Words Of Persuasion

[Jake]

Hey Guys and Gals,

 

I'm sure there are many times when you and your wife or GF don't see eye to eye and the eye of the storm is about to form into a typhoon.  OK, it's a disagreement.......so how do you guys go about it?

 

To start off with, I shall declare this topic will be pure from any sexual innuendos by submitting an innocent scenario: mother in law is coming to town (with a few tag alongs) and you need to pick them up at the nearest bus station.  

 

Although, you really don't mind the visitor(s) because you developed a pretty good relationship already. But the timing really sucks!  You have two more weeks until next pension deposit and oh by the way, the weekend of their arrival is during Easter Sunday.  Whatcha gonna do?

 

Do you try to explain your legitimate concerns to her....in loving words of persuasion?  OR, do you announce immediately, a big negative -- reschedule for end of the month.  Take it or leave it......

 

As for me in this particular scenario, I turned out OK, fully recovered after her words of persuasion. Actually, we were fighting over on who's gonna call the dreaded mother not to come.  I didn't make the call but I paid dearly for it.....he, he.

Edited November 14, 2015 by Jake

[stevewool]

All ways tell it how it is, is my thought,

I use to smile and wait till after the event, but now if i feel i have to say something it comes out straight away, ok my brain might not have been engaged with my mouth just at that moment, but so far so good for me

Well done Jake for not mentioning anything sexual  too :mocking:

[sonjack2847]

Convenience for others is not really high on the list here.Like you say it could be the wrong time of the month but the guests will turn up anyway and you end up stretching your budget to the limit. Thankfully we don`t get too much of that.

Edited November 14, 2015 by sonjack2847

[RBM]

Take your scenario Jake. Mother in law should request a visit if she is coming to town. Gives you a way out immediately.

Think most of us try discuss the situation first, if all fails my case is I have a bigger foot.....

[Jake]

Take your scenario Jake. Mother in law should request a visit if she is coming to town. Gives you a way out immediately.

Think most of us try discuss the situation first, if all fails my case is I have a bigger foot.....

Roger that RBM.  You coming from a New Zealand culture, I'm sure you can also demonstrate your most fiercest war cry, the Haka while putting you foot down....he, he.

 

As for me, the mother in law is an aristocrat, deep Spanish blood and part of Imelda Marco's most inner circle.  An extraordinary person, the most corrupt person I have ever known.  Anyway, that's ancient history now.  Thank god, Judy finally saw the true colors of her own mother.  Rather than using words of persuasion, I just let it fly.  I don't know how many times I told her.....see, I told you so.  

 

My other reason why I brought up this topic has something to do with a female member, our very own Miss Julia.  We need to persuade her to be more active (in writing of course), so that we could gain a more understanding on how a Filipina sees us or how they tolerate us.  

 

We miss you, Miss Julia!

[mogo51]

Easy - paint the house, change the number on the fence, put a very large doberman in the front yard and securely lock all door and windows. Maybe a warning 'Ebola infected house' on the front door might also assist!!!

[mogo51]

I just noted that my 'status' has been upgraded, thank you boss!!!

[Jack Peterson]

Think most of us try discuss the situation first,

 

 This an Area I find hard to cope with, it would seem that our loved ones don't/won't want to discuss things, it is said with thinking from the Mouth and not the Mind/Brain. Mama's coming OK!

If it was just the MIL OK but it never is. Is it?  Free loaders and Hangers on comes to mind and IF the men follow the Demands for the Beer wear me thin.

Sorry to say but MIL's Visit turns into a Party. Do they ever think or realize MIL may just  a  bit of quiet downtime from home and the family she lives with herself. A 1 or 2 day Visit can be A nightmare to clear up after and taking Inventories means more Shopping 

:hystery:  Anyone going to Disagree.

 

Jack :thumbsup:

 

OK! OK I know this is me but it seems we get more than our fair share of "Family Visits"

 

Little rant Over I'm Gone.  HUH! she won again 

 

 Having said this I have great Affection for Mama. :)

[Jack Peterson]

:hystery:  Would you "Adam& Eve it" ( believe it) Just had a text from Wifey in Church? They (a couple! of family) will come at 11.30 to Borrow rice (Borrow?)  Odd they knew we bought 50 kilo only Yesterday. OK, said I who?  Oh you know the usual, Oh yeah, I know the Usual's, Yep, turns out 6 coming to borrow 2/3? Kilo's,  Guess what? Lunch is at 12 today. So Need I say More? cos I am just about  F....d up here today.

Maybe I will just Persuade myself to go for and early one.

Good Topic Jake just another bad day in Junob.

 

Jack  :1 (103):

 

Stress, Stress, Stress!  :hystery:

[mogo51]

Take your scenario Jake. Mother in law should request a visit if she is coming to town. Gives you a way out immediately.

Think most of us try discuss the situation first, if all fails my case is I have a bigger foot.....

 

Touche, maybe the word discussion should be introduced into negotiations before arrangements are made ex party