Girlfriend Promised To Muslim

[Jollygoodfellow]

As far as I know, a muslim does not enter into a marriage contract with an infidel... sorry, non muslim.

 

As posted before, my brother in law is muslin married to a catholic. 

And also don't start this into a Muslim debate either.

 

There are also security warnings now due to a Muslim uprising in the Dipolog area and no flights or ships are operating.

 

My wife is often in Dipolog and I don't believe there is any trouble there.There are quite a few foreigners there too. It is true all travel was halted yesterday.

[JWilliams]

You all have been very insightful. Thank you. I have a different perspective now. I fact I called today and she says that she will not marry the guy and all is well. She’s mad at her father and they’re currently not talking.

 

There are plenty of fish in the sea. I would very much like to marry a Filipina, it just seems very difficult over the internet. I have travel there once already and I love the people there. I will take your advice an back off. Do you have any thoughts as to how, and where I still can meet a good woman? Thanks. -John.

[Thomas]

However, all the news reports say the fighting is in southern Zamboanga City and not in northern city of Dipolog... very curious!

Yes. I thought similar. Two days ago I spoke to one of my friends, who live in Dipolog, and she didn't say anything about such, which I suppouse she had if it REALY had been there.

As far as I know it's in the south half, and the biger attack was in Zamboanga city, which os much south of Dipolog.

 

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IF try to assist the girl to leave, then need to assist the family to leave too, because otherwice she will think of the risk her leaving will be for the family. I mean if she is good hearted and it's bad to get a very selfish wife  :)

[Americano]

Why is everyone so afraid of Muslims when its a peaceful religion?  I know its a peaceful religion because President Bush said it is.  Just shake hands with her promised husband and everything will be fine.

[Dave Hounddriver]

Do you have any thoughts as to how, and where I still can meet a good woman?

 

How much will you give me for my wife?  

[Bigdog]

 

Do you have any thoughts as to how, and where I still can meet a good woman?

 

How much will you give me for my wife?  

 

 How much are you offering to take her off your hands???...

[robert k]

You all have been very insightful. Thank you. I have a different perspective now. I fact I called today and she says that she will not marry the guy and all is well. She’s mad at her father and they’re currently not talking.

 

There are plenty of fish in the sea. I would very much like to marry a Filipina, it just seems very difficult over the internet. I have travel there once already and I love the people there. I will take your advice an back off. Do you have any thoughts as to how, and where I still can meet a good woman? Thanks. -John.

Keep trying John, I believe that less than half ( just a number I feel secure throwing out) on line are scamming, so if you picked five from online that never asked you for money, I think one would almost have to be a great one. I think there is no substitute for starting with a wide field, narrow it down to possibly half a dozen and conduct in person interviews, that we sometimes call dates of the finalists. :) Hard work I know, but  it has it's rewards. Other suggestions that I have heard are good are that you say you are settling in the RP and are never going back to the US, this should eliminate those hunting a green card. I would suggest that you toss any who say they are married because adultery is a crime in the RP punishable by prison time. A biggie for me is communication, if you feel that either one of you is unclear about anything, keep on it until it is resolved because you don't want to find that you can't communicate or that something that might have been a deal breaker went unnoticed because you just let something go.

 

Some people disparage the conversations that include "did you eat" "what did you eat today" "what do you like to eat". I went through that phase with my girl who is very articulate, but that communication is a SAFE topic for people who don't know each other well yet. Our first phone call my girl was so shy she would not say much and spoke so quietly I had to remind her I was calling from halfway around the world and even a good connection was not great. I persisted with, you guessed it, what did you eat followed by what is your favorite color. I eventually got her talking, some people would say that was my first mistake :) . Be persistent. You can't fail unless you stop looking before you find your good one. Welcome to the forum.

[Dave Hounddriver]

One problem with meeting a girl on line is that she is likely chatting with others on line.  It is not realistic to think that she went on the Internet, found you, knows in her heart that you are 'the one' and refuses to chat with others.  There are a LOT of guys looking for these girls on the Internet and you are competing with all of them.  It means you not only have to 'find' the right one, you have to be better than all the competition.  Are you?  Much simpler to come here and meet simple girls who don't waste their time on line like us expats.

[Jake]

Excellent comments guys, with a little bit of humor too from Dave Hounddriver.  I would like to mentioned again,

beware of the lovely ladies having secret lovers, husbands and families.  It takes time and money to really scope

your potential mate but both parties need to put everything on the table.  She's entitled to really check you out

too.

 

The internal link below is written by Papa Carl, who has intimate knowledge of the ladies working in various call

centers and nursing schools.  If I had to do it all over again, this would be my route of exploring these socially

independent Filipinas who may possibly support YOU financially....he, he.

 

 http://www.philippines-expats.com/topic/16852-internet-vs-bikini-contest-dating/page-2#entry103294

 

Good hunting JWilliams!

[Thomas]

One problem with meeting a girl on line is that she is likely chatting with others on line.  It is not realistic to think that she went on the Internet, found you, knows in her heart that you are 'the one' and refuses to chat with others.  There are a LOT of guys looking for these girls on the Internet and you are competing with all of them.  It means you not only have to 'find' the right one, you have to be better than all the competition.  Are you?  Much simpler to come here and meet simple girls who don't waste their time on line like us expats.

Actualy several of my Filipina friends, who look for husband and try online, are very frustrated because almost all, who contacted them did it just to ask to see them nude in webcam. So it don't seem to be so hard competition  :)