Marriage Agreement

[Curley]

We've all heard of the tales of what we should and should not do or expect from our Filipinas with regard to such things as how far from the family we'll live, gifts, loans, allowances etc. Many of these are mentioned on here AFTER it's too late or it's claimed that it wasn't understood. Has anyone ever put these things into writing before the deed was done? I know MY girl is different and these things won't be needed BUT ...........

[scott h]

Well Curley my first reaction is "what good will it do" remember the saying "happy wife, happy life" if you live a long way from the family and she is miserable,,so will you be lolol. And because almost everything Houses, business has to be in her name and we depend on them for ACR card and balikbayan visa. If she throws you out on your ear knowing the courts here, you would starve before you got your stuff back. I am being tounge in cheek,,,mostly lolol.

[Lou49]

Well Curley my first reaction is "what good will it do" remember the saying "happy wife, happy life" if you live a long way from the family and she is miserable,,so will you be lolol. And because almost everything Houses, business has to be in her name and we depend on them for ACR card and balikbayan visa. If she throws you out on your ear knowing the courts here, you would starve before you got your stuff back. I am being tounge in cheek,,,mostly lolol.

You are right, a prenup will not save you here.

[Curley]

Hmmmm, thanks for the replies but I'm not talking about a property prenup. Rather all the little things we should agree on, my attempt to pre-empt any diagreements later. As my original post said..... gifts loans allowances etc. I'd be glad to hear of anything that members think ought to be included.

 

My thoughts are that if all goes well then I want to give an "allowance" to cover family needs, birthday/wedding/graduation gifts etc Do I pay it monthly, weekly, daily (lol) knowing the Asian lack of ability to budget? That way she will have control of the money and how she spends it, probably a daft idea? I just feel if it's in writing it could save headaches later.

Edited March 30, 2014 by Curley

[Thomas]

but I'm not talking about a property prenup.

I have even brought up rules as e g no kids in parents's bed when it's sleep time  (with some defined exceptions).  But I suppouse it would be better to put such in writing so she haven't "forgot" the agreements later  :lol:

=All demands (of course details can be negotiated even if the main can't) better be decided before marriage, because IF not agreeing about what you find IMPORTANT, then better NOT marry that woman   :)

But everything negotiable can WAIT until after the wedding.

 

 

Well Curley my first reaction is "what good will it do" remember the saying "happy wife, happy life" if you live a long way from the family and she is miserable,,so will you be lolol. And because almost everything Houses, business has to be in her name and we depend on them for ACR card and balikbayan visa. If she throws you out on your ear knowing the courts here, you would starve before you got your stuff back. I am being tounge in cheek,,,mostly lolol.

You are right, a prenup will not save you here.

I believe so too, but I think better not make it to easy to take things from you...   :)

So I will probably make a prenup,

and surely put the house in my name with a long time lease contract in my name even if it's on her land.

Loans will be in the name of the one, who is the owner, so I don't end up with depts but no land  :mocking:

If I make any biger investment in business besides property, I will let my Swedish company be the owner and lease/loan to the Philippine company.  (But no need if it's an "Export business" because then foreigners can own whole.)

I will teach my wife business knowledge, so she know how to handle most things, so the company don't die fast if I get very ill or die,

BUT keep some important information for myself, writing it down in instructions, which she will get when I die  - except if I'm murdered instigated by her  :)

 

Summary: Taking precoursions - or how to spell it  :)  -

and being suspicious BEFORE the wedding,

but not after, because such damage relations.

Try to be worth more to her kept and alive   :)

[Lou49]

I think it is a BIG mistake to give money to the family. I know sooo many guys who have regretted doing so, including myself. Don't do it.

[Thomas]

I think it is a BIG mistake to give money to the family. I know sooo many guys who have regretted doing so, including myself. Don't do it.

According to RP law, you have to support the family  :)    ( if they need when they do their best.)

[Lou49]

Here is a plan for you. Come to the PI and rent for one year. Get your gf to live with you. Or not. Do not give any money to the family! See how u feel in a year.

[Curley]

hmmmmm, thanks for the replies but my original question was.....

 

Has anyone ever put these things into writing before the deed was done?

 

I was hoping for a well written "list" of all the things that could cause a speed hump in the future. mission impossible?

[Curley]

I think it is a BIG mistake to give money to the family. I know sooo many guys who have regretted doing so, including myself. Don't do it.

 

I am not planning on giving money to the family but according to many of you a request will most likely arrive at some point.

 

Does nobody give their wives an allowance to spend on themselves as they see fit? Do they have to ask every time they want a lipstick/phone topup etc?

 

Part of the idea is to prevent requests for money for family reasons...... birthdays/weddings/funerals/graduations etc Let her have a "salary" to decide and to learn how to budget.

 

Perhaps I think too much?