Finding The Right Filipina Part 2

[Vince Runza]

Lets Remember that we have Filipino members and for me, many of the family follow what is being Written. the Topic so far whilst good, is very one sided.

Yes, it is. This is an expat forum, and the title of this thread is geared to that readership. N. B.: most of the ideas here apply to the Filipina, in search of the right man, expat or local. Romantic delusions don't work for either group. A bit of self-reflection and a hard look at the 'field' will benefit everybody.

 

As for bad press about scammers, sexpats, and the like, bad press gets more attention than good news. "Father of 3 Works Hard and Brings Home the Bacon" doesn't get much coverage in the press (or on forums). That's why we need to cover the good stuff here.

[Jack Peterson]

"Father of 3 Works Hard and Brings Home the Bacon" doesn't get much coverage in the press (or on forums). That's why we need to cover the good stuff here.

 

Oh! so after all your talk and Guy meets Lady and starts a family it is no longer Good Stuff, only the chase is Good?

Why do we Bother then?

[Methersgate]

 

"Father of 3 Works Hard and Brings Home the Bacon" doesn't get much coverage in the press (or on forums). That's why we need to cover the good stuff here.

 

Oh! so after all your talk and Guy meets Lady and starts a family it is no longer Good Stuff, only the chase is Good?

Why do we Bother then?

 

 

I don't think that is what Vince meant, Jack. I think he meant that we need to emphasise the good husbands and fathers here, because the press and the online media are full of stories about scammers and sexpats!

 

K is very clear about why she chose me - "Good stepfather!"

[Vince Runza]

Oh! so after all your talk and Guy meets Lady and starts a family it is no longer Good Stuff, only the chase is Good? Why do we Bother then?

This thread is about Finding the Right Filipina. I'm staying on topic, not wandering off in the weeds, musing about this and that. Having said that, if you feel the subject is underserved, write about it!

[Jack Peterson]

Nah! someone text me when the book gets Published cos this is what it is starting to sound like, there is a lot of Condescending things that my 2 have Picked up on and to me it's bad, So I will as I said before move on.

[Vince Runza]

I don't think that is what Vince meant, Jack. I think he meant that we need to emphasise the good husbands and fathers here, because the press and the online media are full of stories about scammers and sexpats! K is very clear about why she chose me - "Good stepfather!"

Precisely! The last thing I want from this discussion is sexpat types finding good tricks to further their hunt. Nor do I want men with an agenda of finding a 'submissive' woman they can mistreat and exploit.

[Vince Runza]

Nah! someone text me when the book gets Published cos this is what it is starting to sound like, there is a lot of Condescending things that my 2 have Picked up on and to me it's bad, So I will as I said before move on.

[sigh] This is not fodder for an info-product. I've written and sold such in the past. Your presumption of condescension is based on flawed thinking: that this is solely for guys who want to 'score'. I want guys to succeed, long-term, by planning, caring, and working at a relationship.

[Methersgate]

Nah! someone text me when the book gets Published cos this is what it is starting to sound like, there is a lot of Condescending things that my 2 have Picked up on and to me it's bad, So I will as I said before move on.

 

here's another way to look at the question that Vince poses:

 

1. Rule out sex - not for a week but for a year or more - will you still enjoy her company and want to talk about things with her?

 

2. Is she, "A Good Man to Go Into The Jungle With"?  

[Vince Runza]

Let me remind you all of how this started:

 

Preface
I was inspired to write this because, for the umpteenth time on an expat-in-the-Philippines forum, some guy wanted help in dealing with a Filipina who's giving him problems. These problems are usually apparent from the start, but the guy, for whatever reason, decided he'd 'cope' with it, because she's so lovely/loving/hot/etc. Instead of telling Ms. Troublemaker, "Next!", and moving on, he settles for less-than-the-best as his mate.

 

If you, the Reader, perceive some other agenda, then I have failed as a writer. If, however, you have misunderstood my motivation, that's on you.

[Vince Runza]

here's another way to look at the question that Vince poses: 1. Rule out sex - not for a week but for a year or more - will you still enjoy her company and want to talk about things with her? 2. Is she, "A Good Man to Go Into The Jungle With"?

 

There ya go! No LTR works unless both parties work at it. It isn't about the chase -- it's about where you end up.

 

Edited November 20, 2015 by Vince Runza