Foreigners Living Outside Philippines With Filipina Wife How.....

[Old55]

Members living in your home country's with a Filipina wife how long did it take you to meet Miss right?

How did that work out, did you visit Philippines meeting a few ladies or just one?

What length of time did you and your girl spend together before you got married and or she arrived inher new home?

What is your story?

My wife and I met in 1998 in Cebu. We had corresponded a little bit (post office and letters!) we met for six days the last part of my two week vacation diving in Luzon. I had met a coworkers Filipina wife's family member first. When I first saw her at a distance I thought she is so small! I also knew this was a significant moment in my life. During the last hours before my departure my wife was very emotional but in a contained mature way. I bet others have had moments like this?

I soon returned for a short two week visit. A short time after getting home from that trip I proposed on the phone. Twenty days face to face total.

Not long after I flew back for three weeks, we got married. It took well over a year for her to arrive in the States. During that time my son and I visited for two weeks.

Once she arrived it took all of about six weeks for her to get knocked up!

We had some ups and downs at first mostly caused by her temper and using Tampo. About ten years ago my wife quit that game and our marriage gets stronger every day. She is my life and means everything to me.

[Methersgate]

In my case I am superbly qualified to answer this as I have married and divorced one Filipina lady and am about to marry another, so I have loads of experience! :lol:

 

In the first case, about three years of fairly regular visits and weekly ten minute phone calls from and IDD shop in the plaza. This was when the Interthing was just a gleam in Tim Berners-Lee's eye, of course.

 

In the second case twenty years later, four hours, ten minutes*, followed by a ten day holiday to make sure after three months.. 

*That was the length of time we had in each others' company; the next day I boarded a plane to HK and by the time I got off the connecting service in London 20 odd hours later I knew I was, to my own surprise, in love.

Edited July 21, 2014 by Methersgate

[Jake]

In my case I am superbly qualified to answer this as I have married and divorced one Filipina lady and am about to marry another, so I have loads of experience! :lol:

 

In the first case, about three years of fairly regular visits and weekly ten minute phone calls from and IDD shop in the plaza. This was when the Interthing was just a gleam in Tim Berners-Lee's eye, of course.

 

In the second case twenty years later, four hours, ten minutes*, followed by a ten day holiday to make sure after three months.. 

*That was the length of time we had in each others' company; the next day I boarded a plane to HK and by the time I got off the connecting service in London 20 odd hours later I knew I was, to my own surprise, in love.

In my personal experience, I couldn't eat, sleep or walk without thinking of her each and every second.

In my case, it's that love-lust bug that bit me, especially when I have been suffering from lackofnooky

for awhile......he, he.  

 

DOM forever -- Jake

[Jake]

Hmm......bery interesting questions Dan.  Here is one of my comments regarding this matter:

 

I believe for those who are able to travel abroad for fiance visa are experiencing cultural shock anyway and have

no allies (other Filipinas) to comfort them initially.  But when they get comfortable with their new surroundings and

new friends, the honeymoon may be over.  It's really up to you guys to keep the flame going and treat your new

wife with utmost care and patience.  

 

A common kill joy for the new relationship is being overbearing, overprotective and overly jealous.  Many times they

will get severely homesick or realize that you're a real butt hole and will beg for a trip back, with or without you.

 

The Filipina can be very fragile like a fresh egg in a strange land.  In some cases however, it may be good to crack

that egg early in your relationship.  She may turn out to be like a balut on the inside......he, he.  

 

 

[Methersgate]

Hmm......bery interesting questions Dan.  Here is one of my comments regarding this matter:

 

I believe for those who are able to travel abroad for fiance visa are experiencing cultural shock anyway and have

no allies (other Filipinas) to comfort them initially.  But when they get comfortable with their new surroundings and

new friends, the honeymoon may be over.  It's really up to you guys to keep the flame going and treat your new

wife with utmost care and patience.  

 

A common kill joy for the new relationship is being overbearing, overprotective and overly jealous.  Many times they

will get severely homesick or realize that you're a real butt hole and will beg for a trip back, with or without you.

 

The Filipina can be very fragile like a fresh egg in a strange land.  In some cases however, it may be good to crack

that egg early in your relationship.  She may turn out to be like a balut on the inside......he, he.  

 

I agree entirely. She is lonely and scared. If you think about it, to marry a foreigner and move to a land you have never seen is an incredibly brave thing to do.Take extra good care but don't ever be  overbearing, overprotective and overly jealous.

[MacBubba]

Although there are plenty of Filipinas in Toronto, I never even gave them a thought until I met her.  I was very attracted on sight, and the minute she spoke, I could not contain my excitement.  I not only loved looking at her, I loved hearing her speak!  I still do...

 

When we got back from separate holidays, I made it my mission to be with her whenever I could.  Even if it meant waiting for her to come out of her house so I could drive her to work at 6 in the morning!  She was very surprised when I turned up that first morning, but wasn't that surprised anymore when she found me waiting for her outside the office after work.

 

Three months after we met, I proposed, and three months after that, we were married.  To be sure, there were adjustments to be made, but ALL WORTH IT!  With having just met and soon married, we really did not have a lot of long talks about our future.  Luckily, she took the reins for planning and finances, and frankly, she has the better head for it.  If I had known that of course, I would have married her even sooner!

[Old55]

Good story's thanks for sharing guys.

Mac, same with me..... nothing better to my ears than the sound of my wife's voice.

[stevewool]

I met my wife on the internet, just looking to chat who ever would chat back, after a few months of saying hi to each other we said so we make a go of it, just talking to each other and no one else, so we did,

It took just over 2 and a bit years before we meet face to face and she was everything she said she was, a month together went so fast and at the airport saying our goodbyes she said she loved me, but i could not return what she wanted to hear, i saw the tears running down her face as she got into the cab, i felt rotten but i could not say those words without meaning them,

Got back to England and within 6 months she was here and within 3 months we was married,

I have never looked back, she is the best person anyone could ever meet, beautiful on the inside too, and now i do tell her i love her everyday

[intrepid]

Got her address and age only from a penpal website.  She didn't have a computer or even the desire to use one at the time.  Exchanged letters and photos :thumbsup: (WOW) :thumbsup: for 10 months and decided it was time to meet.  After a long wait at the airport we finally met and spent my whole vacation traveling around Manila and Laguna with her and her family and friends.  An unbelievable first meeting and first trip to the Philippines :999: .   We felt we knew each other our whole lives.  Although I asked her if she wanted to get married I told her not to make a committed final decision until she visited my home, place, family and friends.  I did not want her to feel obligated if she arrived and did not feel comfortable in my place and with my family.  I don't think there was any doubt in her mind and after arriving, two weeks later I asks her again for "final decision".  We were married a month later.  Although its been almost 10 years now, it seems like just 10 weeks.  Later when we talked about those early days after her arriving, she confessed her mother made her promise that if my family and especially my children did not accept her and give their blessing that she would not get married and return to the Philippines.  I was 44 and she was 38 at that time.  My children were 18 and 21 at the time.  Since then we added our daughter and and two grandchildren.  Life could not be better, I feel sometimes I don't deserve such a good woman! :tiphat:

[Old55]

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I never get tired of reading story's like yours Intrepid.