Strange Ineraction With A Filipino Male Last Night

[calasiaobound]

So last night around 11 pm..my gf and I decided to get some Puto near the plaza...about halfway there a guy on a motorcycle pulls up to us super fast and blocks our path..I thought it was relatively rude since we we obviously walking there and the street was basically empty sparing a few trikes and a couple st vendors..but I've gotten used to the lack of courtesy in that regard..so I grabbed my gfs hand and we moved around him..next thing I know, he pulls out again and cuts our path off completely.

My gf and him start exchanging words as I observe he's wearing a gun belt with a night stick and a flash light but the holster for the gun was empty. I'm thinking oh crap..off duty cop or something and he's got a problem with me for some reason..both my gf and the guy are looking pissed off and the guys looking at me like he hates my guts. I ask my gf at this time if he's a cop and did we do something wrong..but she doesn't answer me

They exchange a few more seemingly angry words..then the guy extends his hand to me for shaking..I'm thinking " weird" but I take is hand and shake it thinking he's letting us go or something..

He then speeds off super fast as I'm left scratching my head..I ask my gf.."what was that about " and she doesn't answer..then she tells me.." I dunno he wanted to fight you"..

I'm startled cuz I had no clue..just thought..rude driver..then..oh crap a cop..then oh good he's leaving

We head on down the road and she eeks out it was an ex bf..she told me she hasn't dated anyone in over a year and a half so naturally we kind of got into a bit of an argument..she claimed they've not spoken since meeting me online a year and five months ago..stuck to that story..has since told me he's abusive..she broke it off with him because of his abuse and blottered him for assault.

Cried..acted tempo because I'm " suspecting her of things" and then fell asleep.

I'm wondering why a guy far removed..over a year and a half would be having a beef with me.why she allowed me to shake his hand..and whether or not she's telling me the whole story..seems kind of suspicious. No?

[Gratefuled]

Yes, it does sound very suspicious. So does your gf.  I would dump her if I were you. There are so many others who do not have an ex bf who is  armed and dangerous. 

First mistake was hooking up with her. Second was your midnight stroll with her. Third was a curious encounter at that time and location with her abusive ex. 

You're probably lucky you were not robbed or killed by her abusive jealous ex.

 

Good Luck 

[calasiaobound]

More back ground info to give more perspective...Calasiao is a small town. We "stroll" at 11 pm to the Puto place every other night. There's no robberies or murders happening here..he was off duty from his job as a security guard.

Edited May 21, 2015 by calasiaobound

[Jack Peterson]

For me, a Quiet word with the Barangay Captain. This time he was maybe Sober! What about next time?

This my Friend would worry me some!  :thumbsup:

 

JP  :tiphat:

[cyberbro]

Well one thing anyone in security will tell you, don't walk the same path every night at the same time.

You are making it easy for him to find you, change up and vary your routine.

 

As far as the girl who knows, keep an eye on her if this is the only issue just stay with her and keep watching if this is not the only issue time for her to go.

[Old55]

I'm not going to make any judgments because I don't know enough details.

I suggest you only go out during daylight for awhile and keep your eyes open. 

Best of luck, hope its all exactly as your girls says.

[i am bob]

If your gf hasn't given you reason to doubt her before, dumping her may be a tad harsh... I'd just live life as before with her but, as with any relationship that you are working out, make sure she's the one you want to be with. As for him? Yeah, I'd consider reporting him.

[chris49]

Ask right now to see her CP and hold it for 2-3 days. Show her the texts only.

 

Ask for access to her FB.

 

If she agrees you can carry on until you know more.

 

If she disagrees dump her today but prepare yourself for a scene.

[chris49]

For me, a Quiet word with the Barangay Captain. This time he was maybe Sober! What about next time?

This my Friend would worry me some!  :thumbsup:

 

JP  :tiphat:

 

 

This excellent. And therefore she must provide you with the full name. The Cap is not going to do anything but you might get a subtle message if the individual is known to the Barangay.

 

DISCLAIMER HERE: where you live is a small town or satellite town, I reckon in 24 hours you will hook up with someone else and she will get her claws in.  You can get into all kinds of trouble here including some kind or backlash from the girl or the family. Mate how long have you been here? This is the Phils here, not small town USA, where a dog barking at night can make the police nigtly report.

 

Now mate, wee have all been through this....you probably like this girl, so play it out if you want.

 

If you survive let us know :cheersty:

[scott h]

wearing a gun belt with a night stick

guys looking at me like he hates my guts

she claimed they've not spoken since meeting me online a year and five months ago

 

Where there is smoke there is fire, or as the TV show says "Danger Will Robinson, Danger.

 

If they haven't spoken for a year and a half and the guy still carries a torch for her, watch yourself my friend. Weekly the papers have a story or two in it about a murder being committed due to a love triangle or jealousy. A few things are clear from your story.

 

1. They know each other

2. Even if she doesn't give a fig for this guy, obviously he has a problem with her and maybe with you.

3. The guy either owns or has access to a firearm

4. The guy owns a night stick

5. The guys is not afraid of confrontation

 

One thing that I am not clear on (or missed it) is how long you have been together in country? If you have been there for months and months with not problems, this might just be a one off thing. If you are recently arrived and have just started living together, well I just would hate to have you become a statistic. :cheersty: