Horror Stories... What's The Chance?

[acrylic]

Hi there,

 

 

I'm a 31 years old guy from France. Fit and not so bad looking, or thats what I think!! ;-) I been living in Philippines for over 3 years now. In my first months here I dated a serie of girls, trying to find the right one. There were a lot of them who were pretty but with lots of red flags so I easily discarded em. With other girl I stayed around 4 months but she was extremelly moody and with lots of tampo and jealously issues, so I ended dropping her also. Finally, I found my current girlfriend. She's 2 years younger than me. We have been together for almost two and half years. She's beautiful, intelligent and a very sweet lady. She studied in one of the best universities here in Cebu and has been working in the same bank for many years. Her parents both got nice jobs and they don't ask any money from her or me (her dad works abroad probably earning more than me). The family have been nice and lovable people when I have been around their home. My girl never been married before but had a filipino boyfriend who seems to used to cheat on her on a daily basis, until she got tired of it and decided to break up, years ago...

 

During those 2+ years I've been living together with her, I never found a single suspicious sign. No suspicious activity on her facebook or phone, not going out with friends or arriving home late after work, she don't drink, she don't like to party, nothing. She never asks for anything and she likes to cook at home for me rather to going out to dinner. She contributes to our living expenses with her salary. Really different to any other girls I dated before.

 

Well, I have no reason to don't trust her and I really love her. Unfortunately, I've heard from some expats many horror stories. Stories where the guys thought everything was perfect (like I do now) until they got married, the girl got her visa/passport and the nightmare started. I heard so many cases like these that I've become a bit paranoid. Some of these expats went as far as to tell me my case isn't any different to other horror stories they have heard before.

 

I just want to ask you guys, does this happen that often? Guys who were so sure that their girl was perfect, even with a good background, a good education and a nice family enviorment yet they got scammed? Is it really that bad or did those expat been extremely negative telling me those stories? What do you think?

 

Thanks so much in advance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Jollygoodfellow]

Mate your been with her for over two years, You say nothing has shown anything to be concerned about so most likely you found a keeper.  Having said that, who knows what the future holds no matter who you choose as a partner from any country.

  :cheersty:

[Jack Peterson]

What do you think?

 

 

Nothing of value from me my friend but 10 marks for the English and punctuation & the Grammar, I can't fault, for a Frenchman I say "WOW" :thumbsup: Not many English speakers here can get anywhere near this level & it is maybe our Mother Tongue.

Sorry, way of Topic But I felt the Need to Pat our new friend on his back

 

Jack :)

Morning All :morning1:

[Old55]

You found a wonderful lady from a good family, I say relax and respect her for what she is. Most of the members here have good relationships. I know my wife is amazing and I am lucky to have her in my life. 

[Jake]

Hi there,

 

I just want to ask you guys, does this happen that often? Guys who were so sure that their girl was perfect, even with a good background, a good education and a nice family environment yet they got scammed? Is it really that bad or did those expat been extremely negative telling me those stories? What do you think?

 

Thanks so much in advance.

Horror Stories... What's The Chance?

 

Based on what you have described, I believe you lessen the chance of failed relationship down to zero.  Just look at her background -- college graduate and a good, steady job in a bank.  Nothing wrong with getting other opinions about your concern but I think it's totally up to both of you how to maintain and improve your relationship.

 

Speaking of which, may I suggest that you sit down and talk to her.  She may not even have a clue what's on your mind in this regard.  She may even be apprehensive about you.  Perhaps you can introduce her to this post, put everything on the table.  You owe it to yourself to bring it all together.  You both invested so much to make this loving feeling continue for the rest of your life.

 

Respectfully -- Jake

[acrylic]

Mate your been with her for over two years, You say nothing has shown anything to be concerned about so most likely you found a keeper.  Having said that, who knows what the future holds no matter who you choose as a partner from any country.

  :cheersty:

Thanks, mate. Yeah, who knows what the future holds... Perphaps I should be more carefully selecting expats to chat with... :)

 

 

Nothing of value from me my friend but 10 marks for the English and punctuation & the Grammar, I can't fault, for a Frenchman I say "WOW" :thumbsup: Not many English speakers here can get anywhere near this level & it is maybe our Mother Tongue.

 

Thank you!  I enrolled in an English school when I arrived Philippines and it has been really helpful. My accent isn't that good tho...!

[Dave Hounddriver]

Guys who were so sure that their girl was perfect, even with a good background, a good education and a nice family enviorment yet they got scammed?

 

I was just like you for 6 years. Not only did I think she was the perfect catch but all of my friends thought she was the perfect catch. Then found out about the other guy she was seeing every other weekend when she went to visit her 'family', then found out that 'our child' was actually his.

 

Did it stop me from trying again?  Nope.  I have been with my current live in partner for 2 years and once again, I think she is the perfect catch and I will continue to give 110% and hope I am right.  What other choice is there?  Do you want to live in fear that its not going to work or live in hopes that it will?

 

So the only real advice is the same given to everyone, everywhere.  Don't invest more of your money than you can afford to walk away from.  In other words, prepare for the worst . . . . . but hope and plan for the best.

[jpbago]

Thank you!  I enrolled in an English school when I arrived Philippines and it has been really helpful. My accent isn't that good tho...!

 

   I am assuming that you did not speak or write English before coming to the PI, so I say that if you can study and master the English language while in the PI, then you can also study and master the life of the Filipina in the PI.

 

the other jp

[chris49]

I just want to ask you guys, does this happen that often? Guys who were so sure that their girl was perfect, even with a good background, a good education and a nice family enviorment yet they got scammed? Is it really that bad or did those expat been extremely negative telling me those stories? What do you think?

 

She's educated. she comes from a good family and she works in a bank. She has been honest and you are together 2 years.

 

I think you are very lucky and vice versa.

[acrylic]

Thank you guys for your comments and support. I have no doubt I will keep with this gal and marry her someday, if everything keeps going well. I just can't let this fear take control of my life, specially when I have no reason to. Most of all, I wanted to know what were the chances of something like this happening, based on your experiences. Seems like most of you think possitive about it (which makes me feel better) except for Dave experience which I'm sorry to hear about... that might have been painful... I hope your new woman is the right one.