Important reasons why not to remarry. Can you mention some?

[Gratefuled]

There are probably as many if not more reasons why a previously married person should not remarry.

Not that they should not remarry but not to marry for the wrong reasons.

I'll let you give your reasons. I know some already.

Thanks in advance

[Jake]

30 minutes ago, Gratefuled said:

There are probably as many if not more reasons why a previously married person should not remarry.

Not that they should not remarry but not to marry for the wrong reasons.

I'll let you give your reasons. I know some already.

Thanks in advance

Well, I kinda like this perspective: not to marry for the right reasons.  I would love to emulate Dave Horndog's ways of the world.  But I'm too old to go out in the meat market again.  So what is left for me to do?  

I'm gonna hang out with the Duma gang and have a good time.  Whoever has any interest in me (the fugly me), I will approach that with extreme caution.  Either she's under the influence of drugs or alcohol, she's really desperate or her gender may be in question.  Hell, he-she probably has a bigger package than me anyway.  

After multiple marriages or relationships, one could really enjoy life with a phenomenon called Freedom.  Priceless. 

[Old55]

Great topic.  I agree many men and women will go on into another relationship too quickly or for the wrong reasons. 

I married my wife 2 1/2 years after my ex left me. It was too soon in my case but our marriage has been wonderful.

[Jack Peterson]

47 minutes ago, Gratefuled said:

I'll let you give your reasons. I know some already.

 Bit of a negative Topic for a Friday morning I thought but in the Spirit of things Ed, Who in their right Minds wants another mother-in- law 

 

Jack 

Morning All

[Gerald Glatt]

Only reason I see is you haven't finished paying for the previous ones.........or she doesn't have a yacht 

[JJReyes]

Marriage is a legal contract approved by the local community through a wedding ceremony. What is important is to negotiate the terms. The foreigner may want and need a primary caregiver in his old age. The Filipina may desire economic stability. Make sure both parties understand the arrangement. Love and love making as side benefits. Same with having children. 

[Gerald Glatt]

9 minutes ago, JJReyes said:

Marriage is a legal contract approved by the local community through a wedding ceremony. What is important is to negotiate the terms. The foreigner may want and need a primary caregiver in his old age. The Filipina may desire economic stability. Make sure both parties understand the arrangement. Love and love making as side benefits. Same with having children. 

Don't forget the Yacht 

[Gratefuled]

46 minutes ago, Old55 said:

I married my wife 2 1/2 years after my ex left me. It was too soon in my case but our marriage has been wonderful.

Good for you and yours. You are probably one of many who remarried for the "right reasons".

May all your years together be "wonderful".

[Old55]

6 minutes ago, Gratefuled said:

Good for you and yours. You are probably one of many who remarried for the "right reasons".

May all your years together be "wonderful".

Thank you! Going on 20 years now. 

 

 

Edited March 3, 2017 by Old55

[Dave Hounddriver]

1 hour ago, Jake said:

 I would love to emulate Dave Horndog's ways of the world.

I would not be so quick to do that   It has its "ups and downs"  but as to the topic, I cannot think of a good reason not to re-marry except to say that marriage must be for the right reasons, to the right person, at the right time.  Filipinas, in many circumstances, cannot get divorced so do her a favor and do not marry her until you are both SURE its the right thing to do.

Example:  This is an example from my own private life that people may or may not learn from.  My latest ex became infatuated with me when she was only 18.  We had 3 good years together and she asked me to marry her countless times.  My response was always Yes, but to wait until she was in her mid 20's to be SURE its what she wanted as marriage is for life (for a filipina). I told her she would change a lot between age 18 and 25.  She eventually decided I was right and she left to go and be young, explore the world, and have adventures with other young people. There's more:

Her cousin married my friend Jon when she was 18.  He happily snapped her up and married her knowing that filipina culture meant she would stay with him for life.  She is a traditional gal and 6 years later they are still together and appear to be quite happy.

Every filipina is different.  If I had married my ex at 18 would she still be here today, like her cousin is still with Jon?  Would it have been the right thing to do?  Would she be happy? Or would she be staying out of obligation because her family do not believe in divorce?  Would she have left anyway?  (Some filipinas do not respect their marriage vows regardless of the culture here.)  And finally, did she leave because I postponed marriage too long and she lost faith that I would ever marry her?  (I do not believe that but the thought has been presented to me.)

There are so many variables that remarrying is almost as much of a minefield topic as buying land here.  Some people are EASILY satisfied by any wife who will cook and clean, looks good on their arm and warms their bed.  While I enjoy those things too, I see no point in marrying to get those things.

I'm a romantic.  When and if I get married again it will be because I want to stay with and love the lady for life, AND I genuinely believe she wants the same, AND I believe we are both making the mature decision for the right reasons.  Such is my opinion