Asawa Ko Issues - The Novela

[Eddie1]

4 hours ago, ITGeek said:

Not sure if the bolded statement in your quote is direceted at me.

ITGeek,  If you read through the previous posts you can clearly see that particular comment is not directed at you.  Ignore that and move on my friend.

[Guy F.]

15 hours ago, ITGeek said:

Off topic, not nearly as much money s my 401k and stocks lost in post-2001 and in 2008-2010.  I'm talking six figures (40-60% wiped out).  Having 2 CPA's in my family helped me take a more conservative approach in budgeting, investing and saving money for my retirement.  The only government pension I receive is SSDI, meanwhile my father receives both military and CA state pensions and lives like a king in an upscale retirement community in Callifornia.  My 64 yo brother (also CPA) lives in Sedona, AZ, both him and his wife frequently travel throughout the world checking off items on their bucket list.

Not sure if the bolded statement in your quote is direceted at me. Yes, I've lost money both in the US and here in the Philippines.  However, I have also made a lot of money in the US and will prove you wrong about losing "a lot of money in the Philippines."  Are you speaking from personal experience or projecting?

Remember that no amount of money can ever buy true happiness.  

For someone with early onset dementia you produce some amazing writing. It would be impressive even for a normie.

[ITGeek]

1 hour ago, Guy F. said:

For someone with early onset dementia you produce some amazing writing. It would be impressive even for a normie.

Thanks.  The aricept has helped to slow the degradation to my cognitive function.  The biggest decline in my mental health has been my short term memory and communicating verbally.  On the former, it drives me crazy when performing normal every tasks.  I can walk out off the kwarto into kusina and completely forget why I'm there.  In addition, I've been told that "I've already said that" more frequently (repeating stories).  The verbal communication problems are the most I struggle with even in my native US English.  I compare it having having "dyselexia of hearing".  However, I am still functional at reading and writing and able to comprehend it much better than verbal communications.

It really has been very humbling experience in having my mental abilities deteriorate over the past 5 years   I've always been an independent person was the "go to guy" at work by many for assistance.  Pre-diagnosis I really struggled to keep up in my the high demand work environment.  I had to take several medical leaves of absences for 4-6 wks at a time while doctors tried to determine what was causing my symptoms.  I should mention between 2010-2013 I suffered 3 concussions, 2 of which were due to vehicle accidents. 

My primary care doctor referred me to a psychiatrist, who simply diagnosed me with "bipolar-1" disorder and treated me accordingly.  using medication to treat it.  Yet none of the medication treatments improved my health.  It wasn't until I was referred to a neurologist for an evaluation.  He noted memory and cognitive deficiencies, but was most concerned about my Traumatic Brain Injuries as related to my recent multiple concussions.  He actually stated in his medical report that bipolar-i rarely presents itself at my age (47 yo), it usually manifests between 15-25 yo's.

Yet, as my condition continued to worsen, I was unable to function at work and even attempted "job re-assignment" with no success.  An independent psychiatric/neurological evaluation later revealed that my condition was more asymptomatic of dementia.  He recommended that I undergo a full neurological evaluation.  That is when I that diagnosed me with Early Onset Dementia at 53 yo.

Besides changing my medication and treatment methods, I made lifestyle changes to avoid stressful situations.  I also found it beneficial to read scientific and technical stories on the internet.  Not only does this keep me up with the latest on technology,  it helps reduce the impact to my cognitive functions (along with aricept medication).  As far my short term memory and communicative "dyslexia",  I have to use post-it's and have commonly used used items organized helps me cope.

However, the drama and stress of my independence and living in constant fear (it isn't paranoia if every one is out to get you ).  My current neurologist here in the Philippines also agrees and can relate to life in family compounds.  Lots of drama, tsismis (gossi) and that I'm at the mercy of asawa ko's family.  I could literally be kicked out of the house with nothing but the clothes on my back and not have any legal recourse since it's all family owned properties.  At best, I could contact "Ruffalo in Action" but that wouldn't help my situation.

So that is the reasoning for me moving out and advice given me my US family and OFW Filipinas regarding my current situation. I don't want to be repatriated to the US for a two reasons.  High cost of living and want to remain close by and hope to remain active in my son's life.  As others have said in previous responses, if asawa ko truly loves me she will contact me and be willing to move in with my away from her family.

Edited February 21, 2020 by ITGeek
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[Viking]

8 hours ago, ITGeek said:

  As others have said in previous responses, if asawa ko truly loves me she will contact me and be willing to move in with my away from her family.

I Think that she has already shown you what her feelings are . The way you have been treated by her and the family is not the way to treat a person you love, atleast not in my opinion.

I really hope things will work out in a good way and I wish I could express myself as good as you 

[hk blues]

7 minutes ago, Arizona Kid said:

What is the nature of your disability? Is it mental? You just bragged about how much money that your relatives make. Yet you, like a leach, receive disability benefits that you haven't earned. Family can't take care of you? Maybe they don't want you around! I'm tired of people like you that think they deserve what they don't. Kiss my donkey! 

Harsh.  

He has already explained in detail his disability.  Why shouldn't he receive disability benefits IF he is entitled to them - how do people earn benefits of any kind?  And why should his family take care of him - they have their own lives and needs and wants.  I for one would not be willing to take care of a sick relative - that's the state's job.  

 

[OnMyWay]

1 hour ago, hk blues said:

Harsh.  

He has already explained in detail his disability.  Why shouldn't he receive disability benefits IF he is entitled to them - how do people earn benefits of any kind?  And why should his family take care of him - they have their own lives and needs and wants.  I for one would not be willing to take care of a sick relative - that's the state's job.  

 

Sometimes I think AZ Kid is the one with a disability.  Or a drinking problem.  Some of the things he writes are completely out of the blue and/or off the wall.

Sorry AK.  Don't mean to attack you but as I have said before, sometimes you need to bite your tongue if you can't express yourself nicely.

[ITGeek]

On 2/20/2020 at 7:04 PM, Eddie1 said:

ITGeek,  If you read through the previous posts you can clearly see that particular comment is not directed at you.  Ignore that and move on my friend.

 

2 hours ago, Arizona Kid said:

What is the nature of your disability? Is it mental? You just bragged about how much money that your relatives make. Yet you, like a leach, receive disability benefits that you haven't earned. Family can't take care of you? Maybe they don't want you around! I'm tired of people like you that think they deserve what they don't. Kiss my donkey! 

Not sure if you're a US Citizen and worked in the private sector.  If you notice the FICA deductions on your paycheck, that is a tax that goes to the SSA.  I began paying FICA taxes since I began working since 16 yo and continued to pay into it for 40 years.  So are you implying that earnings stolen from me by the US government in return for my Social Security (and SSDI) is leeching?  No where did I mention or brag about the income of my family.  In my OP I stated my father assisted me until I got back on my own two feet, because that's what families do.  I also stated I lost 6 figure stock/retirement investments in the 2002 and 2009 recessions. You're comparing apples to oranges. 

I'm forced to pay into a system and expect to have those funds available upon retirement (or disabled).  So you believe I have an entitlement issue.  Quite the opposite.  I simply want the money forcibly taken from me for my 40+ years of labor when I need it.  That hardly sounds like a millennial or entitlement viewpoint.  How would you feel if you pay into a private pension and have it lost twice, only to start over.  I call that resilience and perseverance.  Now if I were in illegal entering the US, I'd be receiving welfare, free housing, food and health care.  Did they have their earned income taken from them for 40 years?

You're barking up the wrong tree mate.

Edited February 21, 2020 by ITGeek
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[OnMyWay]

6 minutes ago, ITGeek said:

 

Not sure if you're a US Citizen and worked in the private sector.  If you notice the FICA deductions on your paycheck, that is a tax that goes to the SSA.  I began paying FICA taxes since I began working since 16 yo and continued to pay into it for 40 years.  So are you implying that earnings stolen from me by the US government in return for Social Security (and SSDI) that I'm a leech.  You're comparing apples to oranges.  I'm forced to pay into a system and expect to have those funds available upon retirement (or disabled).  So you believe I have an entitlement issue.  Quite the opposite.  I simply want my money forcibly taken from me for my 40+ years of labor when I need it.  That hardly sounds like a millennial entitlement viewpoint.  How would you feel if you pay into a private pension and have it lost twice, only to start over.  I call that resilience and perseverance.  Now if I were in illegal entering the US, I'd be receiving welfare, free housing, food and health care.  Did they have their earned income taken from them for 40 years?

You're barking up the wrong tree mate.

Ignore him.  Not worth your time.

[RBM]

14 hours ago, Arizona Kid said:

What is the nature of your disability? Is it mental? You just bragged about how much money that your relatives make. Yet you, like a leach, receive disability benefits that you haven't earned. Family can't take care of you? Maybe they don't want you around! I'm tired of people like you that think they deserve what they don't. Kiss my donkey! 

Why not read his post in full before firing off like this or is his detailed descriptive writings to much for your limited mental capacity.

[Tommy T.]

16 hours ago, hk blues said:

  I for one would not be willing to take care of a sick relative - that's the state's job.  

Really, HK? Sorry, but that sounds a bit cold to me. Unless you are referring to a distant relative? From your comment, if your wife becomes ill, you won't care for her? Or am I missing something here?

I have visited state run facilities and would prefer to be killed outright rather than live like that - non-life in an institution.

Edited February 22, 2020 by Tommy T.