Say the wrong word and it hits the fan

[stevewool]

Emma has lots of friends here in England and they keep in touch either by seeing each other the odd time or facebook and even chatting on the phone,

There are times when the try to meet up but something comes up and it has to be cancelled, but there seems to be the same person who wants to arranged something and then at the last minute she will cancel it, so Emma is left with no plans , now she says this does not bother her but deep down i know it does,

Now when this person tries to arranged something what concerns me i always say no or i will let you know, take the other day on our new years day walk, she sort of invited herself ad tried to take over the arrangements of where to meet and at what time, well i was having none of it, we shall park here and we will meet you there i said, and its up to you where you want to park, well the next evening Emma got the call she cannot make it,

Well yesterday Emma got the call do you want to come to Wollaton park with her and the kids and Steve too., well the answer from me was no, i had plans already.

Well this morning myself and Emma was talking about something and suddenly i was told we go nowhere , sorry where has that come from, well we go nowhere she said again, well that was that, "funny aint it when lots of other things get thrown into it".

Not going anywhere do you mean shopping and to peoples houses to chat and talk and to show off what you and they have , well you are right, but going all over the world together and having treats for each other well you are out of order i said, but if that is what you are wanting instead of this you are welcome to go your own way i said,

It was nice walking around the lake and down the cycle path , just myself and the camera, "this is when i could do with a dog", well after a few hours i came home edited all my pictures and listening to the Talking Heads, life sometimes is bliss, but cant wait to get back to normal "my sort of normal too"

[Jack Peterson]

 Steve my friend, I believe you have been dealt with what is commonly called, the "Face Syndrome" Don't worry we all suffer this and it is one thing you won't have to adapt to as it sounds you are getting used to it before you come

 

Jack

Morning All 

[Dave Hounddriver]

11 hours ago, stevewool said:

i always say no

Are you suggesting "No" is the wrong word 

[stevewool]

2 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

Are you suggesting "No" is the wrong word 

No, but after no i sometimes say lets think about it, just in case yes is better, but sometimes no should have been said in the first place

[Snowy79]

• These rules might just save us guys. (courtesy of google)

•  

• 1. "I'm fine…"

  The proper response to this is, "Are you sure?" You might even want to ask this a couple times to be safe. She will not tell you that she is totally not fine the first time you ask. She is probably in need of a good cry, venting session or hug. However, you must first prove that you really care about how she is feeling.

• 2. "Sorry, what?"

  Quickly, revaluate your previous statement. It is possible that she honestly didn't hear you and would like you to repeat what you just said. Most likely, she heard you loud and clear. This is just your chance to change your answer.

• 3. "It's okay."

  It is not okay. Take note of her body language and tone of voice. You might benefit from groveling on your hands and knees at this point.

• 4. "Does this make me look fat?"

  This indicates she feels ugly and it is up to you to make her feel like the beautiful person she is. Do not mess this one up.

• 5. "Whatever."

  She knows that you have won this one, but is not ready to openly admit it and accept defeat. Be careful not to rub it in. You won't be winning next time…

• 6. "Awww…"

  Either she just saw or heard something absolutely adorable, or you just did something really sweet. Quickly check if there are any fluffy animals or gurgling babies in sight. If not, good job. Keep going in the direction you were headed.

• 7. "We need to talk."

  She has a lot of things to say. Get ready to listen and insert the right comments at the right times.

• 8. "Five minutes!"

  It is going to take at least twenty. Maybe two hours. Whatever it ends up being, get ready to wait patiently. Do not rush her. (Tip: When she finally emerges from the bathroom, only comment on how gorgeous she looks. Don't mention the time.)

• 9. "Yes."

  Sometimes this really does mean yes. Half the time it is a maybe or a no though. It is extremely hard to distinguish the difference. When in doubt, just assume that it is a real "yes" and hope for the best.

• 10. "Maybe…" or "No."

  No. Just no.

• 11. "Oh, you don't need to get me anything."

  Notice the word "need" in this sentence. No, you don't need to get her anything, but she secretly wants you to. Do not miss this opportunity to show her that your gift isn't an act of duty. Show her you want to get her something anyway. You will score major points with this one.

   

  Read10 things you should never say to your wife

   

• 12. "Do whatever you want."

  Alert! Alert! This is totally a test. Do not make the rookie mistake of thinking that she is actually fine with whatever you want to do. She is seeing if you know her well enough to be able to guess what she wants you to do. Why do women do this? I have no idea. But good luck.

[Kuya John]

Hmmmmm Now you all know why I have been quiet lately.........

[stevewool]

2 hours ago, Kuya John said:

Hmmmmm Now you all know why I have been quiet lately.........

Come on John, you can't just leave it like that, you have to tell us so we all can have a laugh, sorry I ment understand

[sonjack2847]

Sometimes just talking gets you in trouble. Steve I don`t like it either when people try to hijack the plans already made.

[Kuya John]

3 hours ago, sonjack2847 said:

Sometimes just talking gets you in trouble. Steve I don`t like it either when people try to hijack the plans already made.

 

4 hours ago, stevewool said:

Come on John, you can't just leave it like that, you have to tell us so we all can have a laugh, sorry I ment understand

Point in Question, Either plans are made without being consulted or are changed without being told, there are times to be honest, when I feel like the house boy!

Since retiring it is considered that,"as you have nothing better to do" run here, do this, do that, etc etc!!

Maybe recent health problems (nothing major) I have felt low, consequently I am considered a grumpy old git and sometimes get the silent treatment

Well the worm has turned Don't tell me how to wash the dishes Err Err coming dear.......

Edited January 3, 2017 by Kuya John

[davewe]

Just had New Years Eve. 1st we were going to one party, at a Filipina's house whose parties are often lousy, postponed or cancelled. My response? "Is the New Years Eve party actually going to be on 12/31 or will it get delayed to mid-February?"

Nonetheless I was happy to go. Early in the week there was a change. So and so invited us to her house where lechon would be served. All you have to do is mention lechon and Janet is all in. I didn't care - just tell me where to drive. There was plenty of food and drink but the hosts were barely around. By 10:00 we were bored and Janet said "Let's go to Party Number 1. I feel guilty that we didn't go." 

As an old fart, who had already been fed and liquored up, I would just as soon go home, but instead after confirming 4 or 5 times that she really wanted to go to the other party, we left and arrived at Party One in time for the ball to drop, etc.

It sounds exciting - "we went to 2 New Years Parties" but in point of fact we went to 2 lousy parties. And Janet was more than happy to complain that both the parties sucked and even the lechon was not top notch. In the end all was right with the world and we acknowledged that Janet would have thrown a better party!