to work tomorrow . . we she does unless she calls in sick or something.

So are you guys sure you want kids?

[Americano]

I don't want kids but every Filipina does and not just one kid as some foreigners think, they want kid after kid until they can't have any more. It could be 5, 8, 10, or 12. That's the way her mother and grand mother did it and its been put into her mind that she must do it too.

[nor cal mike]

When I met my wife I alresdy had grown children and thought I wanted no more and my wife accepted this, although voicing her opinion that she would like to have children. After some 5 or 6 years of marriage and seeing what a wonderful person she was, I, being an orphan concluded that it would be such a shame not to allow her to fulfil her dream of being a mother and not to allow a child to have this wonderful woman as a mother. We decided to have a baby and at age 65 I again became a dad. It was a decision I now enjoy every day of my life. I find so much joy in my 4 yr. old son. I have always enjoyed my children and watching them grow and become adults, but somehow this time around I think I have more patience and understanding. I guess the best way to express my sentiments is by saying we are planning to have another child soon. Just as I was finishing this post my son came into the office, waked over to my chair, offered me a hug and said "I love you dad" turned and walked out. If that doesn't warm your heart on a cold day, I don't know what will.

[i am bob]

There are a whole bunch of posts on here I would like to put "likes" to - but I"m using my smartphone at the moment and I have no idea how to do it! hehe!

Myself? I have no qualms about being a father again through having my own, adopting hers (if she had any) or even adopting outright as long as I am with the right person. It's a partnership in life and sometimes a person has to change their mind to the benefit of the partnership. Besides, then I would have somebody to play with! Wait... 9 for a baseball team... Honey, how many kids did you want?

[Bigdog]

Lucky for you I am Bob basketball is the game of choice here , you'll only need 5 for that lol...well unless you want subs hahahhaah

[lyno 47]

i am bob. i totally agree with you if you love her those kids are a part of her so why wouldnt you love them too?many adopt kids for one reason or another and bring them up as there own with as much love and caring as natural parents cheers