How Does Conversation Work With Your Filipina Wife/gf?

[usa32]

Obviously Filipina's have advantages over western women. Less materialistic(usually), thinnner most of the time, usually sweeter and nicer in general, more family oriented. In most ways they seem to make better "wives". with that said I have talked to a few nice ones on skype(for a year or more, no money asked) and while they speak english, it is a bit broken, with quite a few differences, as they dont seem to pick up sarcasm very well. It would seem definitly at first, conversation, would be minimal, and you wouldnt have the "connection" you might have with an american woman, and while sex is great, everyone knows, you need to be able to have good conversation, to have a successful relationship.

 

Any opinions, from people who have dated/married a filipina? Does this get better over time?

 

 

[jpbago]

Any opinions, from people who have dated/married a filipina? Does this get better over time?

 

The sex gets better but everything else stays the same.

[frosty (chris)]

 

The sex gets better but everything else stays the same.

 

Very true, couldn't agree more :thumbsup:

Edited December 7, 2014 by frosty (chris)

[usa32]

And that does not take away from the relationship, or affection you might feel for someone you are married to?

 

You would think after a period of time, they would start to get sarcasm and you would have more things to talk about as time goes on.

 

no?

[scott h]

Having been married to a Filipina for over 20 years::::::

Less materialistic

Just wait

thinnner most of the time

Just wait

You would think after a period of time, they would start to get sarcasm and you would have more things to talk about as time goes on

Don't bother waiting

[jon1]

My wife's english continues to improve (10 years now). We have good conversations but her English is maybe 90 percent. She still has some problems translating some of her dialect to English and I usually overlook her grammar during a serious conversation. I gently correct her on grammar during routine talks and she adjusts accordingly. Me? I barely speak 10% and at best can get the gist of a Tagalog or Chavacano conversation but could not reply. 

 

It depends on the couple and the woman's need to learn more English. 

 

There is also a lot of non-verbal communication that goes on that transcends all languages. It really helps and makes for a quieter household :)

 

If you need a "western" conversation, you will need to have some expat friends available. I do this weekly and it works out for me. 

[Old55]

I don't think you can generalize. Marry a Filipina who has the attributes you desire don't expect to "change" someone. 

Here in the States many Filipinas we know have gained weight especially after having children. 

I agree with the others about sex. Wow!

Irony and sarcasm are best avoided until you know her well. If the Filipina will move to the States her English will become much better.

My wife and I got married in 1998. We have a wonderful relationship that gets better every year. We were able to have detailed conversations from the start. For me a woman who was intelligent and educated was important.

Edited December 8, 2014 by Old55

[Hey Steve]

I agree about sex and the staying power (sweet attitude, intamacy) of how Filipinas I know have treated their husbands-mu wife as well!!-it just does not fade (as I have experienced with Western women) and my own wife

[lyno 47]

There is there English and the there is our English ,sometimes never the twain shall meet. :1 (103):

[Tukaram (Tim)]

My wife has a sharp sense of humor but her English is not that great.  We have been together 2 years and it has improved a little.  So I am seeing more of her wit and sarcasm.  I still have to be very careful what I say because she does not always get my sarcasm (neither do native English speakers ha ha)

 

 

They have a simpler sense of humor.  Mr Bean is hugely popular over here and she recently watched the 3 Stooges movie (Farrelly bros, 2012) and I have never seen her laugh so much.

 

The language difference has not been a barrier for us.  We just don't talk a whole lot ha ha  I do speak like them now though.  I do not ask "do you want to cross the street here?"  I say "you want to across here?"  It is easier to speak how they understand.

 

I know one couple here that has no common language.  He speaks German only, she speaks Tagalog & English.  Somehow they seem to make it work...    :tiphat: