Gut Feeling

[buttercup1984]

To all who's in the dating/commitment stage,

When you have that gut feeling that their entertaining someone else, where you always right?

What were the signs that made you realized it?

[i am bob]

I had a lot of training - one of the reasons I am not married any more.

But when dating, it is a little different. It is usually the little things that by themselves don't mean much but once you look at them all together, they start to tell a story. From all the women I talked to in the Philippines but politely said NO THANK YOU to: Certain times (and often the same times) when she wasn't available when there was no reason for it. Emails sounded like an afterthought - as in "gee, maybe I should write a line or 2 before he thinks I've run away." Pictures from different dates and times with the same guy in the background. They don't want to talk about their personal lives but don't stop about work life. One girl in an email told me 3 different times that she had been at a church service that day - on a Wednesday and that church only had weekend services.

I think it's easier to tell when a person isn't doing these things to you. My Special Someone has never made me feel like I am anything BUT the first person she thinks of when she rises and the last person she thinks of before she goes to bed at night. Even when she was supposed to be my Pen Pal and not anything more...

[stevewool]

trust your instinct, usually they are right

[Gary]

Always chat with live webcam going, look and see whats in the background (Kids,Clothes, # of dishes on a table, .)

Notice if she always has to be offline around 4:00 to 6:00pm @ her local time, thats when the Husband/BF gets home and she has to fix dinner.

If she cant be online on the weekends its a sign that she might have a Husband/BF

If she dont have a webcam for her home computer give her one, the are cheap.

Look at her Profile on the social networks, (MSN, Yahoo, Facebook) if she has it set to where you cant see her other friends or activities RUN because she might be what I call one of them profesional Funds raisers with guys/BF's from all around the world sending her money in hope for her heart

Try to chat on MSN or Yahoo, both can be set to keep a copy of your conversation with Date/Timestamp and the webcam works great on both (She dont have to know this)

If she offers early in a relationship to take her clothes off on webcam for you, not only Run but hit the delete button on her quick, her next line in chat is going to be "There is just a little "FEE $$" required".

# 1 : If it sounds to good to be true it usualy is

[Thomas]

To all who's in the dating/commitment stage,

When you have that gut feeling that their entertaining someone else, where you always right?

What were the signs that made you realized it?

Do you mean meeting or online?

/If online - expect they "date" (=talk serious with) more than one UNTIL MEETING, because not odd if they do, because they don't even know of you will ever meet.

Ask much DIFFERENT things. Liers normaly mess up what they had said earlier. And think if what they say make sence.

And use webcams sometimes so you know if it's same person :)

/If meeting. Less hard, because then you see the body language and harder for liers then, but not easy then either.

NOTE! If a man say "I love you" very early in a relation, then he probably lie, because most SERIOUS interested men don't say it so easy... (There are a FEW exceptions.)

[Adventurer]

Facebook is your friend ;) you can find out a lot about a girl with facebook especially looking back at older posts. If there is a lot of stuff blocked or hidden on FB too then that should set alarm bells ringing. I'm glad to say my current fiancee had no alarm bells. Her FB was very natural and it reveled a lot about her and her life, her friends and who she is. Of course that is just for when you first meet and it's up to you to get to know her after that initial stage but FB can be a good screening tool for when you are looking for someone.

[Bigdog]

Just remember that being able to see a FB page doesnt mean that they dont have another one, or several....the only real way to know is in person..

[stevewool]

To all who's in the dating/commitment stage,

When you have that gut feeling that their entertaining someone else, where you always right?

What were the signs that made you realized it?

Do you mean meeting or online?

/If online - expect they "date" (=talk serious with) more than one UNTIL MEETING, because not odd if they do, because they don't even know of you will ever meet.

Ask much DIFFERENT things. Liers normaly mess up what they had said earlier. And think if what they say make sence.

And use webcams sometimes so you know if it's same person :)

/If meeting. Less hard, because then you see the body language and harder for liers then, but not easy then either.

NOTE! If a man say "I love you" very early in a relation, then he probably lie, because most SERIOUS interested men don't say it so easy... (There are a FEW exceptions.)

well said, its so easy to say it, its meaning it that counts

[Jake]

To all who's in the dating/commitment stage,

When you have that gut feeling that their entertaining someone else, where you always right?

What were the signs that made you realized it?

I have a gut feeling that ButterCup is really asking about men having someone on the side, while they

whisper sweet nothings to her. Dating and commitment stage is a two way street and it's a jungle out

there, especially dealing with the typical Filipino male -- many hit and runs and loves to collect trophies.

Please accept my apology if my assumption is incorrect. Respectfully -- kuya Jake

[nor cal mike]

many hit and runs and loves to collect trophies.

A trait not uncommon to most men, especially in our younger years.