Where is the best place in the Philippines to find wife material?

[joeyz999]

sorry if this is the wrong place to post.

I'm a white American guy in my mid 40's. I've visited in Manila and Cebu. I dated a few women in Manila and they seemed like western women (shallow, materialistic, etc) to me. I also dated a few women in Cebu. I liked all of them a lot. One I almost married, but things didn't work out. I haven't dated that many Philippinas, so I may have the wrong impression, that's just what I've seen in my limited experience.

I'm going to travel to the Philippines for about a month and was wondering if I should go back to Cebu. I've been looking at Davao and smaller towns on the same island (General Santos and Cagayan de Oro).

I'd like to find someone that I would eventually marry. They'd move to the US with me and we'd have a few kids. I'm looking for a woman that has no kids and is loyal, honest, family oriented, and fun to be around.

Any suggestions on what city to visit?

thanks

[graham59]

There are literally millions of such young ladies residing throughout the Phils.

Just need to put in the time and effort sir. 

[scott h]

56 minutes ago, joeyz999 said:

I'm looking for a woman that has no kids and is loyal, honest, family oriented, and fun to be around.

Welcome Joey

I am not trying to be flip, but you should look the same places you would look there in Houston. Workplace, church, maybe a chance conversation in a shopping mall. If you meet in a club, bar or a nightspot the same type of girl hangs out there as they do back in Houston. 

1 hour ago, joeyz999 said:

I dated a few women in Manila and they seemed like western women (shallow, materialistic, etc) to me

When I saw this, I just had to wonder where you met ladies on your last trip here. 

1 hour ago, joeyz999 said:

family oriented

Very, very few Filipinas are NOT family oriented. In fact, that might be one of the faults in finding a Filipina bride. Be warned, if your future bride comes from a large family (probable) who are not very well off financially (possible) you will be expected to "help out" brothers and sisters and mom and dad. If you say NO! too often, your wife will be put under a lot of pressure and not be a very happy camper.

[joeyz999]

FYI, I don't have trouble finding women. I mostly found dates on Badoo (dating app) which seemed to work well.

I'm not asking how to meet women, I'm asking what city in your opinion would I have the best luck.

[Rooster]

2 hours ago, joeyz999 said:

I'm going to travel to the Philippines for about a month

I'd like to find someone that I would eventually marry. They'd move to the US with me and we'd have a few kids. I'm looking for a woman that has no kids and is loyal, honest, family oriented, and fun to be around.

Any suggestions on what city to visit?

 

There are over 7,000 islands to chose from to visit. It's not which the city you may visit, It's actually living here with the woman, spending time together, with her friends and relatives, seeing if she's trustworthy, is actually married, has children, is a trickster, a thief, a gambler, etc. etc. 

Many Expats come here and their residence is a revolving door until they find the right one.

Foolish to restrict yourself 1 month to find wife material?  Expats have lived with women here for years only to find out years later the woman has children, are already married, gambled all the money away, lost the house or business to gambling debts or loans to relatives. etc. etc.

 

Edited August 21 by Rooster

[graham59]

Yes... many separated young ladies here who describe themselves as 'single'

Thus...Important to bear this in mind:

https://www.international-divorce.com/2016/11/philippines-laws-on-adultery.html

Also (and many 'seasoned' expats seem not aware of this one) . An innocent outing maybe...but beware. 

Ref. Republic Act 7610... concerned with an adult being in the company of a non-related minor/s

 b) Any person who shall keep or have in his company a minor, twelve (12) years or under or who in ten (10) years or more his junior in any public or private place, hotel, motel, beer joint, discotheque, cabaret, pension house, sauna or massage parlor, beach and/or other tourist resort or similar places shall suffer the penalty of prision mayor in its maximum period and a fine of not less than Fifty thousand pesos (P50,000): Provided, That this provision shall not apply to any person who is related within the fourth degree of consanguinity or affinity or any bond recognized by law, local custom and tradition or acts in the performance of a social, moral or legal duty.

 

[Snowy79]

As a bit of a people watcher and through past experiences of my own and friends one month to find a wife is dodgy to say the least. 

Unless you live here you are going to narrow the field down a lot. Just picture going up to a successful Western woman who is independent, ticks the boxes for being a wife, mother and has your preferred looks etc and ask yourself if she will up sticks for someone in reality she barely knows and will move to a foreign country with you. 

Unfortunately you'll predominantly find a girl who needs something, usually financial security or is running away from something and it's the escape she wants not the person. 

If you are set though on finding someone keep out of the bars and clubs or where foreigners are ten a penny, the girls in those locations tend to be street wise and will target foreigners for financial gain. 

If I was starting again I'd hit the gyms in wealthy areas, join a hiking club or sports club and get to know a few people, if they aren't available they may know someone who is and will introduce you, no decent Filipino will introduce you to a burdon or as I've just explained to a friend go to somewhere like El Nido and do island hopping every day. You'll meet plenty of girls, many single who have worked hard, saved money and can afford a decent holiday. No bar girl types or desperate girl is going to spend money on a holiday. I went to El Nido 9 times but only once single and met lots of decent girls who kept asking if I was single or had any single friends due to them having friends that were too busy working or studying to date. 

If you hang out in the bars you'll find hundreds of girls who will marry you tomorrow but you'll be paying for it the rest of your life. 

In short slow time, go to decent areas, meet people and leave but stay in touch, if they are genuine they will wait for you, never ask for money and who knows next year or the year after get married. 

Edited August 21 by Snowy79

[Lee]

Houston, Tx has a population of 2.3 million people.

Surely not all the woman in Houston are as you described previously (shallow, materialistic).

My American wife of over 40 years was certainly never that way.

Perhaps you are simply looking for easier pickings in a country where your perceived wealth will draw a lot of attention.

If so, as others have opined, you could be setting yourself for a unmitigated disaster that you might not ever recover from. Slow down. Think.

I borrowed this vid from another thread.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoti8IjDVGw

How many ex pats do you think being depicted in the vid thought that they had found the "one" and were later taken to the cleaners or worse.

 

Edited August 21 by Lee
added info

[hk blues]

4 hours ago, joeyz999 said:

sorry if this is the wrong place to post.

I'm a white American guy in my mid 40's. I've visited in Manila and Cebu. I dated a few women in Manila and they seemed like western women (shallow, materialistic, etc) to me. I also dated a few women in Cebu. I liked all of them a lot. One I almost married, but things didn't work out. I haven't dated that many Philippinas, so I may have the wrong , that's just what I've seen in my limited experience.

I'm going to travel to the Philippines for about a month and was wondering if I should go back to Cebu. I've been looking at Davao and smaller towns on the same island (General Santos and Cagayan de Oro).

I'd like to find someone that I would eventually marry. They'd move to the US with me and we'd have a few kids. I'm looking for a woman that has no kids and is loyal, honest, family oriented, and fun to be around.

Any suggestions on what city to visit?

thanks

[Jack Peterson]

40 minutes ago, hk blues said:

 My thought for the day. ExPat Males Beware;