Forum Support Old55 Posted May 26, 2011 Forum Support Posted May 26, 2011 My wife is a fantastic wife and mother to our children and I love her deeply. I am truly lucky to have her as my partner and wife. I have also learned it is a waste of time my trying to change or how she deals with the children. She uses the treat of withdrawing her love if they disobey. Or “The Robot” will come and get them if they act up. For the record my wife is very well educated intelligent and aware of psychology we have lived in the States for many years now. The two of us have had good conversations of taking responsibility to discipline or correct the children but Mr. Robot and “I won’t love you anymore” still seem to be a popular tool. Am I the only one here whose wife is old school to do with their children? :AddEmoticons04230: At worst I just roll my eyes but have learned to just keep my mouth closed. After all I don’t want the Robot to get me.:AddEmoticons04230: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ekimswish Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Haha.... Yeah, my wife's the exact same way, but tells them the Aswang is going to get them! She regularly tells them, "NO MORE MOMMY!" or "NO MORE DADDY!".... then gives them the silent treatment. The scary thing is that she says negative things to me, too, about these kids and how she doesn't care anymore and doesn't like having them. It's funny to see her panick then when they get hurt, just proving how much she really does love them (although them getting hurt isn't very funny). Me being a new father, I really struggled with how to discipline my oldest daughter. My parents spanked us, so I thought I'd do it, too, but spanking never worked on me and never worked on my daughter either. It just makes a bad situation worse usually. With my second daughter, the one time I spanked her lightly on the hand, she cried like the world ended and hugged me like there was no tomorrow. Needless to say I've discovered that remaining calm and putting them in the time-out chair and talking to them or giving them a countdown for sitting still works FAR MORE effectively than spanking, and is a million times healthier for our own relationship. Getting my wife on board with the time out chair hasn't worked out. She doesn't have the patience apparently. She finds it much easier to threaten them with, "NO MORE MOMMY!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papa Carl Posted May 27, 2011 Posted May 27, 2011 Haha.... Yeah, my wife's the exact same way, but tells them the Aswang is going to get them! She regularly tells them, "NO MORE MOMMY!" or "NO MORE DADDY!".... then gives them the silent treatment. The scary thing is that she says negative things to me, too, about these kids and how she doesn't care anymore and doesn't like having them. It's funny to see her panick then when they get hurt, just proving how much she really does love them (although them getting hurt isn't very funny). Me being a new father, I really struggled with how to discipline my oldest daughter. My parents spanked us, so I thought I'd do it, too, but spanking never worked on me and never worked on my daughter either. It just makes a bad situation worse usually. With my second daughter, the one time I spanked her lightly on the hand, she cried like the world ended and hugged me like there was no tomorrow. Needless to say I've discovered that remaining calm and putting them in the time-out chair and talking to them or giving them a countdown for sitting still works FAR MORE effectively than spanking, and is a million times healthier for our own relationship. Getting my wife on board with the time out chair hasn't worked out. She doesn't have the patience apparently. She finds it much easier to threaten them with, "NO MORE MOMMY!" Love this post!!! I have been thinking about posting something similar and along the same lines for a few weeks now. Although my daughter is not old enough yet for disciplining etc. as she has no understanding really. However with the other members of the family who frequently leave their children with us, especially when they are ill, or I think sometimes simply to fatten them up! Ha ha. At any rate we don't have "a time out chair" but we do have "a time out bottom step going to the second floor" and that works just fine! When they are bad, that is where they are sent, no one is allowed to talk to them and they are ignored, until they say they are sorry and mean it!There is one curious thing, even though these little ones truly seem to enjoy our company and are not in any way afraid of me, in deed they seem to really enjoy being around me. I do hear frequently, while Ellie and other members of the family are talking to these little peeps in Tagalog, my name mentioned frequently!!! Blah blah blah Papa Carl this, and Blah Blah Blah Papa Carl that. That is when I get these looks from the little peeps, they then are quiet and do as they are instructed. So It would appear, at least in our house.... I am Mr Robot or Aswang!!!! or Bad Man, or what ever, but it does not appear to make them afraid of me, which I am thankful for!!! (maybe because I usually wink and give them a smile, when they check to see if I am watching them at the time)I must say though, I am not sure I like being used as a threat for their bad or wrong behaviour!!!Oh well, so far it has worked, and I too am learning to sit back, take a deep breath and relax this time around!!!Papa Carl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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