British Expat murdered in Leyte.

[manofthecoldland]

1 hour ago, Kingpin said:

Interesting, is that because you already set her up, a house or ? Need more details.

In short, she had no rights to any survivorship benefits re either my pensions or my U.S. Soc. Security.  So to provide for her old age security, over the two decades, I purchased inexpensive properties when the right situations appeared, built a very modest house piecemeal, and made sure that her SSS contributions were paid after reading how the system worked.

What's more important, is I assisted her in cultivating a future set of 'utang na loob' relationships with the younger generation. I.E., younger ones who are emotionally and financially indebted to a future 'old woman'.  With a PI SSS pension and properties she could eventually sell off, she should be able to avoid abject poverty and charity dependence.

I had hoped that her only surviving child, a daughter who she supported and educated in the PI to be a nurse, joined an auntie in AUS to get licensed there. The young lady married and started a family there, and at this time seems not very concerned about the mother she left behind. So I am unsure of her future filial support.  I have taken that into account by financially assisting her with building upon a now well tested and proven surrogate daughter relationship here. It is a co-dependent or symbiotic relationship.

Hope that sates any curiosity.

[Possum]

4 hours ago, Kingpin said:

Seems to be the route that many here go.

That's a new one to me.

Does anyone? Eventually all married expats need to make these decisions so it's an important topic that doesn't get discussed enough, any advice is appreciated.

While I understand the thinking I also wonder how many applied the same principles and practices before they became expats in the Philippines? If they had would they even be in the Philippines now?

[Lee1154]

This happened very close to me.  I never heard anything about it on the local news.  Wife?  Same sex marriage is illegal in the Philippines.

[hk blues]

5 hours ago, Lee1154 said:

This happened very close to me.  I never heard anything about it on the local news.  Wife?  Same sex marriage is illegal in the Philippines.

If you mean the opening post then the ex-pat was a male.  

[Lee1154]

8 minutes ago, hk blues said:

If you mean the opening post then the ex-pat was a male.  

Both were male.

[Lee1154]

14 hours ago, Lee1154 said:

Both were male.

I have checked with the locals that knew the deceased.  He was married to a woman and had children.  It seems that the news article that listed his "partner" as a he, they were referring to his business partner.

[Hestecrefter]

On 8/25/2023 at 9:58 AM, Possum said:

While I understand the thinking I also wonder how many applied the same principles and practices before they became expats in the Philippines? If they had would they even be in the Philippines now?

Please help me out.  I know it's obvious to others here, but not to me.  What are the "same principles and practices" to which you refer?

I am lost by your quote of @Kingpin which I cannot even find in his posts to this thread.  The words you quote from Kingpin read thus:

Seems to be the route that many here go.

That's a new one to me.

Does anyone? Eventually all married expats need to make these decisions so it's an important topic that doesn't get discussed enough, any advice is appreciated.

 

Maybe just poor eyesight or inability to see what's in plain view, but I can't locate his post where he says that.  I am able to locate a snippet of that quote elsewhere.  In the Providing for our Filipina significant other living in the Philippines after our death thread Kingpin said:

Eventually all married expats need to make these decisions so it's an important topic that doesn't get discussed enough, any advice is appreciated.  But that's the entire post.

But his post was edited by Old55.

The net result (at least for me) is I am unable to ascribe much meaning to any of this.  What is the “route that many here go?” as referred to by Kingpin?

What is the “new one” to him?

And the question: “Does anyone?”   Leaves me to ask: Does anyone do what?

All very confusing.  But no one else here seems at all confused.  Maybe it pertains to being a new member.  There's a kind of "forum speak" that I have yet to master.

 

 

[hk blues]

20 hours ago, Lee1154 said:

Both were male.

 

6 hours ago, Lee1154 said:

I have checked with the locals that knew the deceased.  He was married to a woman and had children.  It seems that the news article that listed his "partner" as a he, they were referring to his business partner.

I was confused by your post because I could only assume you were suggesting the ex-pat was also female because in same-sex marriages there are 2 wives or 2 husbands - If I'm not mistaken - so the only way there can be a wife in a same-sex marriage is if they are both female.

Of course, with the current status on gender etc the waters are becoming muddied. 

 

Edited September 1, 2023 by hk blues

[Kingpin]

13 hours ago, Hestecrefter said:

Please help me out.  I know it's obvious to others here, but not to me.  What are the "same principles and practices" to which you refer?

I am lost by your quote of @Kingpin which I cannot even find in his posts to this thread.  The words you quote from Kingpin read thus:

Seems to be the route that many here go.

That's a new one to me.

Does anyone? Eventually all married expats need to make these decisions so it's an important topic that doesn't get discussed enough, any advice is appreciated.

Maybe just poor eyesight or inability to see what's in plain view, but I can't locate his post where he says that.  I am able to locate a snippet of that quote elsewhere.  In the Providing for our Filipina significant other living in the Philippines after our death thread Kingpin said:

Eventually all married expats need to make these decisions so it's an important topic that doesn't get discussed enough, any advice is appreciated.  But that's the entire post.

But his post was edited by Old55.

The net result (at least for me) is I am unable to ascribe much meaning to any of this.  What is the “route that many here go?” as referred to by Kingpin?

What is the “new one” to him?

And the question: “Does anyone?”   Leaves me to ask: Does anyone do what?

All very confusing.  But no one else here seems at all confused.  Maybe it pertains to being a new member.  There's a kind of "forum speak" that I have yet to master.

This thread got chopped up and split into a new one here: 

 

The route was this:

 

 

 

On 8/25/2023 at 6:13 PM, manofthecoldland said:

I purchased inexpensive properties when the right situations appeared

 

And from the same post, the "new one" to me was

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PI SSS pension

 

And "Does anyone?" was asking that since the wife doesn't get the survivor benefits, does anyone else get them.

 

[Hestecrefter]

Thanks @Kingpinthat helps.