Tampo

[Onemore52]

My partner is having a severe case of TAMPO at the moment along with a severe case of menopause I  think, it is hard to tell the difference between the two.

Of course being a male and not having a clue about what goes on in their head makes it difficult to deal with.

Last night she was having a night out with her friends, so I gave her my wallet so she didn’t have to ask me for money, that was only  temporary fix but worth a try.

On medical advice I don’t drink anymore so heading off to a bar and having some time ou is not in the list of solutions.

 

What to do?

Bloody hell the are strange creatures.

[Lee]

43 minutes ago, Onemore52 said:

What to do?

IMO there is nothing you can do.

Menopause makes some woman act almost insane at times. Just have to ride out the storm like I did.

[Possum]

1 hour ago, Onemore52 said:

My partner is having a severe case of TAMPO at the moment along with a severe case of menopause I  think, it is hard to tell the difference between the two.

Of course being a male and not having a clue about what goes on in their head makes it difficult to deal with.

Last night she was having a night out with her friends, so I gave her my wallet so she didn’t have to ask me for money, that was only  temporary fix but worth a try.

On medical advice I don’t drink anymore so heading off to a bar and having some time ou is not in the list of solutions.

 

What to do?

Bloody hell the are strange creatures.

I considered getting a spare in case the number one becomes nonfunctional or psychotic.

[BrettGC]

My father put a significant dent in his very expensive wine collection when my mother was going through it.   

[Snowy79]

Tampo is my weak point. My partner can do anything else to annoy me but once the Tampo rears its head I just think " I'm too old for this." 

At the start of our relationship she did it a few times so I helped her pack her bags. I'd explained that unless I know what the problem is I can't fix it. Please tell me rather than try emotional blackmail. That never worked so she was sent home to the family.

I gave her a second chance a couple of months later and she was a changed person when she came back. I could see she was about to go into Tampo then a light went on and she opened up, she had been perfect for a few years but just recently we were in Vietnam on holiday and it reared its head, lasted a good fifteen minutes and in the end I just asked her " remind me again what I'm doing going out with you!" 

I saw the look of reality again and her attitude picked up, since we got back she couldn't do enough for me. I think you have to put your foot down and stuck to it or things will never change. My partner has shown she knows what she is doing and also that she won't get away with it, personally you either put your foot down or accept it's going to be a regular part of your future. 

Edited Monday at 12:54 PM by Snowy79

[Possum]

1 hour ago, Snowy79 said:

At the start of our relationship she did it a few times so I helped her pack her bags. I'd explained that unless I know what the problem is I can't fix it.

Same here but it didn't get to the bag packing stage. She and I have 2 days to explain what's bothering us or get over it is our deal.Though she speaks good enough English she was insisting I learn Tagalog. I explained that my not speaking and understanding Tagalog was the secret to our happiness for if I understood some of the things she was muttering when she was annoyed I would have been long gone. Now she has her lady friends, some of whom are married to foreigners and I pick up enough to know that they vent among themselves about our shortcomings. Works for me as I don't have to hear about it. We are happy 90% of the time and from my experience that's at the upper part of the happiness scale. It helps that we both have low expectations

[Mike J]

19 hours ago, Lee said:

IMO there is nothing you can do.

Menopause makes some woman act almost insane at times. Just have to ride out the storm like I did.

I have been rather fortunate in that my wife has never had tampo and breezed right through menopause, she is now 58.  She does however get super pissed off at me on a regular basis which I do deserve.  Her hackles go up and she gives it to me with both barrels.  When it is over it is over, and by the end of the day things are back to normal.  As @Snowy79 said, better to get it out rather than stuff it away.  

[hk blues]

I'm not convinced my current wife is any better or worse than my previous (British) for this t.b.h.

Given they have us to put up with I'm not surprised that they lose it from time-to-time!