Who Is In Charge At Home. You Or Her?

[sonjack2847]

The woman is in charge 99 x out of 100 she will eventually get her way.It may be very subtle but she will win in the end.

[chris49]

 

She can also manage a complete run through a supermarket without my presence.

 

I bet that pleases her No End.  :hystery:  Sorry Chris but Really, you make her sound like a First Grader.

 

 

So Jack. As you have said your wife is a career woman, college graduate, smart, successful.

 

Gina lived her whole life in a remote province, had never had exposure to anything until 4 years ago,

 

You are lucky, your wife has the experience, doesn't need your presence.

 

How about the others?

Edited October 18, 2015 by chris49

[Dave Hounddriver]

But my secret is I'm actually in charge, but she doesn't know it.

 

When both parties in the relationship truly believe that of themselves then you have the makings of a good foundation.

[scott h]

How about the others?

 

My wife is actually a year older than I, we married in our 30's and we actually started with nothing. All our earthly possessions fit into a 1973 Ford Fairmont lol. So every I/we have was as a result of a partnership. I bring home the lions share of the money (pension) but without her during the long slug I wouldn't have much anyway. So I take after my father, she runs the house, the money, where and when we go on vacation, what furniture and fixings to buy. Unless it is in my opinion absolutely the wrong thing to do. If and when that happens, we talk about it and reach a consensus. To be honest, I don't even know the password to our on line banking account. 

[MacBubba]

I have to give this more thought.  My first reaction is that she is in charge, but the more I think about it, the less certain I become.

 

She is doubtless the planner, but the reason she is successful at that is because she knows that we are not at crosspurposes.  She knows that I am on board and can be relied on to work out the details, so she defers to me quite a bit.

[chris49]

I have to give this more thought.  My first reaction is that she is in charge, but the more I think about it, the less certain I become.

 

She is doubtless the planner, but the reason she is successful at that is because she knows that we are not at crosspurposes.  She knows that I am on board and can be relied on to work out the details, so she defers to me quite a bit.

 

I would be more on the long term plan with goals, while Gina is one the short term. Sometimes she can't see the big picture, but she's good in the daily management.

 

Sometimes however when you work out the details, they forget that is was your basic idea.

 

A long time ago I said, in another post, that we will go down to Mc Donalds once a month, twice maximum. When she's out of the house and possibly a bit more relaxed, the communication is much better. Meetings at home are prone to distraction or interruption.

[expatuk2014]

Oh come on guys we all know we are the Kings in our home its us that makes all the rules !!

We wear the trousers ! when I say to the little woman " make me some coffee " she does it without question !

I have trained her to cook my food to perfection! and she does all the shopping-cooking-cleaning etc 1

me I just sit back in my chair on the Balcony listening to my ipod !

Ouch !!  :bash: she has just come back from the market !

yes guys we all know who is the boss, and she may not wear the trousers but she does wear jeans !! :hystery: 

[Hey Steve]

^{My wife has always worked jobs involving servitude (personal assistant in one case and a maid in another case). Coupled with the fact she was the youngest of 8 children and really has not owned anything she can truly call her own has put her in a mind set of submissiveness when I came into the picture and she married me (in her 40's). So she came into this relationship this way-and I have continually worked in subtle ways to turn that around-successfully, I might add. She would be easy prey for a controlling abusive man when searching online for a foreigner-but no--- she's my princess and her family absolutely loves me for the way I treat her-as I always will. In the last 2 years she has steadily come into her own-got her an i phone-her's alone-her drivers licence-a new car in her name. We never argue or fight-but as with so many factors in life-this is a wide ranging subject.}

Edited October 18, 2015 by Hey Steve

[Jake]

Hey guys,

 

I would like think that I am the master planning of all things in the marriage (30 plus yrs now).  Still trying to teach her the word BUDGET and I believe she is progressing well -- up to the letter G now.....he, he.  Judy takes care of all the mundane, daily tasks by barking out orders for me to do.  Actually, I really don't mind anymore because I really do a better job -- laundry, vacuuming, washing dishes, sex slave.  

 

Yeah, I may wear the pants, but she wears the negligee and the disease called lackofnookie is debilitating while I'm infirmed in my doghouse......he, he.

 

It's all good.  Yes dear.....I will log off now.

[stevewool]

Funny this question is,

I would like to think i am in charge with everything at home , but here is where its funny, i will always ask Ems if its ok