The "m" Word And Engagement Ring Advice

[Medic Mike]

Hi Guys!

 

Need some serious advice. Been with my lovely girl for 18 months now, and have been seriously thinking about the "M" word. My girl has not been dropping any hints, but I have been thinking about it nevertheless.

 

She does not really wear rings, necklaces are more her thing.

 

What kind of engagement rings did you guys get your girls? Or did you get her one at all, and just a wedding band??

 

Thanks for the advice :).

[Americano]

Mike,

 

Do not go out by yourself and buy an expensive engagement ring or wedding band that will not fit her finger and she may not like.

 

Remember she is not an American woman who expects you to give her very expensive rings that could cost up to 6 months of your salary and if she is then you have a very big problem. The important thing is to buy the rings she likes the best and are the correct size for her finger.

 

There are at least two ways you can do this:

 

1. Ask her to marry you at a special place and time and if she says then tell her that you and her will go to a jewelry store so she can pick out the engagement ring. Let her decide between silver and gold and the design that she likes. Remember This is about her likes and dislikes not yours. And at the same time you may want to consider if she wants a matching engagement and wedding set or it doesn't matter to her. Even if she wants matching you could buy the wedding band later. Insist that you keep the ring until its time to place it on her finger. She should agree to this because its romantic to women. At another special place and time ask her to marry you and place the ring on her finger.

 

2. The same as above but don't ask her to marry you just let her know that you are thinking about it or plan to some day and then take her to the jewelry store and buy the ring which you will keep until you ask her to marry you.

 

I believe you will be surprised how cheap the rings are that she picked out compared to what you would have spent and she will be just as happy.

Edited August 3, 2013 by Americano

[Medic Mike]

Mike,

 

Do not go out by yourself and buy an expensive engagement ring or wedding band that will not fit her finger and she may not like.

 

Remember she is not an American woman who expects you to give her very expensive rings that could cost up to 6 months of your salary and if she is then you have a very big problem. The important thing is to buy the rings she likes the best and are the correct size for her finger.

 

There are at least two ways you can do this:

 

1. Ask her to marry you at a special place and time and if she says then tell her that you and her will go to a jewelry store so she can pick out the engagement ring. Let her decide between silver and gold and the design that she likes. Remember This is about her likes and dislikes not yours. And at the same time you may want to consider if she wants a matching engagement and wedding set or it doesn't matter to her. Even if she wants matching you could buy the wedding band later. Insist that you keep the ring until its time to place it on her finger. She should agree to this because its romantic to women. At another special place and time ask her to marry you and place the ring on her finger.

 

2. The same as above but don't ask her to marry you just let her know that you are thinking about it or plan to some day and then take her to the jewelry store and buy the ring which you will keep until you ask her to marry you.

 

I believe you will be surprised how cheap the rings are that she picked out compared to what you would have spent and she will be just as happy.

Great advice! Thanks :)

[Bruce]

If she is not pushing you, what are the benefits to getting married? What changes for you and her? 18 months... fine. How about 5 years and then we revisit the subject. :cheersty:

[Medic Mike]

If she is not pushing you, what are the benefits to getting married? What changes for you and her? 18 months... fine. How about 5 years and then we revisit the subject. :cheersty:

Hehe...Bruce...that is the one area I don't need any advice on :) .

Edited August 3, 2013 by Medic Mike

[Jake]

If she is not pushing you, what are the benefits to getting married? What changes for you and her? 18 months... fine. How about 5 years and then we revisit the subject. :cheersty:

Hey Medic Mike,

 

I could imagine you being lonely in the remote outback of WA, thinking about your next reunion

with your GF.  It's only natural to day dream (wet dream) and come up with some exciting ideas

for your next visit to PI.  

 

Snap out of it!  Hello...reality check please.  Go with the flow and don't push it.  Otherwise, I can

see you wearing this for the rest of your life: Subservient Husband....he, he.

 

[Medic Mike]

 

If she is not pushing you, what are the benefits to getting married? What changes for you and her? 18 months... fine. How about 5 years and then we revisit the subject. :cheersty:

Hey Medic Mike,

 

I could imagine you being lonely in the remote outback of WA, thinking about your next reunion

with your GF.  It's only natural to day dream (wet dream) and come up with some exciting ideas

for your next visit to PI.  

 

Snap out of it!  Hello...reality check please.  Go with the flow and don't push it.  Otherwise, I can

see you wearing this for the rest of your life: Subservient Husband....he, he.

 

Subservient Husband.jpg

 

LOL....she is not like that...wish I would have met her for my first marriage. She really is a super chick. The great gig I am on now will end at the end of 2014,  if I can't find another great long term FIFO gig, I will probably have to go back to working ambulance in the metro area. If we get married soon, and have that long history to show Australia, it will be a slam dunk for visa for her.

[Bruce]

Snap out of it! Hello...reality check please. Go with the flow and don't push it. Otherwise, I can see you wearing this for the rest of your life: Subservient Husband....he, he.

 

Yes! Listen to Jake. While he has been happily married to Judy for 26 years... no one has seen Judy for 25 years! Ever since that Gulf deployment. No cell phone use, no credit card use, no use of the SS # for employment.. very strange... but anyway. Just listen to Jake! Before you have to come back here in 10 years and have all of us tell you over and over.. Yup, He should have listened to Jake....   :hystery:

[Medic Mike]

So far, Americano has been the only person that has added any useful information in this thread, for which it was started. Thanks again Americano.

[sonjack2847]

I bought both the engagement and the wedding band she chose them so my advice is let her decide .Alternatively for a really cheap deal use a ring pull from a cola can hey I can live on a small budget.