Is The Filipina You're Chatting With Really Her?

[Americano]

Some may ask why did I start this topic when there are already topics about meeting Filipinas on-line. I started this topic because I believe its so important that it needs its own topic.

 

Over the past 8 years I have gained a lot of experience with chatting with Filipinas on-line and especially first hand knowledge of Filipinas chatting with foreigners who they have never met in person.

 

In 1995 I chat with a Filipina for almost one year before I decided she was the right one for me and I came to visit her for 21 days.  When I went back home I started the process to bring her to the USA so we could be married.  To make a long story short. After she was in the USA and we were married I began to learn that when  I was chatting her and she was on webcam its was her cousin doing the typing.  And the days when I asked her to turn on the cam and she said there wasn't a webcam there the Filipina wasn't even present. It was only her cousin chatting with me. When I met her in person I just thought she was too shy to talk much. I didn't ask her to read and write any English so I couldn't compare her English with the person I had been chatting with. That marriage only lasted 3 years and then I came to the Philippines to live.

 

Since I have been living in the Philippines I can not count how many times I have known about a Filipina who has done the same thing or is still doing it.

 

Here's just a few examples. My neighbor who lives in the apartment below us was chatting with a Filipina for several months before he came to meet her.  He thought she was very good in reading and typing English. What he didn't know was a friend of hers was doing all of the typing because the one he thought he was chatting with can not read and write or even speak English. She only knows a few words.  But being a very nice man he stayed with her even after he discovered she wasn't the one chatting with him.  I think he regrets what happened but doesn't want to leave her after they have become attached.

 

In 2010 my wife's sister came to live with us in Cebu City. One reason was so she could try to find a foreigner on the Internet dating sites.  My wife being very good in reading, writing and speaking English registered her sister on some dating sites.  Her sister knew very little English so when a man would send her a message she would just sit there staring at the screen. That made my wife upset because her sister wouldn't type anything so my wife started typing for her.  This continued for about 4 months until one of the foreigners came to meet her.  By that time he was hooked on this very smart Filipina who was so good at English. I believe it was his second day in Cebu when they moved into a condo together. They got married but she wasn't the woman he thought she was. Now sometimes he calls her little brain because she's not intelligent and still can't speak much English. He thought she was very fluent in English and very intelligent.

 

Now we have a 1st cousin living with us for 3 months now who wants to marry a foreigner.  She has been chatting with a Canadian man who thinks he is in love with her and can't wait to meet her in October and get married as soon as possible.  She tells him she wants to marry him too.  Actually she hasn't told him anything.  My wife has to tell her what to say and she does almost all of the typing too. This cousin has even lower intelligent than her sister so she can't even answer his questions when my wife translates the questions for her.  My wife has told him a few times that I don't know much English so my cousin has to help me so he knows my wife is helping her but he doesn't realize how much help she is giving her.  One day I told my wife that her cousin couldn't find a foreigner in 100 years if you didn't help her.  Well, how could she if she can't read, write or speak English?

 

I don't agree with what they are doing but I try to mind my own business to keep peace in the family.  My wife doesn't want to do the typing for them but how else can we get rid of them?  This cousin should be gone by October or November.  We have several more relatives waiting in line.

 

There are many more stories I could tell you about the person you think you are chatting with is not the person you are chatting with and therefore if you fall in love with her its not her that you fell in love with.

 

Maybe you should tell her to aim the webcam at the keyboard instead of her face. You should see the same hands every time you chat.  And, when you meet her in person you can compare the hands. Everyone's hands look different.

 

I could post pictures but I think you get the point.

 

Let this be a warning to all who are chatting on the Internet with people you have never met or do not know very well.

Edited September 17, 2013 by Americano

[Daydreamer]

That happened to me I won't name the dating site, but I'm not sorry for coming here even if I thought she was the one reason for coming. Even though we've broken up, I still consider her friend. Considering where she lived and still does, I can't hate her or judge  because if the circumstances were reversed I probably would do the same thing. Now I more or less take that little area that says that they speak english fluently with a grain of salt, even when they have 4-5 pictures of them with the profile those pictures might (or might not)be them, but they don't tell you that they speak, write or understand English. So, far to date I have only met one that speaks English as well as write it fluently(because she works in a call center). :attention:

[Mike S]

I had a similar experience with a girl I chatted with for almost a year ... except her girlfriend was doing the typing because she was an HR person and knew English really well ..... I only found out when the GF sent me an email telling me coudn't continue as she felt it was deceitful and couldn't do it any longer ..... I told her I thought something was wrong because the last email I got you could definately tell that it was 2 different people answearing me ... I broke it off with her immediately and unfortunately the GF already had a BF .... :hystery: :hystery:  ....

 

From that point on I made sure that after a few chats thry had to have a webcam turned on .....

 

Now I am not the worlds best typer or speller in fact if it wasn't for my spellchecker I would be lost and if she had be honest with me up front it might have been different ....

 

I also chatted up a tomboy once who had excellent communications skills and I only found out about her because she had a strange email address and when I looked it up I found it tied into a blog headed up by another tomboy ..... she was going on about how Angel had left her and broke her heart and further down I discovered that Angel was indeed a girl ..... and you know me I had to confront her about it .... she was p*ssed and said so what .... I never promised to be your girlfriend ..... and she was right we never took it that far .... we still remained friends after that but kinda lost contact ..... as I said she had exceptional communications skills found out that she was a former editor/reporter for a local newspaper .....

 

So yea ..... by all means you got to be very careful ..... but I can honestly say I was never scammed for money ..... infact I was never asked to send anyone money ...... so all it cost me was a little time and i did end up finding my asawa .... so it ws well worth it .... :thumbsup:  .......... :cheersty:

[Dave Hounddriver]

Yep.  Lets face it, the ones who are good at chatting online have absolutely no need to go on line to find a foreigner.  There are scads of them here already and looking.  But every 'innocent' girl I know of has someone else 'helping' her to some degree.  Definitely the helper sets her up on a dating site.  Definitely the helper gets her started into the conversation.  Usually the helper hangs around to offer opinions and after that it totally depends on how bright the chatter is as to how much help the helper gives, which brings us back to the beginning, bright and innocent girls who have any kind of knowledge of English or some other language have no need to go on line.

 

But they do go on line sometimes, so if you are chatting with one then you may be one of the lucky ones. 

[Jollygoodfellow]

Now sometimes he calls her little brain because she's not intelligent and still can't speak much English.

 

Hope she calls him something back or ask him how he would feel if he never had the chances of an education.Totally disgusting in my opinion.

 

I don't agree with what they are doing but I try to mind my own business to keep peace in the family.  My wife doesn't want to do the typing for them but how else can we get rid of them?  This cousin should be gone by October or November.  We have several more relatives waiting in line.

 

Perhaps instead of aiding fraud it would be best to teach them English or send them somewhere to learn. Several relatives waiting in line for the same set up don't sound good to me, put your foot down.

[Ashanti]

Americano, on 17 Sept 2013 - 10:42 AM, said: I don't agree with what they are doing but I try to mind my own business to keep peace in the family.  My wife doesn't want to do the typing for them but how else can we get rid of them?  This cousin should be gone by October or November.  We have several more relatives waiting in line.   Perhaps instead of aiding fraud it would be best to teach them English or send them somewhere to learn. Several relatives waiting in line for the same set up don't sound good to me, put your foot down.

 

 

Ha ha ……………… That just reminded me of my mothers homehelp.

 

My sister helped her find a mate thru online dating.  Miss X was a young 21 yo and though quite innocent of the ways of world was not innocent of the birds and the bees.  She seems to fall for every foreign scumbag that treated her badly. To cut the story short, Miss X did find someone but it was my sister who was doing the typing and interacting with the guy out of sight of the webcam.  We used to have a good laugh when the Guy would mused out loud confused that Miss X written and english tone was not on par with her verbal communication skills.

 

Miss X used to panic when loverboy phone or was online for a webchat and my sister was busy doing something and have no time to nurse Miss X along.  Anyway, my sister told her strongly that she must learn to communicate with her beau without her as if things progress as expected, it will not be her (my sister) who would be going out with him.  Points for Miss X – she did tried her level best, just that she really have no education and have only limited english.  Not that she have a choice as my sister made her do it.  Not drastically mind, but she nursed her along, bit by bit to talk to her beau by herself without my sister.  My sister also encourages her to come clean with the man if the relationship becomes serious which Miss X did.  Infact when the man came to PI, Miss X came over to my mothers house to introduce her man to our family, especially to my sister who in effect was their guardian angel.

 

The downside is, everytime the couple have an argument or a fight, the husband will phone my sister for help which pissed off my BIL.

 

Hmmmm…………. I guess the path to true love is not smooth ……………….  :lol:

[Jake]

Hmm.....bery interesting Miss Ashanti!  I think my suspicion is now confirmed that your sister is the actual

person posting comments on this forum....he, he.  

 

Gotcha -- Jake

Edited September 23, 2013 by Jake

[Americano]

 

Now sometimes he calls her little brain because she's not intelligent and still can't speak much English.

 

Hope she calls him something back or ask him how he would feel if he never had the chances of an education.Totally disgusting in my opinion.

 

 

 

I don't agree with what they are doing but I try to mind my own business to keep peace in the family.  My wife doesn't want to do the typing for them but how else can we get rid of them?  This cousin should be gone by October or November.  We have several more relatives waiting in line.

 

Perhaps instead of aiding fraud it would be best to teach them English or send them somewhere to learn. Several relatives waiting in line for the same set up don't sound good to me, put your foot down.

 

 

Today I sent an email to him explaining that my wife that to register her on dating sites and explain to her what your comments mean and how to reply to you because your gf does not know much English. I explained the situation to him in detail so if he doesn't understand what's going on now then maybe he doesn't want to know or thinks it doesn't matter. He hasn't sent any money and he will meet her soon so it should work out good for him because if she's not the right one for him then he will be free to meet other Filipinas while he is here.

[Dave Hounddriver]

I had a similar experience with a girl I chatted with for almost a year ... except her girlfriend was doing the typing because she was an HR person and knew English really w

 

But the important thing is:  Who was the one showing you her tits?   :hystery:   (Joke ladies, don't ban me now)

[jpbago]

 

I had a similar experience with a girl I chatted with for almost a year ... except her girlfriend was doing the typing because she was an HR person and knew English really w

 

But the important thing is:  Who was the one showing you her t*t*?   :hystery:   (Joke ladies, don't ban me now)

 

 

Many years later I see the distinguishing features of every filipina

 

Now I know what you mean.