Am I Rationalising Or What !

[Papa Carl]

I met Ellie when she was 19, I at the time was in a relationship with a Filipina, who had knocked me breathless the first time I set eyes on her, however it was not to be, and Ellie knew this and warned me of things I had been blinded to.

 

She chased me!

 

Why, boy do I ask myself that question a great deal! She is so beautiful, and mature for her age, (which appears to be the case most often here in the Philippines). This may have to do with young girls having to work to support the rest of her family, because quite frequently the boys go off to college, and the girls go off to work to pay for it?????

 

But I'm glad she did! When I was hiding in my condo in Malaysia, licking my wounds, she flew out to be with me.

 

I decided to move to the Philippines so that we could spend more time together, and again.... I'm glad I did.

 

When I lost everything, and I mean everything, no money, no work only a return ticket to the UK

 

She proposed to me!!! She begged me not to leave and said she would go out to work and make the money so that we could live together????

 

Look, whether they are in their 20's, 30's, 40's or 50's, if it is right, it is right.

 

Did we get along perfectly all the time? NO, but then I had a lot of growing up to do, to catch up to her!

 

Am I glad I married here? HELL YES!!!!

 

I am now 57 years old, Ellie is 25 years old, and we have a beautiful daughter who is 2 years and 6 months.

 

Is life better now than at any other time in my life? HELL YES

 

Do I have as much money as I did before, NO

 

Am I happier than I have ever been in my life...., probably not, BUT I am much more content with my life than at any other time.

 

Maybe I was lucky to have met Ellie when she was so young, as she was still very mature for her age, but not as yet blemished and cold hearted by many failed relationships, which made her even more determined that our relationship would work, which is why she did not give up on me, and supported me no matter how bad tempered and negative I became.

 

The saying is "All my success is built on top of all my failures" so do not give up because you failed, learn from those failures, keep trying to be successful and no doubt you will succeed.

 

I agree "think with both heads" as they are equally as important, at least that is the case in our partnership.

 

Ellie and I communicate a great deal, verbally, emotionally, sexually ... in every way. 

 

I am one lucky man to have found such a wonderful woman, who happened to be young, beautiful, smart, understanding, forgiving, and most of all..... A FILIPINA.

 

Papa Carl

[GregZ]

WoW.  AWEsoME!  Thanks for sharing. :tiphat: :thumbsup:

[Thomas]

This may have to do with young girls having to work to support the rest of her family, because quite frequently the boys go off to college, and the girls go off to work to pay for it?????

I suppose that's most common, but it isn't general. In a Bohol family I know a bit, it's the girls, who have got the higher educations, but NOT the boys. (The girls are 2nd and 4th of 4, if I remember corect. The 2nd got higher exam, but the 4th had to interupt her education and go to work abroad, when their father had to stop working, because of a stroke.) 

She proposed to me!!! She begged me not to leave and said she would go out to work and make the money so that we could live together????   Look, whether they are in their 20's, 30's, 40's or 50's, if it is right, it is right.   Did we get along perfectly all the time? NO, but then I had a lot of growing up to do, to catch up to her!   Am I glad I married here? HELL YES!!!!   I am now 57 years old, Ellie is 25 years old, and we have a beautiful daughter who is 2 years and 6 months.

57 and 25. Asians in average are better than westerners in knowing which years can suit good to each other. Yours are one of the best. You see, to have got a gold nugget. Congratulations!  :)  

I agree "think with both heads" as they are equally as important, at least that is the case in our partnership.

I recomend let the big head decide who are possible, force the small head to be quiet during that part   :mocking:   Then can the small head be allowed to have more power in the final decision.

[i am bob]

After reading this series of posts again, I want to go and steal some Navy Officer's dress whites, rush to my Special Someone's side as she slaves away at her, er, school, pick her up in my arms and carry her away while the kids all laugh and clap and throw spit-balls at each other - all while that old song by Joe Cocker and whats-her-name (Jennifer Warren) is blaring in the background!  Hey!  Who put the screen credits over my fantasy dream?

 

Seriously, I always knew we were different than those other forums here - but we also seem to have all the romantic and in-love-with-their-wives members too!  Gawd but I like it here!

 

:thumbsup:

[Westernman]

Yes, I like this forum very much. It carrys an upbeat theme and is very positive. Lots of good advice here too. Still can't understand the age difference thing, but I am trying. Different culture with different beliefs that are so far from what I know, but i like it very much. I am a pretty fit 40 at 6 ft and 180lbs so I will just have to see how things go. Never would have thought 25 was reasonable and under 20 seemed just plain impossible, but I think I will just put those old beliefs aside and just be open to whatever happens in the future. :)

 

Thanks,

 

Jason

[Jake]

Yes, I like this forum very much. It carrys an upbeat theme and is very positive. Lots of good advice here too. Still can't understand the age difference thing, but I am trying. Different culture with different beliefs that are so far from what I know, but i like it very much. I am a pretty fit 40 at 6 ft and 180lbs so I will just have to see how things go. Never would have thought 25 was reasonable and under 20 seemed just plain impossible, but I think I will just put those old beliefs aside and just be open to whatever happens in the future. :)

 

Thanks,

 

Jason

Hello Jason,

 

Apologize for the delay in approving your post.  Once you submit a few more, you should see

your post pop up automatically (wait for a few seconds).  Indeed this thread has some wonderful

love stories.  You should also pay attention to some lessons learned the hard way.....he, he.

 

Welcome sir -- Jake 

[lonewolf]

i had trouble with age thing also i was looking for someone upper thirties and forties but friends wife introduced me to her cousin ana i m in love i m engaged and i just going to jump on and take what i believe will be the best thing in my life.

[Westernman]

Oh yeah, learning from the good AND bad stuff I read here Jake.

 

Online stuff is interesting, but really raises flags for me. Just hard to weed through them. i know a lot of you did, but it is tough and I have to understand that, just like me, they are weeding through 100s of profiles too. Brutal game this love stuff!

 

Is it really common to see 65/25 relationships there? The guy is 65 of course!

 

Take care all,

 

jason

[Westernman]

No problem with the delay, the only way to weed through newbies and their intentions.

[Tukaram (Tim)]

....By and large the 30 to 40 group don't seem to want me, the reason being, I think,

that in 10 or 15 years time when I'm dribbling and peeing my pants, it may be too

late for them to start looking around again.....

 

That really does sum it up well, I think.  I got a 24 year old girlfriend and everyone seems shocked that I am so young (49).  So many get 60 year olds - they just expect me to be older (and the gray hair doesn't help ha ha).  The 30-40 year olds did all seem to be looking for guys more their own age.  I had not thought of it the way you expressed it but it makes sense to me.

 

I gave up on the dating sites and just had a Facebook friend introduce me to one her friends.  If she didn't work out I knew I could find someone after I got here easily (but still of unknown quality).   30MAY was our 1 year anniversary of talking online (I would not have known that).  And I have been living here, with her, for over 4 months now.  I am very happy.