Wife Having An Affair

[BrettGC]

I love my vasectomy.  

[Dave Hounddriver]

On 10/14/2024 at 11:52 AM, Old55 said:

Over the past 27 years of all the large age gap marriages we know of here in the US only two have survived.

That is a statistic to open our eyes, and I have seen the same with age gap marriages in the Philippines. 

However, I have seen the same thing with similar age couples so I am not convinced it is an age gap issue.  A lot of the age gap marriages I have been around took about 10 years to hit difficulties.  That matches up to both of my marriages to same age Canadian women where we lasted about 10 years each time.  My current age gap common-law Filipina wife has been with me 7 years so I guess we have 3 to go.  Time will tell.  So far, so good. 

[Freebie]

7 hours ago, Clermont said:

Three little phases I go by if you want to muck around with young women, they tell,they yell and they swell. Stick to the older women.

Except for some of us who has prostate cancer and had prostate removed for me, they just yell happily.. 1000% not a chance of "swelling "... which is why its always funny when they say " Im buntis , maybe its yours"....If they only taught basic sex education in schools here. ........Im very happy I dont need another child at 67.

[baronapart]

14 hours ago, BrettGC said:

I love my vasectomy.  

As long as your honest about it to your partner. Knowing your character I know that you are. I know of two cases in the Philippines where young Filipinas were duped into relationships only to find out later that their foreign partners had had vasectomies. One didn't find out until after marriage.

Edited October 16 by baronapart

[BrettGC]

5 hours ago, baronapart said:

As long as your honest about it to your partner. Knowing your character I know that you are. I know of two cases in the Philippines where young Filipinas were duped into relationships only to find out later that their foreign partners had had vasectomies. One didn't find out until after marriage.

My first Filipina girlfriend was positive I'd get a reversal after I told her about the vasectomy early on in the piece I didn't want anymore kids.  6 months later I ended it as she kept trying to force the issue.  Unfortunate, but I had to do it. 

My wife and I started talking in 2012, I told her.  After a couple of visits she seemed okay with it but there was something there and after discussions it turns out she wasn't really all that okay with it, so we mutually ended it.  We started talking again in 2017 and at the time I made absolutely sure she knew my feelings on the issue and ensured she was okay with it.  The rest is history.

[jimeve]

I told my wife that I had the snip and if we wanted children I would have it reversed that was when we first met 22 years ago. That never happened so we went the IVF route, had my sperm surgically extracted.

According to the surgeon they were like Olympic swimmers (joke lang) Found out after all that the wife was infertile, we was in the UK at the time and at a private hospital.

To this day I cannot fathom why they never did any test on my wife's fertility reproduction before I had sperm removed, they kept it in a sperm bank for 12 months  then asked if I wanted to extend, my answer was donate it but Keep my name anonymity. 

One good thing came about while examining my wife they found a cyst on the Uterus and removed it.

 

[craftbeerlover]

23 hours ago, Freebie said:

which is why its always funny when they say " Im buntis , maybe its yours".

hahahaa you seem to be a busy man, bet you have your head on a swivel.   I am sure you can get a "shootin blanks" tee shirt printed up somewhere, might save you some unwanted calls or texts

[Freebie]

21 hours ago, craftbeerlover said:

hahahaa you seem to be a busy man, bet you have your head on a swivel.   I am sure you can get a "shootin blanks" tee shirt printed up somewhere, might save you some unwanted calls or texts

I was in Uk recently for two months and lets just say, times were barren. More barren than the sahara. So yes, I tend to go a tad overboard when Im in this lush fertile land lol

[Mark B]

Sort of a got off track here.... but that's ok since I have not been on for some time.

Well here is an update,  going through a divorce 1984 I know how hard it is all around, for kids, and both parents.  But my wife is still seeing her bf, caught again after work last Saturday, she was suppose to work till 9pm, but got off at 8pm and went with him in his suv somewhere, she got home around 9pm, and of course said nothing.  This has been going on since at least May now, 5 months or so.

I decided to filed for divorce today will have her papers served to her at her work next week and going to have her bf subpoenaed to attend the hearing.  I’m almost sure that her work does not know of their affair.  I think there will be some questions at work when this happens.   To recap..my wife is a supervisor and is having an affair with one of her co- workers.  I know from reading other replies to my post here that the marriage is over.  This temporary hearing is to see who will have custody of my son and who will stay in the our house till the divorce proceedings are over.  My lawyer said that whoever gets the temporary custody usually gets the permanent custody, I’m hoping it will be me. I have pics of love letters from him to her, how he expresses his love for her, he calls her his “queen”, and other info on them all given to my lawyer. Where my wife goes so does her daughter since I did not adopted her. You would think that my wife would be grateful for me taking care of her, her daughter and family members over the years. My wife does not know I have copies of the lover letters, or other info I have on them.

I will keep posting so other members know what happens if they get in a situation like I’m in.

[RBM]

On 10/14/2024 at 6:55 PM, Snowy79 said:

I see you know my ex wife ;-)

Mine asked me to write her a letter offering to pay her only £50 per month maintenance in about 2004 even though I was giving her over £500 plus paying for lots of other things.  Fast forward to 2012 and we are divorcing when she pulls out this letter which looks like it was kept in a hermetically sealed box and tries to claim back maintainance of £2000 per month going back 8 years as she was under the impression I was self employed and making a fortune.  Initially my lawyer thought I was screwed but one of the perks of my job was cash in hand.  A quick look through my finances showed I was barely reaching the minimum wage and should have been claiming tax benefits which would have limited my maintainance payments to a token £5 per week.  

She then claimed to be too sick to work and got a doctors letter for fibromyalgia which is extremely difficult to diagnose. You name it she tried everything to screw me and like I said earlier it was like a switch went in her head, from laughing and joking, going out for the odd meal etc to trying to get every penny out of me. She even tried to get me arrested on trumped up charges which I found out later if they had stuck she was entitled to free legal aid in the divorce. Fortunately CCTV showed she was lying. 

What a drama, no wonder your living a quiet life on a beautiful island