Who Is In Charge At Home. You Or Her?

[stevewool]

don't even know the password to our on line banking account. [/quote

 

In my second Marriage i did not know this , that was my mistake, and i did say mine, it will not happen again 

[Kuya John]

My wife holds the purse strings. guess that puts her in charge.

I never worry about money, only the lack of it. Thank God I have not worried for a long time now.

My personal needs are little, I'm not materialistic which balances things in our household.

Life and marriage is about compromises, no I don't need an Iphone 6! :rolleyes:

[stevewool]

no YOU don't need an Iphone 6!

 

Thats what  i keep telling Ems :1 (103):

[MacBubba]

 

I have to give this more thought.  My first reaction is that she is in charge, but the more I think about it, the less certain I become.

 

She is doubtless the planner, but the reason she is successful at that is because she knows that we are not at crosspurposes.  She knows that I am on board and can be relied on to work out the details, so she defers to me quite a bit.

 

I would be more on the long term plan with goals, while Gina is one the short term. Sometimes she can't see the big picture, but she's good in the daily management.

 

Sometimes however when you work out the details, they forget that is was your basic idea.

 

A long time ago I said, in another post, that we will go down to Mc Donalds once a month, twice maximum. When she's out of the house and possibly a bit more relaxed, the communication is much better. Meetings at home are prone to distraction or interruption.

 

When I said that my wife is doubtless the planner, I meant in both short term and long term.  In working out the details, we go with the better idea, regardless of whose it is.

Edited October 18, 2015 by MacBubba

[Larry45]

Well, someone has to be in charge, so it might as well be me.  When we married, wife had very little life experience other than work and school, and even though she made good money, she still apparently considered it a sin to have money left over at the end of the month.  So to leave any decisions (especially financial ones) up to her...would have been a disaster.  She's learned a lot in the past 4+ years and now has much better judgement and decision-making skills, so she participates much more in that regard, but still defers to me in the end.  At least it seems that way  :lol:

 

One thing to consider is that women genetically are attracted to strong men, and sometimes when a woman has control or power over a man, they can lose respect for him.  At least in my experience.   :cheersty:

[Richieboy67]

Sorry for the delay with my reply. I had to ask my wife for permission.

I'm in charge. :)

[stevewool]

even though she made good money, she still apparently considered it a sin to have money left over at the end of the month.

 

 

That is so funny but true

[Jack Peterson]

she still apparently considered it a sin to have money left over at the end of the month.

 

 "A SIN" Crisky, it would be a "MIRACLE" if Azon had any left  :hystery:

 

Jack :thumbsup:

[Gerald Glatt]

I have always professed that a marriage should be a joint venture.  Each side doing what they do best.  Thus Fe and I decided that I would make all the important decisions.

 

Will go to combat with China.

Should we nuke Iran and North Korea at the same time to send Putin a message.

 

She on the other hand makes the small unimportant decisions:

 

What will I eat for dinner.

What will I wear when we go out.

What time will we get up,

What exercise I should do, how often and how much. (I need this because I have gained weight, by eating what and how much)

 

Yes dear I know I ..........

[El Negrito]

I'm in charge of the remote, what else is there?

 

OK you all got jokes!!! (Sorry for the slip into urban idioms) But the above is my favorite, although I wasn't in charge of the remote, I just held it and she told me which channel to stop at, worked for us. LOL

 

Seriously, before my wife passed, she was my partner and we tried to consult on almost everything. I tried to always ask her for opinions and thoughts. The only time I didn't was just because I forgot in due to being imperfect. In the end we pretty much always discussed things, but she would always say the ultimate decision was up to me as the family head of the house hold. That said, she was a very smart woman and my ultimate decision was often a result of her thoughts, input and decisions.