Tampo

[Snowy79]

5 hours ago, marine6357 said:

Well Tampo over we just finished Skpe-ing and all is well in the land of Mark. Yes she did admit that it is her way when she is upset she shuts down communications and we discussed that in the future we need to talk to resolve these types of things,Crisis averted. So i guess I will not need those distractions anymore....hahaha.  

Just make sure you get to the bottom of the tampo or you could be walking on egg shells everyday. Maybe she got over her tampo by doing something to get back at you that you'll never know about. They're a different breed here. 

I've just had my partner show me tampo for the first time after 2 years knowing her. She went to bed last night without saying goodnight or the usual cuddle. When she woke up this morning she was like a bear with a sore head. I asked her about 20 times before she admitted it was because I replied to one of her friends yesterday who helped both of us out in a big way. Apparently she should have been the only one to communicate with her. lol

[Jack Peterson]

 Guys & Gals, it is the days WITHOUT tampos that worry me  Something is usually going on that includes/needs Money 

[marine6357]

17 minutes ago, Snowy79 said:

Apparently she should have been the only one to communicate with her

I got that a couple of weeks ago when fb one of her friends to ask A question about my gf but no Tampo that time. I feel for you brother.

[Jack Peterson]

24 minutes ago, Snowy79 said:

Apparently she should have been the only one to communicate with her. lol

You put a little lol there my friend, Was she Joking or NO? I ask this  because if I had not seen that lol I would have suspected a teeny weeny bit of Insecurity from her, which I doubt there is really or at least you have never said anything that could be construed that way

 Just Saying 

[Dave Hounddriver]

8 hours ago, marine6357 said:

Thanks might just have to change my plans on upcoming trip, and find other distractions.

For some reason, there are many men who think that "us guys" are the only ones who have the option to find other distractions.

Having seen how the filipinas "work" the foreigners they meet, (on line or in person), I find them to be better at it than we mere, mortal, men.  They will work it until they find their best option.  She will not tell you she is keeping other options open any more than you would tell her, but keep it in mind these gals are smarter than the average guy when it comes to deciding on a mate.

No matter how much in love with you she is, a filipina will keep her options open until you have walked her down the aisle.  (Some even watch for better options after marriage but those are the exceptions rather than the rule.)

So while she was ignoring you for a couple days it would not surprise me in the least to find out she was exploring "other distractions".  The fact that she is talking to you again means she still thinks you are her best option.  This is a good thing, if that is what you want.  When you say "Crisis averted" I get the picture that you are quite fond of this girl and she is also fond of you.  Remember they throw the "love" word around much too easily.  (I cannot count the girls who have told me they love me "on Skype" from another man's bedroom while he is out doing something else).

So I have my fingers crossed for you that she is a good one,  but Tampo?  Nah. That can possibly be an excuse after you are married but I sincerely doubt it at this point in the relationship. If she was not talking to you she was talking to someone else.  Best case scenario is she was talking it over with her family or bff and then calmed down.  Best of luck, buddy.  Lots of the guys on this forum have some great success stories.  But there are a lot of others who do not post any more (or who never did post) who don't want to tell their story because its not something they want to think about/talk about anymore.

I'm saying:  Be careful with your heart, but if she is the right one for you then make sure she is getting what she needs from the relationship and I don't mean cash.

EDIT:  I read this to Lynne, my fiance, and she said its good advice.  Lynne says if she loves someone she cannot go more than 24 hours without communicating, even if she is really mad, and Lynne is one of those who shuts up and will not talk when she is upset so if she says it, I'm doubly sure my advice is on target.  Just trying to be helpful, my friend.

Edited July 23, 2017 by Dave Hounddriver

[Snowy79]

As Dave says they weigh their options up with military precision. I've known two girls that when their partners got drunk and fell asleep in their hotel room came out into the bar looking to seen if there were any other single guys about. They even joked about it to me. Or as they say Joke Lang, which basically means they were serious but couldn't hold it in.

[sonjack2847]

1 hour ago, virginprune said:

I had the Tampo thing tried on me in the early days of our relationship. I told her if she wasn't going to talk to me then I would find somebody who will. That stopped it in its tracks and Tampo has never reared its head since!

That is pretty much how I got over it.And like you I have never had to deal with it since.

[marine6357]

44 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

Best case scenario is she was talking it over with her family or bff and then calmed down.

That is basically what she did when we talked she did apologize for her actions and said it wont happen again. I will take her at her word for now...

  1 hour ago, virginprune said:

I had the Tampo thing tried on me in the early days of our relationship. I told her if she wasn't going to talk to me then I would find somebody who will. That stopped it in its tracks and Tampo has never reared its head since!

I usually give someone a pass the first time but never a second time.

1 hour ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

Having seen how the filipinas "work" the foreigners they meet, (on line or in person), I find them to be better at it than we mere, mortal, men.  They will work it until they find their best option.  She will not tell you she is keeping other options open any more than you would tell her, but keep it in mind these gals are smarter than the average guy when it comes to deciding on a mate.

I have done my due diligence here and after meeting quite a few her friends thru cam on skype looking at her friends accounts on fb and finding out about her thru other means. She comes across as a nice girl who has a nice job (maybe even good job by Philippines standards) her family seems pretty stable and in more than 5 months has never even hinted or complained about money in any way. I think she is honest and has a good heart. So if she is playing me then she is one of the best con artist I have ever seen. 

Also we haven't told each other we love each other yet and we will meet later this year and really get to know each other and see where it goes. I am keeping my fingers crossed also but also not going in blindly to this. She is not the last Filipina there but hopefully my last.

 

So thanks for all the advice it is greatly appreciated and I will remember it as I go forth.

[Dave Hounddriver]

6 minutes ago, marine6357 said:

So thanks for all the advice it is greatly appreciated and I will remember it as I go forth.

Come meet the gang in Dumaguete when you get here.  We'll help you out when you are trying to figure out filipinas  Or we will confuse the heck out of you as its just about impossible to "figure out" filipinas 

[marine6357]

Just now, Dave Hounddriver said:

Come meet the gang in Dumaguete when you get here.  We'll help you out when you are trying to figure out filipinas  Or we will confuse the heck out of you as its just about impossible to "figure out" filipinas 

I don't need help getting confused I do well enough on my own