Kuya John Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 Hang on, are you saying this young lady is under age? Most filipino families would want you to support in some way whether by marriage or not. It was suggested that maybe your not the father, possible, but you should be aware of the situation. Did you have a casual relationship, one night stands? Nobody here can really advise you without more in depth details, that you may prefer not to give. If she is prepared to walk away, she may feel you dont care enough to be part of the childs upbringing. Just my two cents...JB 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post brock Posted July 7, 2015 Popular Post Posted July 7, 2015 I will tell you exactly what rights you have being the father of a newborn child, Absolutely None,,,,,The Mother has full rights to any child under the age of 7, Unless she is deemed unfit in some way, Then you might have a chance if you were married,If not then the womans family woulf be involved in the upbringing of the child,,,,If that woman doesnt want you to have contact with the child, Then you wont, Simple as that,,,,,If she wants to see you now it is because someone has told her she can get child support from you,,,,,Like I say as for Fathers rights, You have none. That is Fact from 1st hand experience. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mogo51 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Welcome Steve. Living in Bkk you would know full well what your 'legal rights' are in Thailand - it doesn't change much in Phils 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WordsandMusic Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 An expate in hand is better than an expate in the bush/Jungle! Is she a Bird of prey, Are you the varmint! No proof of ownership (DNA) means something stinks in Thailand! Run Forrest Run! Was she pregnant before your encounter? Maybe she knew she was. Only you can affix the time lines here. How did you met? Was there an urgency to her affection. This happens in the good ol' US of A all the time. Woman gets pregnant by her bad boy, but needs a good stable boy to take care of her. So they set the trap on the first good prospect that comes along. Sometimes the bad boys go away, sometimes they hang in the shadows, double dipping and watching someone raise their child for them. In my experience the parents are willing to play along, if they know the truth. Otherwise they get stuck with the bills and the raising of the Bad boy child. None of this may apply here, take it with a grain of salt. But if they don't want to get a DNA test, (You don't have to wait for the baby to be born for that test anymore), If you have any sense at all, you will have a DNA test done regardless of anything else. Do not sign birth Certificate without DNA, if you do you bought the farm lock stock and barrel. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bows00 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 If you have any sense at all, you will have a DNA test done regardless of anything else Yes, I agree. I never had kids in my 53 years, so I would not be able to rest in peace until I knew the outcome. And if it were my kid, and she doesn't want me around, I think I would still provide some monthly compensation... only in the hopes that the family would invite me to see the kid once in awhile... This thread provides an important lesson to us all. It is so easy to go "rubberless " in the heat of the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratefuled Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You have the right to remain silent. In other words. I doubt that you have any rights that you can use without loads of money and then it's doubtful you will get positive results in your favor. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerald Glatt Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Maybe they don't want a DNA test because they need to be sure who the mother is first. :lol: 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonjack2847 Posted July 9, 2015 Posted July 9, 2015 Was she pregnant before your encounter? This happens here in The phills.A friend of mine was nearly trapped by this.When the girl found out that he had had the snip years ago he never heard from her again.She was whisked off to live some aunt. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chris49 Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Welcome to the forum Steve I am not a legal expert, and since details are a bit sparse I will give my educated "opinion". Legally you have most of the rights as anywhere else. In reality? If she actually gets to the Philippines with the child and unless you are also in the Philippines and have lots and lots of money for lawyers? You really don't have much hope I am sorry to say. 1st youll have to find them, then find a lawyer (cash up front most like), then pay for paternity tests, then get her to court, then wait for the slow justice system. Steve this is just my opinion, if she doesn't want you to have anything to do with her and the child in the future, and unless you have bundles of cash, time and patience. Shake it off and move on. Thx for this... I just send her message & told her exactly what you told me... that I give it to her 100% and I dont need DNA test.. and told her to tell her daughter that she never wanted her to know her real dad... and finally told her to never contact me again... yes, Women are cruel sometimes and I have proof... but my life wont stop... well, i told her to do anything she like with the child... told her i do not need dna test... pls never contact me again.... and dont forget to tell your daughter you never wanted her to know her real dad... so she reply: ok.. if this is all u want me to doo.. then, her parents wants to see me suddenly and followed, i should follow her in cebu soon because her parents know about me... im still not conveiced lol... Steve, let her make her move, let it play out. Wherever she is and it's near the time of delivery. I go there and pick up the bill, Govt Hospital, 2000 max mother and child. Even escort them there and play the father role, sign the Birth Certificate if the child is yours. If she goes to a private hospital, disappear. Reappear only when Docs need to be signed. Go through the role of the father. 5-7 days in the area. Is the baby breast feeding? About $100/month child support, No extras, no sob stories, now you step out. IN 3 years the child starts Nursery, Day Care, the Elementary, then Grade one. Give an increase or give a small increase each year eg 500 pesos. Do that or do a runner, your call. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Maybe they don't want a DNA test because they need to be sure who the mother is first. :lol: Hey Gerald, You owe me a new keyboard! I just snorted out my first cup of coffee through my nose laughing so hard. Damn, I like your wicked sense of humor! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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