Marrying A Filipina

[pokermike]

My three children only care that i am happy. I will be married two years in November, she turns 21 on December 11 and my son will be 28 on December 12. We are having a huge party many friends, my children and lots of co workers. i am in the casino business i think most casino employees in general are more open minded or it sure seems like it, They tease me and say i might not be able to handle her !    My doctor said to me Michael you climb that mountain every day and it takes 3 hours , then you go to work and sometimes the gym, then you and your wife play around all night. He said someone could die.  I said doc if she dies she dies.

I think she will be ok after all she is almost 21 and i am 67.   

I am on a two year vaction so far only about 30 more now!    Pokermike

[El Negrito]

I think she will be ok after all she is almost 21 and i am 67. 

 

Whoa dude! High five to you! You gotta show us a picture of this awesome couple! Well only if you want. Congrats!

[scott h]

I could give a rats patooty about age difference, in fact I might be a bit envious :cheersty: . IMHO the red flags I see is the age of her parents and siblings and her being one of the youngest. Seems that most Filipinos retire (or just quit working and watch the grandkids). I hope you are financially well off, I see a lot of family support coming your way.....Just a thought 

[Coffeehound]

I think far too much focus is placed on a number (age). The only really important question is do the two of you make each other happy? If so, everything else is just a minor detail.

[palu]

To be honest, if you live by other people's opinion, you will never do anything in life. You do what you think is best for you and let others do the same. But, of course, that is MY opinion! :cheersty:

[Alby]

Tell me folks something?

Why is it very normal for a person to do whatever he likes? Isn't that selfish if one just does things without any consideration to others?

Coz if so, then what would make him any different than say a bank robber, for example? The robber is also doing it for himself?

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[El Negrito]

Tell me folks something?

Why is it very normal for a person to do whatever he likes? Isn't that selfish if one just does things without any consideration to others?

Coz if so, then what would make him any different than say a bank robber, for example? The robber is also doing it for himself?

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I don't think anyone is saying just do whatever you want without thinking of the consequences. But for the most part this is a matter of personal happiness. The age of the person you marry really shouldn't matter within reason, another words providing they are at the very least legally able to choose to get married.

 

Sure you should think of the consequences, such as will the person be mature enough. Again this is not so much a matter of age but really depends on the person. Some 40 year old's act like they are 15 years old and some 20-25 year old's act like they are 40-50. You may also want to consider that perhaps you, your friends and or family may experience some sort of social criticism but really most people should be mature enough to handle that and over time, from what I have heard, it eventually just disappears.

 

So what I think most are saying is don't worry so much about age or what other people think, worry about if that person makes you happy. Also, your analogy of a bank robber is not even close to being fitting since no one is talking about committing any sort of crime whatsoever.

[Tukaram (Tim)]

Tell me folks something?

Why is it very normal for a person to do whatever he likes? Isn't that selfish if one just does things without any consideration to others?

Coz if so, then what would make him any different than say a bank robber, for example? The robber is also doing it for himself?

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I am not in Wicca but I like one of their sayings:  "an ye harm none, do what you will."   Robbing a bank harms others.  So it is not a good choice of behaviors.  Who I choose to marry affects no one else, and as such is no ones business.  There are rules we have to follow while living in a society.  But I have to live true to myself. 

 

I live within society and it's rules, but ultimately I live for myself.  We all do.  My friends and family are important, and I do consider them in my decisions.  But at the end of the day no one is living inside my head but me... and I have to be happy there.  :tiphat:

[El Negrito]

My friends and family are important, and I do consider them in my decisions.  But at the end of the day no one is living inside my head but me... and I have to be happy there. 

 

Exactly, you can make your decisions to make other people happy but what good does it do if you yourself are unhappy? None at all. And any happiness or satisfaction that it might bring others, if any at all, will be very little and very quickly forgotten. Your unhappiness could last much longer, this I know from hard life's experience.

[MikeB]

The OP met a woman on the internet who lives in a 3rd world country on the other side of the world. They have spent several weeks together and he's planning to bring her to the US via a fiancee visa, after that it's kind of unclear. I don't think the family and friends are being too out of line by expressing "resistance and disapproval". Unless he's hired an investigator (not a bad idea) he can't possibly know if this person "has an impeccable reputation in her personal life". He wanted advice so here's mine - take it slow, one step at a time. No need to rush.