Lost Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 With all the horror stories and warnings posted online, I’m amazed by the level of delusion of some old foreigners seeking a young spouse in the PI. I have really come to appreciate seeing a kano with a similarly aged wife (10 or less years difference). Of course each girl and each relationship is unique, but over the years I have seen the same patterns repeating over and over. These patterns are so common they have become cliche, but hey, you’re girl is different, right? 1.Your much younger gf/wife is very good at pretending she loves you, she may have even convinced herself she loves you. In reality, though, she loves your money. This should be obvious enough, why else would she be interested in you? Oh right, because you’re honest and loyal. 2. Your age difference is mocked constantly behind your back by Filipinos — it is not accepted. I see them laughing and hear them talking in Tagalog about you after you walk away. 3. There is a very high likelihood that one of my young, handsome friends has been treated to dinner by you and has slept in your bed. (I don’t do this myself, but I’ve had countless opportunities). 4. You have probably met her filipino boyfriend and were told it’s her brother or cousin. 5. If you met her on DIA, you are likely one of several she’s working. Even after years or marriage or dating I’ve seen this. 6. The expression “hinihintay ko siyang mamatay” is extremely common. My question, especially in extreme cases like 30+ year difference, does the guy simply accept the obvious fact that their relationship is financial arraignment? Maybe when you hit your 60’s you just don’t care? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MikeB Posted August 28, 2014 Popular Post Posted August 28, 2014 My question, especially in extreme cases like 30+ year difference, does the guy simply accept the obvious fact that their relationship is financial arraignment? Maybe when you hit your 60’s you just don’t care? I don't know the answers to your questions. My only comment to your post is that we would all be better off if we didn't judge people and relationships we don't know the first thing about. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 My question, especially in extreme cases like 30+ year difference, does the guy simply accept the obvious fact that their relationship is financial arraignment? Maybe when you hit your 60’s you just don’t care? I don't know the answers to your questions. My only comment to your post is that we would all be better off if we didn't judge people and relationships we don't know the first thing about. To be clear I'm not commenting on any of the people here specifically, everything I'm referring to I witnessed first hand. And I've had filipinas confide in me that their relationship is only about money on countless occasions. So I don't really mean to judge, this is just another cautionary tale about what I've witnessed. Since I'm in my 20's I have a different perspective from most of the guys here, admittedly though it's a perspective formed with limited life experience. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Negrito Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Since I'm in my 20's I have a different perspective from most of the guys here, admittedly though it's a perspective formed with limited life experience. Very limited life's experience junior. I am only in my 40's but still enough older than you to say you are looking at the small picture and limited experience. I have talked to many Filipinas who I had no intention of dating nor they dating me and they told me how much they loved their older boyfriends. Granted in my limited experience, more limited than most site members, the age difference was only about 20 years but that is still significant. However it is not unheard of anywhere in the world. I have had girls 20 years younger than me interested in me here in the west and trust me I have no money nor dashing good looks. My only saving grace is I am nice and sometimes funny. I think you have a jaded view of things and I would be interested in the girls and other people you hear saying these things. Could they be scammers, bar girls (not that they are all bad but there are lots of pretty bad ones from what I hear) or other dubious kinds? Could the people laughing and gossiping be jealous or just chismosos with nothing better to do? (Sorry I used the Spanish spelling because I am familiar with that one) 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrettGC Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Since I'm in my 20's I have a different perspective from most of the guys here, admittedly though it's a perspective formed with limited life experience. Glad you qualified your initial remarks with this. I basically agree with everything El Negrito posted in response so I won't go into one of my rants about stereotyping and sweeping statements... Triple like to you El Negrito!! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lost Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I don't have much contact with bar girls, nor is there any angle to scam. The cases I'm talking about are normally involving guys in their 60's and the girl in 20's, I don't think anyone would consider 20 years much of an age difference here. I don't want to sound like I'm bashing or judging, these aren't even opinions, it's what I've seen first hand. I probably should have worded my initial post differently, but I've seen it so often I start to speak in generalities. I believe my age allows for a more natural, and perhaps honest, interaction with younger filipinas. My experience is very different than lots of other guys here, so in that way my age doesn't make my perspective any less valid (perhaps more valid in this case at least). Besides, you have to admit it's hard to automatically equate age with wisdom when you see the life decisions of many old expats out here. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post frosty (chris) Posted August 28, 2014 Popular Post Posted August 28, 2014 You're probably right in everything you say, but most, but not all of the young ladies I know here will have nothing to do with a young expat, they all seem to be happy with an older and some time wiser man. Money or not. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 you have to admit it's hard to automatically equate age with wisdom when you see the life decisions of many old expats out here. Not so. The old guys I know here are large and in charge. Whereas the keyboard warriors I meet here . . well you can guess. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Negrito Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Besides, you have to admit it's hard to automatically equate age with wisdom when you see the life decisions of many old expats out here. It's not automatic, there will always be "old fools" but by comparison there will almost always be more "young fools".And there is always an angle to scam. Your first hand experience will be WAY different than the general life's experience. Also could girls be telling you what you want to hear or they expect you want to hear? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Negrito Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 You're probably right in everything you say, but most, but not all of the young ladies I know here will have nothing to do with a young expat, they all seem to be happy with an older and some time wiser man. Money or not. I agree, to the point that I sometimes wonder if I even have a shot being only in my early 40s. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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