Help Getting Married Please

[Call me bubba]

here is a previous topic that can help you understand

http://www.philippines-expats.com/topic/12483-dowry/

 

it is ashame that your being "forced" to help the family

.remember it is YOUR MONEY and you have the right to determine who will give/help out,

 if this early in a relationship they are asking for $$ just think what will be the REQUESTS

in the upcoming years,

 MAKE a plan to help them to help themselves, BE PROACTIVE to help , get them check ups.

little things that can improve their life,,

 

 IF these people(family) have money to buy beer. rent karaoke spend money on wasteful ventures

 then consider NOT  helping them, as if they have money for all this Cra....p.

 

if they are spend thrifts and have problems existing day to day(poor)  them help them but only to the point

 that it improves their existence,no more no less.

 

as for me, i help my now "ex-partners"extended family on less than $150(7k) a year, usually less much less.

as they refused to help themselves to improve themselves.

[Hopeless]

I have spent extended time with the family and I mean months 

 

Nice enough people but mama is money hungry

 

I,m hoping when I,m standing there she wont have the guts to extort me 

 

But I need a backup plan or 2

 

Anyone know if we could elope to Hong Kong ?

[jonSun]

50k could make the mama disapear.  Just curious where she from?

[brock]

Cant you take your girlfriend out of the country and marry her ?

I wouldn't give her mama 1 peso, And I would tell her she shouldn't be trying to make money out of her daughters happiness.

You give her any money and that will be just the start.

[Medic Mike]

When I keep hearing stories like this.....makes me want to never get romantically involved with another pinay. Been there done that! :unsure:

[SubicSteve]

50k could make the mama disapear.  Just curious where she from?

Me thinks mama would have NO reservations on making HIM disappear.

 

This woman she get NOTHING from you.  You owe her nothing.  She will never accept no as an answer if you give her money.  She will scheme and scheme and plan your final demise.

[Medic Mike]

 

50k could make the mama disapear.  Just curious where she from?

Me thinks mama would have NO reservations on making HIM disappear.

 

This woman she get NOTHING from you.  You owe her nothing.  She will never accept no as an answer if you give her money.  She will scheme and scheme and plan your final demise.

 

Another good reason to stick with bargirls :thumbsup:

[jpbago]

When I keep hearing stories like this.....makes me want to never get romantically involved with another pinay. Been there done that! :unsure:

 

But you will. It is human nature to mate, sometimes only for companionship. From your work, I see that you are a caring person. The time will come when you will meet a lovely, honest Filipina. Just learn from the past and be more careful. Have two bank accounts with her access to only one. Bargirls do not have a caring heart and are not honest. You will soon tire of fighting them away from your money.

[Thomas]

I will be back at x-mas and am considering paying the 50k and telling her good bye you will never get another peso from me for anything lol

Probably you can't do that legaly if being in Phils in the future, because legaly there is a support demand to family IN NEED, but only IF they have done their best to support themselves  :)   (I suppouse until retirement age, I guess lola have reached that...)

Its her mama who is the gold digger and thinks I,m super rich In fact i am thinking of giving her the money to prove a point to my lady .

Why? Your gf seem to have understood that point allready.

[Michealusa]

I'm not one to give advice on a Filipina but to me extortion is never acceptible in any culture or country.

I myself would just refuse to pay and wait it out. I doubt paying the mother once will be the end of it and it will happen again.

Beside that I don't think I would want to be part of a family that does this...