The Blacklist

[Jollygoodfellow]

1 hour ago, sonjack2847 said:

I was told by the man at the BNI that all foreigners get an automatic hit when going for NBI clearance here.

You get a certificate every time you renew your visa. If not you will be leaving the BI with an escort. 

[bigpearl]

What an interesting topic come interview, great responses and interesting info that I never thought of before. I do hope I don't go off topic and will be slapped if I do I'm sure. 

Firstly from my perspective some questions asked have not been answered by the OP. For the OP definitely as many suggest boots on the ground big time, taste/feel the culture, the wealth/poverty and pollution, the noise and such idiosyncrasies.

I too met my current partner online as well as others prior to meeting. The start for me was being in PH for a couple of 6 month stints, working and deciding that I loved the people and culture and could put up with all the others things that can be annoying. I only learnt about blacklist a few years ago and on delving realised it is a good way to police unsavoury types.

A point to make or several as I do. I chatted online with many constantly, filtered the prospectives, met a few who were no good, one hung in there that I discounted as the age difference was 31 years. "Age does not matter" I was told many times, eventually we arranged to meet. My criteria to my partner was all STD and a HIV tests, sure NP I understand and expect you to do the same which I did. Definitely a plethora of other questions and answers given that proved to be true. Honesty is the best policy, why waste your life with lies. Through our nearly 12 months of Skype and phone calls money was never mentioned apart from the fact we were both working and learnt about each other and transparency, 5 years on the relationship blossoms.

It sounds a little like a mail order bride scenario, a chance to escape? A new life? A new life is good for me and homework and research wins the day. To the OP please read and read again as you will find an encyclopaedia within this site that is relevant to your particular situation and you will learn a multitude of other things to help your desired goal. Boots on the ground first as the Philippines is not Idaho.

Good luck.

Cheers, Steve.

[hk blues]

4 hours ago, bigpearl said:

What an interesting topic come interview, great responses and interesting info that I never thought of before. I do hope I don't go off topic and will be slapped if I do I'm sure. 

Firstly from my perspective some questions asked have not been answered by the OP. For the OP definitely as many suggest boots on the ground big time, taste/feel the culture, the wealth/poverty and pollution, the noise and such idiosyncrasies.

I too met my current partner online as well as others prior to meeting. The start for me was being in PH for a couple of 6 month stints, working and deciding that I loved the people and culture and could put up with all the others things that can be annoying. I only learnt about blacklist a few years ago and on delving realised it is a good way to police unsavoury types.

A point to make or several as I do. I chatted online with many constantly, filtered the prospectives, met a few who were no good, one hung in there that I discounted as the age difference was 31 years. "Age does not matter" I was told many times, eventually we arranged to meet. My criteria to my partner was all STD and a HIV tests, sure NP I understand and expect you to do the same which I did. Definitely a plethora of other questions and answers given that proved to be true. Honesty is the best policy, why waste your life with lies. Through our nearly 12 months of Skype and phone calls money was never mentioned apart from the fact we were both working and learnt about each other and transparency, 5 years on the relationship blossoms.

It sounds a little like a mail order bride scenario, a chance to escape? A new life? A new life is good for me and homework and research wins the day. To the OP please read and read again as you will find an encyclopaedia within this site that is relevant to your particular situation and you will learn a multitude of other things to help your desired goal. Boots on the ground first as the Philippines is not Idaho.

Good luck.

Cheers, Steve.

A lot of common sense in this post.

Some of the points raised my eyebrows - particularly the STD/HIV stuff as I suspect this would not be asked of someone from our own country. Also, the Philippines doesn't have the monopoly on less than honest online partners - far, far from it. That said, we are in the Philippines and discussing Filipinas so it's fair comment.

I'd advise anyone only one thing - go with your gut feel and if it seems too good to be true, it is.

Anyhow, the day someone takes love advice from someone -especially someone they don't know - will be a first.

 

[Dave Hounddriver]

20 minutes ago, hk blues said:

Anyhow, the day someone takes love advice from someone -especially someone they don't know - will be a first.

I used to take love advice from the letters to Penthouse Forum all the time 

[sonjack2847]

8 hours ago, Jollygoodfellow said:

You get a certificate every time you renew your visa. If not you will be leaving the BI with an escort. 

I am talking about the NBI not the one you get at the BI.

[Jollygoodfellow]

5 minutes ago, sonjack2847 said:

I am talking about the NBI not the one you get at the BI.

Ok then what did you mean by an automatic hit? 

[sonjack2847]

6 hours ago, Jollygoodfellow said:

Ok then what did you mean by an automatic hit? 

When you go to the NBI as a foreigner your name will automatically be flagged as a person of interest .This has happened to me twice when I have been there.The person who deals with expats there told me "don`t worry we flag all expats.Maybe this is so that they have to do a more in -depth investigation than a local would go through.I was told that they contact interpol whereas a local would have only a national investigation.

[Dave Hounddriver]

3 hours ago, sonjack2847 said:

.I was told that they contact interpol

Only if you have tattoos    Joke lang, I have no idea if that makes a difference but it might.

[sonjack2847]

5 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

Only if you have tattoos    Joke lang, I have no idea if that makes a difference but it might.

Actually it is when you have your natural hair colour. Joke lang

[bigpearl]

19 hours ago, hk blues said:

A lot of common sense in this post.

Some of the points raised my eyebrows - particularly the STD/HIV stuff as I suspect this would not be asked of someone from our own country. Also, the Philippines doesn't have the monopoly on less than honest online partners - far, far from it. That said, we are in the Philippines and discussing Filipinas so it's fair comment.

I'd advise anyone only one thing - go with your gut feel and if it seems too good to be true, it is.

Anyhow, the day someone takes love advice from someone -especially someone they don't know - will be a first.

 

As they should hk but it's more a safety net and opens opportunities for prospective partners/flings to back out if they have something to hide at that level, and in other instances if the questions are asked and asked in the right manner. Three Pinoys I asked these sort of questions they obliged, others 10 years ago in Australia and America denied and told me it was none of my business,,,,,,,,,, but don't you want a relationship I asked? If so it has to be transparent and I offer the same deal. Nope all communications cut. Sad as most appeared to be nice people.

Gut feelings are what I go on but sometimes/most times when things get serious then there are a lot more questions and many go unanswered or are avoided not only with STD tests. Gut feelings are a great way to make a decision providing all the relevant questions were asked. Love advice? Dear Diary,,,,,,,,,, only the individual knows and will make the choice for themselves and wholeheartedly knows if it has a chance to work, if you doubt before and during any commitment then you are sabotaging the relationship.

Off topic again unless I am blacklisted with BI. As said by many if you are on that list then something went awry or you might a bad person. No sign of the OP?

Cheers, Steve.

Edited October 9, 2017 by bigpearl