How Did You Meet Your Lady?

[BrettGC]

Well guys, as the subject says, how did you meet her/him (yes, there are gay and female members on this forum)

 

Bit of a twisted story for myself.  I met Arlyn, my first Filipina gf on a dating site.  She wanted more kids, I didn't.  We parted ways but are still friends and chat on Skype every now and then.  I value her as a friend and she's actually vetted women for me lol.  She's now happily married and her husband and I are good friends.  He's an Aussie (ex-navy) that I introduced to her and they spend their time between AC and Butuan (he works on the rigs in the South China Sea). He owns a condo in AC and her family is from Butuan.

 

Now this is the interesting one.  I met Aines (Short Angry One - 125cm (4'11") and 40kg (88 pounds) of pure loveable angry, caring, independent, compassionate, hard, generous, pragmatic and loving woman) many years ago here in Aust.  She's my eldest daughter's best friends' older sister.  My eldest is 23, SAO is 8 years older than her sister.  SAO was born in PI, as were her two older brothers, but her two younger sisters were born in Australia.  I've known her since she was about 14 and I was in my late 20's. She was just my daughter's best friends' older sister.  Her parents divorced and Momma took the girls back to PI. Then about 8 months ago, just after I'd split with Arlyn, SAO was back in Aust visiting her dad and was at my daughter's birthday party. We ended up just talking all night.  She's a widow, her husband died 6 years ago in a car accident in Dumaguete.  She has a 15yo daughter - yes she fell pregnant soon after arriving back in PI - who now calls me dad.  My daughter went nuts when she found out things were developing, called me a dirty old man (I'm 45 in March) etc but then she saw us together.  After that her words were "Dad, you've spent your whole life making other people happy, go and be happy yourself". Ever met a woman where you can have an entire conversation without a word spoken?  I met that girl.  The only thing we don't agree on is religion; I often tell her that if I walked into a church there'd be a lightning strike.  I've said this before but here it is again:  I asked her if she'd ever want to live in Australia?  Her reply was:  "Honey, why would we live anywhere that thing things that don't really matter in life are so important to everyone?".  Yep, that's my girl, I love her. 

 

So what's your story?

Edited January 17, 2014 by BrettGC

[Jeff R]

Well Brett,

 

I too met my gal on a dating site, although it wasn't as interesting as your story. It was my first time on a dating site and I was amazed at how many women showed an interest. I really had a problem with the younger ones. Why would a 20 something woman be interested in an old fart like me. Of course the first thing that comes to mind is the money/green card thing. I also noticed that most of the young women who were interested in older guys had kids. So again I was thinking financial support instead of love. Well, most of you are aware of all this so I won't bore you any further. I eventually narrowed it down to my beautiful 28 year old Yearha. She has proven that she is not looking for a green card as she wants to stay in the Philippines. She has also proven that money is not an issue as she asked that I cancel some of my contracts to come the Philippines earlier then I had originally planned. So anyone who is suspicious of dating sites, I say try them. Just take it slow and be very selective.

[jon1]

I met my wonderful, caring, trustworthy, beautiful woman thru a Filipino friend. I was deployed in 2002 for OEF down in Mindanao.  We hit it off quite smashingly and within several months I knew that she was the woman that I needed in my life. I did several tours there over the following 2 years and we continued to grow together. After that, we did the long distance relationship for several years (with multiple visits per year back to the PI), before I was able to come back long term in 2007. We have been together fulltime ever since. In the beginning I gave her some simple rules;

 

1.     No drama

2.     I am not an ATM and the first time I start feeling as such, she is gone. I control the money and will not be stupid with it. I have worked too hard for it.

3.     We will always communicate what we are feeling or if we slight each other (unknowingly or not). There are too many gaps in our cultures and communication.

4.     It’s OK to get angry but at the end of the day we kiss each other good night and sleep together. The first time that someone feels that somebody needs to sleep on the sofa, she is out the door with her bags packed.

5.     I give her an allowance and she does what she wants with it (helps her family, spends it on personal stuff, whatever). I do not question how she spends her money.

6.     We make decisions and goals together. I listen to her viewpoint and input but the final decision is mine.

 

We endured our initial trials that all couples go through when learning about and adjusting to each other (especially culturally and expectations). Both of us have gone through hospitalizations and stuck by each other. She has kept her family at bay on Rule#2 and the extended family finally understood after about 5 years.  We both give and take and rarely argue about anything.  Over the last couple of years we have been focused on weeding out any negative influences in our life (friends, relatives, etc.). We now have a rock solid partnership and 100% trust in everything.

 

I have helped her brother and sister get a college education with the goal of them supporting the extended family. I was able to purchase the family a safe place to live in and also my retirement home in Subic.  She is the best thing that ever happened to me and we are closer now than ever before. 

 

 

[scott h]

22 years ago, a friend gave me the address of a lady in the Philippines, a friend of his girlfriend. After two years of writing (snail mail) back and forth, and a bi weekly phone call. She came to visit her cousins in San Francisco (tourist visa). We met in Vegas and got married, lol. A National Guard buddy worked in US customs and immigration. He introduced us to his friend who was in the Green Card section. He fast tracked my wife and she got her green card in about four months (who said that only the Philippine government was crooked, lol). After following me around the globe in the service, we returned to retire here in the Philippines. Tore down the house she inherited and built our dream home.

[jpbago]

Some men will say that their wife is one of a kind.

Some men will say their wife is one in a million.

Mine was won in a raffle!

[funtobewith]

I met her online. She's the best thing that happens to my life and I'm so excited to be with her forever. :)

[Jollygoodfellow]

I met her online. She's the best thing that happens to my life and I'm so excited to be with her forever. :)

 

Her or him? You say your female. I suspect your getting your post count up, come on tell me! Wont matter anyway as I put you on permanent moderation.   :cheersty:

[Tukaram (Tim)]

I met a girl on DIA and we became friends through chat.  Moved to Facebook, and later we moved to our real FB accounts.  Just stayed friends.  There was nothing sexual in our demeanor or talking.  She later hooked up with a 60 year old Aussie and seems quite happy.

 

When I was getting close to the point of moving over here I asked her if she had a friend that I would like.  Hoping that she would not introduce me to a scammer or a nut case.  After 7 or 8 months of talking to Melane (the damn house just would not sell) i finally moved.  Went to Panay instead of Cebu as planned, to meet Melane.  Been in Iloilo almost a year now.. things are going great!

[funtobewith]

 

I met her online. She's the best thing that happens to my life and I'm so excited to be with her forever. :)

 

Her or him? You say your female. I suspect your getting your post count up, come on tell me! Wont matter anyway as I put you on permanent moderation.   :cheersty:

 

 

Yes I'm a girl, and she's also a girl. Hope it doesn't bother you at all. :)

[Julia]

 

I met her online. She's the best thing that happens to my life and I'm so excited to be with her forever. :)

 

:thumbsup:

Edited February 13, 2014 by ako si julia