bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 15 hours ago, sonjack2847 said: Have you ever considered that your wife might counter claim and you could get blacklisted by immigration.It does not need to be a truthful accusation for it to cause you problems.For something this serious(if you are going to pursue it) it is best to do it from a distance and keep yourself safe.Things are changing here for the better but you could still get locked up on an accusation and be there for a long time. Thanks for the info! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 14 hours ago, Snowy79 said: Again without knowing your partner I wouldn't know who her family are connected to. There is a time and a place for the Barangay Captain but this I think is way out of his league. They are used to dealing with village squabbles amongst locals and do have some power as you can bet the title is handed down through families. It really does taking living here for a couple of years to see how things work ( or don't). Every day is a school day here where I'm learning pitfalls that I'd never dream of in the West. If you sit at home and play happy families here you can be blind as to what goes on. If you live in an area with lots of Ex Pats and socialise you'll hear and see things that will make your hair stand on end. It's not all bad, some have fantastic relationships but in this culture it only takes one accusation and your World can come tumbling down. I'm guessing the area where your partner lives is pretty poor and poverty can breed corruption. My partner is from near Ronda, Cebu. She thought it was a relatively poor area but she's just visited her Mother who she hasn't seen in about 20yrs down in Mindanao to a village called Macanhan. They don't have electricity there and use well water. Education levels are very poor and she says lying is a way of life. Everything she's asked family members is twisted and different answers depending who she asks. She's even discovering blood brothers she thought she had were fathered by different men. Disagreements are sorted out in the jungle with knifes with little fear of repercussions if it's local against local. Once a foreigner is involved it's a whole different matter. One false accusation against you could be worth a few years wages in bribes to a local which could make the accusations go away. Stay well clear and deal with it from afar. Thanks for this info! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 14 hours ago, earthdome said: The Brgy Captain is the best place to start for small local disputes. In the best case they act like an impartial arbitrator In the worst case they are related to your wife's family.This case is well beyond what a Brgy Captain should be involved with. I agree that it is best to keep your distance and use the Computer Crime Division of the NBI. From what I have learned, the cyber crime division of the NBI will not touch this as it is not high profile and it happens daily..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 7 hours ago, Viking said: Yes, they are very family oriented, but that usually mean family by blood ;) They can "protect" you from others, but that is most of the time because THEY want to keep you as their golden cow, that they can milk until you get dry. When you get dry, you are useless to them. The trick is to make them belive that they will benefit if they keep you happy About fathful spouses, to me it seems to be 50-50, many are faithful but very many ?????? around ALOT. I have heard a number of men bragging about how many children they have, and not only with their spouses ;) Children they take no responsibilty for at all. Maybe all this talk sound negative but I want to say that I still love Philippines and its people The positve sides outweigh the negative sides by far, to me. Thanks for this info! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 14 hours ago, Lou49 said: Keep in mind that any noise you make in this matter could get you banned and prevented from re entering the country. Good to know. Thanks Lou49 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JDDavao II Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 7 minutes ago, bigmac said: From what I have learned, the cyber crime division of the NBI will not touch this as it is not high profile and it happens daily..... Did you learn it from the same person who told you to go to the barangay captain first? It seems you were suckered for six years. Please don't be credulous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jollygoodfellow Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 3 hours ago, JDDavao said: I don't know who the private dick is (although some here do) but I would caution bigmac against allowing himself to fall out of the frying pan and into the fire by shelling out fistfuls of cash for an interminable amount of time to any shamus who claims they're "gathering evidence". Working a grief grift is not unheard of here. The PI is American and not that is a guarantee for anything but is well known so if he was out to rip people off then his ass would have been history years ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jollygoodfellow Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 19 minutes ago, bigmac said: Thanks for this info! I have a gut feeling this topic is going no where now. If You Big Mac want to add some meaningful discussion since you were and are the OP I will leave it open but if not its a waste of time. For the sake of others in the future I would have like to read how the scam unraveled but it seems to me bigmac is clamming up so where do we go from here? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 20 minutes ago, JDDavao said: Did you learn it from the same person who told you to go to the barangay captain first? It seems you were suckered for six years. Please don't be credulous. Yes...the PI. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmac Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 3 minutes ago, Jollygoodfellow said: I have a gut feeling this topic is going no where now. If You Big Mac want to add some meaningful discussion since you were and are the OP I will leave it open but if not its a waste of time. For the sake of others in the future I would have like to read how the scam unraveled but it seems to me bigmac is clamming up so where do we go from here? It unraveled primarily by hiring a PI and the from a neighbor telling me what was going on. Seems 1 week before I went there the first time, they removed all appliances to somewhere else. (no proof of this) Then I started to suspect when she stopped showing for our regular Saturday night cam date. I was on cam with her last night asking for receipts and proof and she said "I will get it for you" which basically means, there is no proof of her illness. She looked fine on cam. I would appreciate it if you would leave this open as I am getting quite a bit of info and good advice from the members here. What more can I tell you? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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