Xmas Gifts To The Family

[cebu rocks]

Oh Man I wish i could help but It has been a on going battle for us every x-mas 

 

What I had been doing is buying everyone in the small barangay a gift package of food and a bottle of rum

 

Approx 500 pesos per family for around 40 familys and although they really seem to appreciate it at the time the back biting about us is causing drama

 

I started this so i will have to continue this until we move to another town or island . I love doing this but can not understand why they feel the need to 

 

talk bad about the charity I give them . 

 

The immediate family get better presents but are never really happy  . In fact they seem to resent me buying everyone gifts since that money could have been spent on them

 

In short I think you are doing the right thing send a couple boxes Don,t send cash or you set bar that can not be removed

 

Once you do anything like this once.. They think this is a lifetime gift and will plan around you sending it next year  and if you do not  the talk about you 

 

and your cheap ways will be epic.

[Tukaram (Tim)]

40 families?  Oh, hell no, let them talk about me all they want!   :tiphat:

[Papa Carl]

I am willing to be ADOPTED!

 

I am house trained, use the CR (not the neighbours wall), put the lid and toilet seat up! Or if you want I will even sit when doing  a pee pee!

 

I dust, sweep and wash floors, and even do the dishes. I'll even cook the odd meal, so long as it involves an egg and some toast.

 

I don't clean windows.

 

Other (extra) benefits are available upon request! (depending on the request)

 

I could use a Christmas Hamper this Christmas, as could my wife, and our daughter. 

 

For any interested parties please contact me privately! With CV and full details.

 

Cebu Rocks, you can save money by not including the bottle of Rum in my hamper, I'll take money!!!! or...., some decent tea bags!!!!

 

 

Papa Carl

[anthonytt]

Wow! 40 families!

You are the Santa Claus of the Philippines !

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[Fred & Mimi]

What I had been doing is buying everyone in the small barangay a gift package of food and a bottle of rum   Approx 500 pesos per family for around 40 familys and although they really seem to appreciate it at the time the back biting about us is causing drama   I started this so i will have to continue this until we move to another town or island . I love doing this but can not understand why they feel the need to    talk bad about the charity I give them . 

 

Well I suppose after they drank the bottle of rum, got into fights and are now suffering cuts and bruises, I'd be pretty annoyed at you as well  :hystery:

[Jake]

Oh Man I wish i could help but It has been a on going battle for us every x-mas 

 

Once you do anything like this once.. They think this is a lifetime gift and will plan around you sending it next year  and if you do not  the talk about you 

 

and your cheap ways will be epic.

Hey CR,

 

I've been pulling my hair out, trying to figure out why the whole village turned against you.  With your permission,

perhaps a few follow up questions is in order.  For example, who is really the target of all the bad tsismis (gossip)?

Could it be your wife or GF already knows about it and was too embarrass or too afraid to tell you?  Do you have

a maid that could easily hear, witness and smell what really is going on behind the green door?  

 

For those of you not familiar with living in a rural Filipino barangay, the most favorite pastime is to tsismis, followed

by drinking, gambling, sabong and womanizing.  Add some Filipino crap mentality to the pot of gossiping and the

plot or story thickens.  Even the village dogs will howl about it.....he, he.

 

Seriously, as far as giving gifts outside the family, may I suggest this: find all the barangay tanods (village security)

and in your own wicked way, bribe them for some information.  Give them a small flashlight, bottles of water, a ball

cap, a smile and possibly a shot of tanduay whiskey.  For the barangay captain, a bottle of Crown Royal usually

will do the trick for future preferential treatment.  Forget about the rest of the village.  

 

By the way, Behind the Green Door was a classic porno movie in the 70's........

Edited November 22, 2013 by Jake
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[cebu rocks]

Its all gossip for sure I get along great with everyone there . Its more gossip about me when I,m gone stupid crap like why doesn,t your rich Kano buy you a car ,house,motorbike ,Why has he not married you yet ?  Is he sending money for Fiesta etc etc etc.

 

Its just everyone on the street all the people next door I buy for who are all related in one way or another and in the end its only 20t piso to help everyone have at least a couple meals at x-mas and take some pressure off them  I,m the only one who gives any kind of gift at all . 

 

I do stuff for the community because I can and want to really  My better half said this year no one gets anything we will go to Boracay but I can not be like that I know people are depending on this little gift

 

And Papa if you really do need a hamper I would gladly get one to you  . I always make up a few extra for those in need

 

I really love random gift giving and the surprised look on people faces ..  This trip will be different as I have volunteered to help with a mission in northern Cebu to help rebuild some people lifes . I will be involved with a group of 9/11 survivors who are organizing relief efforts now and need help with boots on the ground people . This will be my x-mas present to myself .

 

I know many people are on tight budgets as I am most times but when I see the kids running around with slippers so worn out its pointless I look at myself and say Do I really need to go to the city to party this weekend ?  I know I can not help everyone with everything but I have been blessed

with being born in a great country and the extra dollars I spend on charity makes me feel good inside . 

 

And although they chica about me  I am their  fouriegner and feel very safe when I am there . I just wish they would not make my honey feel bad when I,m not there . Sorry about the off topic rant 

 

p.s I do get called santa a lot 

Edited November 21, 2013 by cebu rocks

[davewe]

For me in some ways it would be easier if I were there. As Tuka Ram suggested I would just buy a gift for each child. Xmas is for the kids mostly anyway. But in my case I thought if I sent a small amount of money the family could have a nicer Xmas meal or Janet's parents could use the money for toys if they desired.

 

BTW, I really liked the idea of the Red Cross memberships. Very practical, though a bit less exciting than presents or lechon.

 

It really feels crappy to have to 2nd guess myself on this stuff. Generosity is supposed to feel good. Of course I have 2 teenagers at home and I know how thankful they will be on Xmas :( - so I should be used to this by now.

[Fred & Mimi]

My Filipina has this idea of dressing me up as Santa Claus and getting me to hand out candies to the kids in both Lilio-an and here in the Argao mountains. Kids don't gossip and always appreciate a sweet. Better that then giving to a  bunch of losers

[Tukaram (Tim)]

I have a nice Santa hat and I will be giving out candy to all the neighborhood kids.  But I like the neighborhood kids... her family... not so much ha ha   :tiphat: