rfhypnos Posted October 25, 2014 Posted October 25, 2014 I have the deepest respect and admiration for the fiancé I have in the Philippines, she has a 10 yr old son and I know some of he details about how she became pregnant. And have also been given a lot of details about her past. No bar girl work and many hard years of working in Manila with her son in Bohol with the grandparents. What I am curious about and hopefully there will be some women answering this, are there topics to discuss and what questions would be insulting to a normal working Filipina? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Americano Posted October 25, 2014 Popular Post Posted October 25, 2014 Its very common for almost every Filipina to get pregnant with or without a boyfriend or husband. It seems like they don't know anything about birth control. I'm not a woman but I believe you can ask her any question that does not imply that she did anything wrong. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Methersgate Posted October 25, 2014 Popular Post Posted October 25, 2014 (edited) None. There are no safe questions.Wait for her siblings and outlaws to tell you all the family secrets, including hers. They will be only too happy to do so. Edited October 25, 2014 by Methersgate 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post softheart Posted October 26, 2014 Popular Post Posted October 26, 2014 No one can tell us the safe question to ask, my suggestion is if you really love and respect your gf better accept her the way she is and wait for the time she tells you, anyway past is past so if possible let it be forgotten and help her start a new better life. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrettGC Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 (edited) Very much a "two sided coin". On one side you have the "her past is what made her what she is today and be happy with that" The other side is there may be something in her past that will come and bite you both on the arse in the future. If you explain your reasoning for the questions in a conciliatory but straight forward manner most reasonable people (yeah I know :bash: ) shouldn't have a problem with this, even taking into account cultural differences. Having said that, there are some lines that some people won't allow you to cross; you'll recognise it when you see it. As for her being Filipina? It's like saying the same of a woman from any country. Boundries, whilst they do tend to have their broader basis in a larger cultural perspective, do come down to individual perspectives in the end i.e. there's no "one size fits all" anywhere. So, if you're engaged to this lady, you're probably best suited to be the judge of how far you can go/push depending on how well you actually do know her. Personally I'm a fan of full disclosure, mainly for the reasons explained by the second side of the coin. Edited October 26, 2014 by BrettGC 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jpbago Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 You could do it one for one. You tell her about your first wife then she will tell you about her first husband. Then you tell her about your second wife and so on and so on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support Mike J Posted October 26, 2014 Forum Support Posted October 26, 2014 Perhaps you should start with this question for yourself. "Will I love her any less based on what information may come to light?" If the answer is yes, maybe you are not really committed to the relationship at this time, or are having doubts? If the answer is no, it may be best just to not pursue those type of questions? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Its very common for almost every Filipina to get pregnant with or without a boyfriend or husband. WOW! Americano that would be a Lot of Immaculate Conceptions, without a B/For Husband! (Think about it) :unsure: :rolleyes: JP :tiphat: :morning1: Happy Sunday Morning All 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert k Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Perhaps you should start with this question for yourself. "Will I love her any less based on what information may come to light?" If the answer is yes, maybe you are not really committed to the relationship at this time, or are having doubts? If the answer is no, it may be best just to not pursue those type of questions? Mike, I may not love her any less, but I may decide that I will not marry her or even be within 100 kilometers of her depending on what I find. I think one had better not turn a blind eye. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
komments Posted October 26, 2014 Posted October 26, 2014 Its very common for almost every Filipina to get pregnant with or without a boyfriend or husband. It seems like they don't know anything about birth control. I'm not a woman but I believe you can ask her any question that does not imply that she did anything wrong. Isn't that true about most women - from anywhere. I would imagine age and weight would be off limits as well. :tiphat: 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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